2006-09-20 07:26:34 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes and no.
I was with my boyfriend for 4 years before he proposed to me. But I think he's the exception rather than the rule.
If a committment is something you can't continue without, give him the ultimatum but be prepared to leave.
2006-09-20 07:29:49 · answer #1 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think I already told you that you should not talk about getting married to him. Obviously he is not ready. You might want to ask him where the relationship is going after 5 yrs? wait did you say you are not committed? the ring is not going to prove your commitment. does he love you? does he talk about being with you in the future..i mean if there is nothing of that sort of talk then you might want to think again dear...yes you might be wasting your time. Maybe you both are too young?
You say you are insecure? r you insecure cause you have wasted 5 yrs or basically a insecure person? if you are an insecure person then you should get out of this relationship and start having some self esteem.
2006-09-20 07:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If in five years your bf hasn't decided if he wants to commit to you or not, then chances are he never will. He's comfortable with the situation that he doesn't need to commit to you. I think you should have a talk with him about where he thinks your relationship is going, and if you don't like the answer, move on. You'll just keep wasting more time if you stay.
2006-09-20 07:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my fiancee on and off for 15 years.....The only thing you really need to worry about is if he is talking about seeing other people......Do you live with him?????? If you do I think you are pretty safe in the relationship area because we have lived together for 7 out of that 15 years.....Ask yourself if you think you can spend the rest of your life with him and ask him the same thing about you if he can see you two together for the rest of yur lives......But I just want to let you know if you really love him you are not wasting your time but if you are just with him for the sex then you are wasting your time if you have any other questions feel free to contact me and I will help you the best that I can......
2006-09-20 07:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by butterfly32976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you get nothing out of the relationship and it doesn't make you happy, then it's a waste of time. Five years is an awfully long time to be with someone that isn't committed, then again he did stay with you for 5 years....
2006-09-20 07:29:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we talk about the future and marriage but neither of us are in a big rush to the alter. If you are wanting to get married just ask. If you have been with him for 5 years he will tell you straight up his thoughts and feelings. You don't need a piece of paper or a diamond ring to be committed. Tons of people have those and aren't as committed as we are with each other. Just talk to him!
2006-09-20 07:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by tdc01slm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am I brain damaged? Five years? JUST FIVE YEARS? My wife and I were together nearly ten years before we tied the knot, and I was the one who wouldn't commit or so I thought. What's the big hurry? Used to be that women refused to commit, or even "needed to find themselves" after the relationship was under way. You both need to adress your respective issues, and it may take one of you a little longer to resolve them, before the relationship can continue or fail. Then, maybe I'm just a little old fashioned (51 yrs), and I'm completely off base
2006-09-20 10:55:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After five years there is one thing for certain. He is not ready to "seal the deal", at least not with you. Then again, maybe he thinks since you haven't said anything that you are interested. Maybe its time (okay, it's waaayy past time) to sit him down and see if he can tell you where he sees your relationship going. If you're not both going in the same direction it's time to move on.
2006-09-20 08:30:07 · answer #8 · answered by mvngs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 years is nothing compared to a life time, I dated my husband for 7 yrs, we lived together 2 yrs and we've been married 18 yrs.
The only time your wasting is not trying to find security within yourself.
2006-09-20 07:54:07 · answer #9 · answered by Rainy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. If you didn't get an engagement ring after 6 months of dating, you should've seen the big red flag. Guys commit right away when you're the one - otherwise they just keep you around for someone to spend time with until the right gal enters their lives, then you get dumped. Get out now before you get pushed out.
2006-09-20 07:32:19 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋