Well, I'm being my typical fretful self again.... I feel like the poster child for the "bottomless pit" personality. This really only applies to my sweet husband. If he is acting normal I am a completely competent and confident person. If he is acting weird... which to me is tired, stressed, or disinterested... and he is not acting loving to me, I totally spaz and wonder what in the world is wrong with me. I wish I could feel comfortable enough in my own skin not to feel like I needed constant affirmation from him. It is really frustrating and sad. I know in my mind that I am a creation of God, so I have to be special and wonderful in and of myself, but it is really hard to put it into practice. I guess when things don't feel 'right' you just go back to what is primal to you and feeling this way is that for me. I really do want to change it so that my life doesn't spin out of control with 'his' every emotion. How do I keep from catastrophizing everything?
2006-09-20 07:25:40 · 7 answers · asked by happylittlemom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get therapy. Make sure to discuss behavior modification techniques with the therapist.
2006-09-20 07:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read this book that seem to help me with that. Don't sweat the small stuff. I can't remember the author. It really put things into prospective for me. You have to remember when your husband is acting what you call weird, that he may just be tired, overworked, stressed or needing something from you. Talk to him without sounding needy. Let him know that you hate when he feels the way he does and that you are always there for him.
2006-09-20 14:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by heaven o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know... Have you tried talking to a therapist? Maybe getting some insights from good self-help books? I agree, it really does help to believe that you are worthy with or without other people's affirmation and approval. I bet it will also be attractive to your husband if you feel more independent.
2006-09-20 14:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are basing your every happiness, your every emotion on him and whatever he's feeling -- you need to find a way to stop doing that. You should be able to be happy for no reason, and it shouldn't depend on anybody else.
2006-09-20 14:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find happiness within yourself-another person can not be responsible for your happiness-
2006-09-20 14:30:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a Hobby !!
2006-09-20 14:28:22 · answer #6 · answered by six7foru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you are a sad person
2006-09-20 14:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by gary_george48 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋