We have been together for 5 months and are living together. He says she is a good friend and that they just slept together once but didnt take it to a relationship. The last time they spoke he called her from the airport before my plane landed and spoke for 1/2 hour (until my plane landed) (yes i checked his phone) When i told him it upset me he said not to give him an ultimatum (i hadnt yet) that if I told him to stop talking to her then we'd break up. He says "its not about her its about trust issues that I have that will not end with just that one girl." Is this him bull shiiting or is he right? Seems wrong though, regardless of the reason, that he would end our relationship just to talk to some girl. (by the way she is in the middle of a divorce!) He has asked me to meet her so it cant be bad right? Also, she IM'd him and he told her me and him were back together and she said "thats cool" nothing bad at all. She def didnt know I was watching him write. He is a really nice guy
2006-09-20 07:24:54 · 8 answers · asked by zoey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you can't trust him, you need to find out now, before commiting to a lifetime of misery, and damaging some kids that are not born yet.
2006-09-20 07:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be a nice guy, but he needs to make up his mind, what he wants. And for him to tell you not to give him an ultimatum, you must be kidding, don"t you see where his head is at? go and find a friend first, who will want only you, to talk to, like he does to her, but who only wants to have you as his special friend. Stop wasting your time, on him, for your sake I hope that you can find the strength to leave, and get some peace of mind.
2006-09-20 07:36:26 · answer #2 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiancee talk to his ex for over 3 years and I had to threaten to ruin her life before she left us alone...(she has a bf of her own)...If he really loves you he will quit talking to her mine did after I quit nagging at him about talking to her...I know it will be hard but try it and see if he quits talking to her and if he does not I am sorry to say honey 9 times outta 10 there is something going on between the 2 of them
2006-09-20 07:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly32976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him being at the airport picking you up was the best opportunity to let his ex know about you. You're living together and he's still having conversations with her and he still hasn't told her? Sounds like he's bullshitting. Tell him to tell and don't wait for you to tell her.
2006-09-20 07:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did he forget or not? a guy who's willing to break up right then & there w/o discussing things first just because u got upset isn't exactly a prize. seems like both of u have issues.
2006-09-20 07:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think your boyfriend should obviously understand how upset this is making you feel and either no longer talk to the other woman, or go and meet the woman and ask her in private what her story is, and if your still not happy with that tell your boyfriend that he should love you enough to not talk to her, as its making you upset and you dont think it is helping your relationship
2006-09-20 07:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by navy guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that he forgot to tell his ex, he neglected to tell her. So therefore he is wrong for not telling her but it's no real BIG reason to get upset over because it's his ex she is old news forget about her and just stick to your man and please him and your relationship will be fine.
2006-09-20 07:32:08 · answer #7 · answered by ~DANiELLE~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he cant be that nice if he talks to his ex,,
2006-09-20 07:27:20 · answer #8 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋