Me and a guy who I CONSIDERED a friend. Were having a discussion about men and women. He stated to me "men and women can't be friends". We have know each other about 8 years and very close. We can talk about anything. I said "well we're friends, aren't we?" and he said he talks to me all the time, and visits me, and do things for me in hopes to have sex with me one day. LOL for 8 YEARS!!!. Is he living in reality? Are men really planning their whole exitence on the posibilities of sex? Is this your driving force in life?
2006-09-20 07:03:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I'm friends with quite a few guys. Some tell me the same thing and some say it may have crossed their minds but the friendship means more.
LOL LOL BUT 8 YEARS!!!
2006-09-20 07:12:25 · update #1
I'm afraid that is true about me too. I had a close female friend for years and I felt like I wanted to have sex with her whenever I was around her! A lot of men think about sex every few seconds. It does drive us.
Having said that we got along very well so what's the problem. I wasn't going to pounce on her anytime. I cared about her as a friend. I just found myself masturbating alot after spending time with her. I expect your friend does that too!
2006-09-20 07:11:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he's pretty normal...but not...8 years? That is a long time to wait around hoping to have sex.
I have had numerous female friends, and yes, the thought of having sex had crossed my mind, but just because a bird flies over the house doesn't mean you have to let it build a nest in your chimney!
Most of us men, I would like to think, can handle their own thoughts where we can just let these natural thoughts pass.
Especially when it can make the friendship too awkward to continue on its previous course (which is what I had treasured).
If we get the signal from our otherwise dear "friend" that THEY want it to be more than friendship, we can change gears with no problems usually (provided there is the attraction-there isn't always). Otherwise, I would not have risked the friendship.
2006-09-20 16:17:40 · answer #2 · answered by Y K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! He has been your "friend" for eight whole years and never said how he feels?! What he said must have shocked you! Of course men and women can be friends as not all women fancy all men and vice versa. This guy is the exception i think. He isnt living in what most people would call a "normal" reality. Not all men are like this. Ask some other male friends of yours what they think too. Get more guys perspectives on this maybe.
2006-09-20 14:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in many male/female friendships there is an underlying sexual tension. However, just because there may be an awareness that you COULD have sex doesn't mean that that awareness has to lead to actually having sex. Men and women can still have true, caring friendships and not sleep together. It sounds like your friend doesn't really respect you if he's just been spending time with you simply hoping to have sex, not just enjoying your company. Sorry, but he sounds kind of like a jerk (or he may just not understand his own feelings).
2006-09-20 14:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by Vlad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what evolution intended. But honestly, if he really just enjoyed your company, then yeah, he could 'be your friend'. It's a little different between men and women than it is between 2 women or 2 men, because, there arent many (if any) guys who would actually Turn down sex with a woman they thought attractive, but not all of have such a singular focus as your 'friend'.
2006-09-20 14:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by douglas w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman so I can't be sure. I work with 10 men who basically have all told me that same thing. Sex is never very far from their mind.
2006-09-20 14:09:14 · answer #6 · answered by green eyed lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually in a relationship like this one or the other is interested in the other as more than friends. It can even switch around over the years.
2006-09-20 14:06:52 · answer #7 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All men are like that...well not all, he is a good one because he has waited 8 years for you...most of them wouldn't lose their time.
The difference is that he don't just want to have sex but probably he loves you
2006-09-20 14:10:10 · answer #8 · answered by fireangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He, as your friend, is being truthful with you. He really likes you. You two could possibly have a happy marriage.
YES. All men hope for sex.
2006-09-20 14:05:53 · answer #9 · answered by a_delphic_oracle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although sex is a major driving force for men, so is being right.
I think he probably just said it because he would've otherwise had to admit his theory was wrong.
2006-09-20 14:07:07 · answer #10 · answered by BettyBoop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋