plz i need ur advice i am getting married?
I am getting married soon, its an arranged marriage.. i want to be a most loving wife.. what all are the good qualities of a good wife? how to show that i love him and his family members? what all i have to do and wht i shouldnt do? can u describe something.. about life after marriage
I dont need answers like Dont marry and all, i just need advice from good couples how to live, how to behave , how to understand my man, divoriced guys and singles plz excuse, those who do not know to answer plz leave rather leaving worse answers...i need answers from couples, lovers...
2006-09-20 06:39:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
1) respect each other
2) be patient with each other
3) do not have prejudices against each other
4) listen to each other
5) try to to understand each other
6) do not insult, make fun of him in front of his/your friends
7) do not fight at the presence of other people
8) do not let him run over you, if you do he will lose his respect for you
9) learn how to cook
10) do not be messy in the house
11) take care of yourself well, try to look good
12) do not start an argument when he is tired
good luck, be happy
2006-09-20 06:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shaving is a good idea but do it 1-2 nights earlier else U'll be pretty uncomfortable on your 1st night. Dress - wear a full night gown, semi transparent if possible, with your undergarments on. Wear something sexy like a black or white lacy inner wear set. That will give him more arousal. Reg opening up or acting new - go with the flow. I mean let him start and U follow. Do some sensual talk before just starting. Ask him his imagination of a first night (all men have) and that will show U the way. Don't ask to suck till he asks U to and pretend to be a bit shy in this and do it slow. It will give him more pleasure. Ask him to wash it before s___g. Most Imp - stop watching **** movies. This is not the way a husband & wife make love. Making love should be a blissful thing and not just physical. Feel the ecstasy while doing it, and an orgasm is for sure which will make him go mad, just by experiencing it along with U. Later on on your honeymoon, try different positions from the Kama Sutra & engage in prolonged love making. That time U can take control, he'll love it.
2016-03-26 23:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to each other, respect each other etc etc
The first few years after marriage are normally the hardest but I've never known anyone to have an arranged marriage before, have you even met this man? If not then the first year or two might be the easiest years as you still have to get to know each other!
Oh and please dont be a door mat, from your question you sound like you will bend over backwards to make this man happy, which can be a good thing just make sure he will do the same for you!!!!
Best of luck
2006-09-20 06:51:59 · answer #3 · answered by Claire O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I'm not a fan of arranged marriages, but it must be in your culture. I have a love marriage, and I think it must be easier than an arranged marriage, but let me answer your question this way:
Marriage is a union. You may end up becoming a very unhappy woman if you focus on being a "good wife". Instead the focus should be on BOTH of you putting an equal amount of attention, effort, love and kindness into the marriage. If you are equals, he will be supportive and loving to you, and will help you to reach your own personal goals. From your question I'm sure you will also be supportive and loving to him. But mind, it can't be a one-way street.
I hope that answers part of your question. Of course there is quite a lot to say about how to be happily married, but from the way your question was posed, I thought it might be helpful to you to provide a different perspective.
I hope that you have caring people around you who listen to you, listen to your needs and help you to find your own happiness. Best of luck.
2006-09-20 06:59:37 · answer #4 · answered by tish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going into an "arranged" marriage, and you are "willing" to go through with this? Well, get to know each other. Habits, ways, likes, dislikes. Respect each other as human beings. Know that what "he" likes, doesn't mean "you" have to like also, and vice versa. Love isn't something that happens "because" you get married. And truthfully, love is something that grows with time. But two things that will always help you is, truth and communication. A loving marriage is like a rose bush, the more you nurture it and respect it's beauty, the more beautiful it becomes with time. Good luck to you both.
2006-09-20 07:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has helped me is to be very affectionate with my husband. I've been married 8 years and people say we still act like newlyweds. We hold hands and I hug him and play around a lot. We also talk a lot. Communicate and become his best friend. I tell him everything and he does the same with me but I don't snoop around he opens up to me on his own. Keep the love alive in your marriage and let him know that the family is your priority. Also do your own things for you don't let yourself go. Always find ways to improve yourself and your life. Best wishes!
2006-09-20 06:51:07 · answer #6 · answered by honey27 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yikes!
Well- I think the most important thing is to listen to eachother and be honest and open with eachother. My DH and I always spend about 1/2 hr when we go to bed each night just talking- about the day or whatever. It helps to connect like that with no interruptions. Alittle of "us" time. Hopefully he will be trying to make the marriage work as well- not knowing the full situation it is hard to give advise. My husband respects me and participates in making our marriage work. Hopefully yours will too.
Good luck!
2006-09-20 06:54:44 · answer #7 · answered by bsmommy2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey I don't know how happy anyone can be in an arranged marriage but.. Communication is the number one key to a happy marriage. 1 cup consideration
1 cup courtesy
2 cupfuls flattery carefully concealed
2 cupfuls milk of human kindness
1 gallon faith and trust in each other
2 cupfuls praise
1 reasonable budget; a generous dash of cooperation
3 teaspoons pure extract of "I'm sorry"
1 cup of contentment
1 cup each of confidence and encouragement
1 large or several small hobbies
1 cup of blindness to the other's faults
"Flavor with frequent portions of recreation and a dash of happy memories. Stir well and remove any specks of jealousy, temper or criticism. Sweeten well with generous portions of love and keep warm with a steady flame of devotion. Never serve with cold shoulder or hot tongue."
I wish you Luck..
2006-09-20 07:01:08 · answer #8 · answered by Tracy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard to tell you what you HAVE to do. But marrage is a beautiful thing. I do not know how aranged marrages work. But just keep your husband happy. This means you also have to be happy. Men are very easy to keep happy. Don't be nervous Just enjoy your life. good luck and congrdulations
http://marriage.about.com/
2006-09-20 06:52:08 · answer #9 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once read an article in a woman's magazine that said, "Have sex with your man every single day of your life and you will never have an ounce of trouble with him." I agree with this totally.
2006-09-20 06:51:42 · answer #10 · answered by Sciencenut 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋