i am 24 living with a lad whose 29 he has 2 kids with aprevious partner and my mum doesnt like that,she thinks i should get back with my ex of 11 years,she says i dont respect her as i avnt got back with my ex she said we wouldnt get on as we use 2 if i stay with him and i dont respect her as ive picked him. what should i do mum or boyfriend ?
2006-09-20 06:36:14 · 16 answers · asked by kell s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oooh tough one. Without knowing the fulls ins and outs of this 29 year old, can anyone judge and help you really, but if you are happy then your mum should appreciate that. if it does end up in tears, then so what, at least you tried !
2006-09-20 06:50:26 · answer #1 · answered by jayne 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey you say you are 24 not 12. If this guy with 2 kids treats u right and the two of you get along,good. Are u ready to have a pre-made family ? You say you were with your ex 11 years ? that means you were 13 when u met him. Did your mom pick him for you. If so your mom's head needs to be examined.My son is 25 and I tell him he needs to be around other adults his age,no pre-made family until he is actually mature enough not even for him to have babies yet but that's mom talking.Think seriously about what you really want? Are you ready to be a step mom ? Tell your mom how much you love her and that it has to be your decision,not hersmIt is not right for her to try controlling you like that and you and her need to have a serious talk. If you donot tell her now she will always be that way.Wait till you are 30 and see.
2006-09-20 06:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by copperfish310 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well seeing that you are 24 your mum shouldn't have much sway over your actions any more. As to the question of stay with the new guy or the old guy ? Always go forward the past never corrects it self. Your mind will always remember the way things were but it will never be the same again because both of you have changed since then. Stay with the new guy and tell mum she needs to let go off the past. Hope this helps.
2006-09-20 06:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by Chivalry77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the problem with parents is that they will never accept anyone your with because thats just the way it is. first of all you shouldnt have to choose between your mum or your boyfriend becasue that is unfair just tell your mother that he makes you really happy and that your old enough to make your own mistakes but that you still appriciate her opinions but thats all it is her OPINIONS!! you can value them but at the end of the day its your life and you need to do whats right for YOU!! iam 19 and currently seeing someone who has a child with another girl and there problems but if you two love and respect eachother it CAN work out its a case of comprmising and trusting eachother which at times can be difficult but all relationships have problems so GOOD LUCK and enjoy your relationship
2006-09-20 06:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by BabyPinkRocks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriend all the way. Dont let her treat you like that. Theres no way she should say that you dont respect her. Actually its none of her business who you date. If she likes your ex so much tell her to date him! She's the one who doesnt have respect for you. Good luck, and its your life at the end of the day, you live it how you want to.
2006-09-20 06:42:27 · answer #5 · answered by jessie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is your ex for a reason right? If your mom likes him so much she should date him. If this is about respect, it's about your mother not respecting your right to chose who you want to be with. Even though your ex has the "Mom Stamp of Approval", it doesn't mean that you are in love or will fall in love with him. She needs to respect your right to choose.
2006-09-20 06:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you cannot live your life according to your mothers wishes, there must be reasons why you split up with your kids father, and if you and the kids are happy and well treated in this new relationship then, stick with it.. at 24 you cannot let your mother emotionally blackmail you.. just let her know you love her, but you also have made a choice to which you are sticking with.. am sure she will come round..
2006-09-20 06:45:14 · answer #7 · answered by dianafpacker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is your mom, no matter what. You will not be disrespecting her for making your own decisions. If she likes your X so much then I suggest she have the relationship with him. If you are happy where you are and sharing your life as well with his children, stay right where you are. your mom will come around eventually.
2006-09-20 06:43:53 · answer #8 · answered by Tammy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother told me on my wedding day not to marry my wife.
23 years later with 3 teenage kids we are still married and going strong.
Trust your heart good luck.
2006-09-20 06:40:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 08:22:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋