I am in a dead end relationship with my boyfriend with whom I live with. We both know we're not in love anymore, but we keep trying to rekindle the romance that just isn't there. I really can't afford to live on my own and he reminds me of this constantly. He makes really good money and has gotten me used to the finer things in life. But, I know I am not happy here and either is my daughter (from a previous relationship). Do we save up and try to find a place of our own and start over or keep trying to fix this relationship? Please no smart aleck answers, I really need advice on this. It is a big life changing decision. Thanks!
2006-09-20 06:34:27 · 9 answers · asked by evilcharm1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm a guy and maybe I should just shut-up but I think I'll chime in anyway.
If your relationship is really dead, it's like kicking a dead horse. No matter how hard or how often you kick it, it isn't going to go anywhere.
You say: "I really can't afford to live on my own and he reminds me of this constantly." With these constant reminders of how inadequate you are, can you "really afford" to stay there?
A roommate is a thought, back home for a while may be an option, ultra cheap small place, perhaps some public assistance or maybe some child support from your daughter's dad. But when all is said and done, a dead relationship is probably best put behind you.
Good luck on what ever you decide, I can't imagine it being easy.
2006-09-20 07:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say get out as soon as you can cause its not just about you...you have your daughter's welfare to think about as well. Do you have a good relationship with your parents? If so, I'd move in with them for a couple of months just until you can save a bit up to go on your own. Also, do you have any single friends willing to be your roommate?
The problem is that a young mind is very moldable and do you really want to teach your daughter at such a young age that THIS is what relationships are supposed to be like? You'd be dooming her to the same situations for the rest of her life...
2006-09-20 06:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you if it were me I would start spending less, save up and move out. If he kept throwing this up in my face I would show him. Get a secret spot ot stash money (his) and keep stashing it (a $20 hear a $50 there). In the mean time save up your money until you get enough to move and get the things you need. Before you go get the stash of $ and have it as a cushion for hard times.
2006-09-20 06:48:32 · answer #3 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definaly save up and move out! Dont give him the chance to kick you guys out! he sounds like an asshole because he keeps reminding you that you cant afford to live on your own. As far as trying to make it work.....it sdead. Move on
2006-09-20 06:46:36 · answer #4 · answered by JonnaMamma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, keep looking for somewhere else to stay. if you're not happy, then do something about it. don't give up or settle for an unhappy life. he's just playing head game with you. but find a way, give up some of the comfort. rent a room if you have too. keep looking, find what makes you happy.
2006-09-20 06:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could consider couples couseling. However if the relationship is really dead, I would save up and move out.
2006-09-20 06:37:12 · answer #6 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how did could u hav allowed yourself to be so dependant on him that you cant provide for yourself when he's gone, i suggest you get a job and save up until you are able to move out and find a good place for yourself
2006-09-20 06:55:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would save up and move out as soon as possible.
Maybe you have a friend who needs a roomate?
2006-09-20 06:46:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save as much as you can as quick as you can and move.
2006-09-20 06:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋