I have recently let my boyfriend move in with me and now I'm not so sure it's a good idea. He, however is head over heels talking about marriage and such. How is the best way to let him down without too much drama or blame? No one is at fault, but I'm not gonna live a lie....
2006-09-20 06:18:00 · 15 answers · asked by raindrops 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Simply say:
"Yea...Baby....this is NOT going to work. Your cool and everything but ummmm.....you gotta go."
2006-09-20 06:21:13 · answer #1 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sat down beside my (now ex) man and said that my feelings had changed for him. I started crying and telling him how I was sorry that this had to happen. He got up and left while I packed. Now I'm back home and in a wonderful relationship with a guy I dated 4 years ago!! The worst thing to do is to live a lie. You'll never be happy and when you wait til after your married, it will make things a lot more harder
2006-09-20 06:30:28 · answer #2 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old "honesty is the best policy" should work. Let him know that you still care for him, but just don't think you are ready for this type of relationship. If he can't handle it and blows up then you made the right decision in the first place. If he is cool, then something may evolve down the line.
2006-09-20 06:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by Traveler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how you'll get there, but please be as honest as you can with yourself and him. In the long run if you let it get to that point, (marriage, ect) you will cause so much more hurt and problems than if you'd just been honest in the beginning. You also waste precious time in your life and his. You never know what tomorrow will bring, so try to live like todays your last. :-) Good luck~
2006-09-20 06:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by yareyouhiding 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. He may get offended. I know what you mean. My boyfriend just moved in one day. Brought all his stuff over and didn't even ask. I just looked at him and said ... " Give me some time to process this "... It didn't work but we are still together. Tell him you need some more time. You don't want to rush it and ruin it! Tell him you still love him and want to be with him you think you just rushed into it!
Good luck
2006-09-20 06:22:49 · answer #5 · answered by Pimp E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him by letting him know you are suddenly out of your comfort zone of having him live with you. You are feeling the pressure now of marriage, etc and it is making you nervous. No one is to really blame here, he is in love with you and you are not ready. it's not like you are dumping him right?
2006-09-20 06:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by Tammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. Tell him the pace is too fast and you're no comfortable with it. That you thought you would try this out but it's not working for ya.
Best of luck.
2006-09-20 06:26:51 · answer #7 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him you are just not ready for that kind of commitment at this time. If you still care for him I would continue to see him but ask him to move to his own place.
2006-09-20 06:27:43 · answer #8 · answered by miataman042 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No easy way out of this one. There's no way around his heart breaking. I know, not what you wanted to hear. Be completely honest, and as kind and compassionate as you can. And do not drag it out, that's just mean. Live and learn.
2006-09-20 06:23:29 · answer #9 · answered by Amy P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start off with the statement its not you, its me, then tell him the truth.
Or tell him you think your a lesbian, maybe that would work
2006-09-20 06:21:56 · answer #10 · answered by majesticwife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋