my mom has never really been a good mom. Me & my older sister dont live at home but we try to get along w/ her so she doesnt take her anger out on my little bro & sister (ages 11&13) Since I've been preg she's been trying to be nice but I dont care cuz all I really want from her is to treat my bro & sis which she doesn't do. She verbally & mentally abuse them, let them live in dirty filth, doesnt feed them, locks herself up in her room & smokes pot. Me & my older sister even have to buy them their school clothes cuz my mom could care less if it's 40 degrees & they dont have a jacket to wear. Well she wants to be in the delivery room & I dont know what to say. Only 2 people are allowed so I have to decide between the father of my baby, my mom (who assumed she was invited) & my sister who has helped me alot through out my pregnancy..what do I do? Keep in mind she's emotionally unstable & finds a way to BLAME everything on her kids :-(
2006-09-20 06:02:11 · 16 answers · asked by Maria 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Wanna hear something kinda weird? She works at the best University in southern CA, goes to work in business suits ... and no one has the slightest idea that she comes home and acts like trailer trash and treats her kids like crap.
2006-09-20 06:04:39 · update #1
help your brother and sister i know you love them but they are important they are at a very bad age where everything reflects on them as far as your mom goes who is more important to you your siblings or her? this is a personal choice i think your best bet is to give your sister the other position in being there she supported you through it now give her the "thank you" by letting her be there
2006-09-20 06:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by Kristi S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby's father should definitely get the number one spot and then put your sister in the other spot. If your mom doesn't already know about the hospital policy of only 2 people, pretend you don't know either. Then when its time, be sure your sister and your baby's dad make it there before your mom and let the hospital staff know. If you don't want her there, you can be polite about it, but the staff doesn't have to be. They are there to protect you and make you comfortable. If they know she will make you uncomfortable or stressed out, they won't let her in.
2006-09-20 13:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by missionhtg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't sound like your mom has been there for you very much so I would definitely have the father of the baby and your sister - your sister has been there for you and the father should definitely get to be there for the birth of his own child. Simply explain to your mother that she hasn't been there to support you and you only want supportive people there when you deliver your child. Do you think she's going to be at all supportive of this grandchild of hers? Chances are she's not - if she can't deal with it then oh well.
2006-09-20 13:12:52 · answer #3 · answered by Angelina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered removing you siblings out of the house? for their own welfare, i would check into it. they need stability in their life, and it sounds like she is not doing a very good job at it.
As far as the delivery room, only have those people with you that will help maintain focus. my mom was in the room with my sister, and wasnt wanted, it has been quite the ordeal as my sister harbors negative feelings about it. (my sis was 17 wehn she had the baby)
2006-09-20 14:24:02 · answer #4 · answered by back2good1225 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your mom hasn't been there for you if i was you i would let baby daddy and sister in there because they more likly are going to give you the most support you can get. Your brother and sister issue i would remove them from the home because they are going to grow up thinking what she is doing to them is ok and if they have kids they are more likley going to treat thier kids the way your mom treats them. Don't leave them to live like that and be alone take them and raise them how they deserve to be raised
2006-09-20 14:15:49 · answer #5 · answered by lovergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exlain to your mom that the baby's father has the right to be in the room and that you want your sister there because she has been such a big help to you. You should tell DCF about the situation that your brother and sister are living in. It's odviouse that your mother doesn't want to parent and is choosing her drugs over her kids.
2006-09-20 13:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by twopastmidnight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with whoever you are most comfortable with to be in the delivery room no matter whos feelings get hurt. If you have so much negativity against your mom then I would let her know that you are not comfortable with having her in the room and that you will let her come in as soon as the baby is out.
2006-09-20 13:05:26 · answer #7 · answered by I love Elaina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell her im sorry but im having my sister and my babies father in there if she cant understand that not your fault u are gr8 for supporting your little bro and sis keep up the good work your mom just needs to grow up and realize life DOES NOT revolve around her and what she wants i know i have a mom that did the same thing to us and she let her bfs rape us but i turned out just fine i think lol
2006-09-20 13:08:52 · answer #8 · answered by lita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very sad story, some people are just not fit to be parents. Tell her that you are honored that she wants to be during the delivery but that your sister have been promised spot before she asked and father of the child has a right to be.
2006-09-20 13:09:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to get your siblings out of that house like now. If you don't and they stay there then they will more than likely turn out just like your mom. I would say get the kids out and put her out of your life! Give her a chance to change after you get those kids out and if she does then I would stay in touch but yeah let her know about the chance b/c she might realize how bad things are after she's all alone. Please get those kids out of that house and away from your mom. The kids are getting hurt more and more just by living there.
2006-09-20 13:13:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋