How has that affected you? Do people in your family or other people harrass you? My bf and I don't think we want children when we get married. I just wanted to know how your life is without them and if you feel you've made the right choice?
2006-09-20 05:53:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
To Kati. I think it's more selfish to have kids because others want you to, and not even want them. You're just having kids to make yourself look better for others. It's my life, my decision. Why bring a child into the world that I don't want.
2006-09-20 05:59:08 · update #1
I'm with you, chick. I am constantly harrassed by my family regarding when my boyfriend and I will have children. I think some people just don't want to be parents and that's fine.
2006-09-20 05:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by mutterhals 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I decided not to have children. We've been married for over 20 years, and I imagine we will stay married for the rest of our lives. When you think about the enormous responsibility and costs (emotional and financial) of having children, it should not come as a surprise to tell you that we have enjoyed a wonderful level of freedom and growth, one that is all but impossible if you have children. This is not to say that raising a child or children isn't a rewarding and growing experience. I'm sure it is. But it is not the only way a couple can spend their life together. We definitely have made the right choice in what works for us.
2006-09-20 13:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm only 24, still young enough to change my mind, but I don't want children. My parents support my decision and say that they honestly hope I don't have children because it's a difficult life-long commitment. If I decide that I do eventually want kids, I'd like to adopt because the world is overcrowded as it is; I don't want to contribute to that. My boyfriend also does not want children. His mom might start complaining a few years after we get married, but we aren't having a kid just to appease her. My best friend says I'm selfish for not having children, but I think I'd be selfish if I did. I wouldn't want children just to make other people happy. If you don't want kids, don't allow yourself to get talked into it. You'd probably resent those people or your children eventually.
2006-09-20 12:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband and I didn't want children either. He had a vasectomy 6 months before we were married- fast forward 10 years- we paid THOUSANDS of dollars to have it reversed and we now have a 3 yr old little girl....
Family never really harassed us after the vasectomy because there wasn't anything besides surgery that we could do but acquaintances would bring it up a lot!!
Just don't do anything permanent because reversals don't always work- we were very lucky.
Edited to add- Question to the poster who said it was stupid and selfish not having kids....How so????? That's a stupid thing to say. What's stupid and selfish is having them because somebody else wants them to and not because they want to.
2006-09-20 12:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by Alison 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bless you for taking a stand to make your own choice!
Don't ever let anyone tell you to take on a responsibility that will cost you more money, take away your sleep time, give you extra weight, prevent you from going overseas when you want or from living your life the way you want.
It is your decision, not anyone else's, to make.
Should you change your mind years from now, adoption is the most noble gesture that you can take. Giving a homeless child....a home!
2006-09-20 13:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by joe_on_drums 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I decided to not have children and never get married simply because of where this world is, and what it's going to be in the coming years. Some of my family members give me crap for it, but it's my choice.
2006-09-20 12:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by youdontneedtoknowme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is choosing to adopt an option?
I don't have any kids and I don't really want any, for the fear that the little runt will turn out to be just like me. Plus, with my sexual orientation as a factor, I don't think I can HAVE kids...
2006-09-20 12:56:42 · answer #7 · answered by JD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who does not ever want children...her and her hubby like having their own life without them...they enjoy our children and have a great time with them, they just never wanted any of their own...and it not because they are selfish or anything like that she just doesnt want any...to each his own I say.
2006-09-20 12:57:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm not married nor am i close to geting married...but i made the counscious decision not to have kids because i dont want any, i dont see myself taking care of them...but if i do one any, i wat to adopt because my reasoning is why do i have to add to the population while there are kids out there who would want a family to love them? my family is against this and think i'm selfish and so on...but you know what my life, my decision
2006-09-20 12:56:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did both of you decide or did he? If you want them and he don't..then trick him into getting you pregnant..haha. Or if both of you dontwant them ...your minds will change
2006-09-20 12:57:02 · answer #10 · answered by ndn_202 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋