When a 15 year old boy knows how to manipulate his parents in getting what he wants all the time. How can you change someone like him who needs to be more grateful, appreciative and earn his way of getting what he wants?
2006-09-20 05:53:20 · 15 answers · asked by ladyinblue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't give him everything he wants.
2006-09-20 05:55:17 · answer #1 · answered by shyhonney 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take EVERYTHING away from him except 3 changes of clothes, which HE is responsible for washing. No door on his room, no dresser, and a mattress on the floor to sleep on. No stereo, TV, video games, etc. If he has too much and appreciates none of it, he loses the privilage of having it. When he shows a change of heart, he can slowly have things back one at a time. If the same attitude prevails again, then he loses it again. Work is expected, and things are not done "for" him anymore. In addition, drive him through the housing projects to see how other people live. Maybe he will consider appreciating all he has been given. All the teenagers will give this a thumbs down, but responsibility is key to success in life. He can learn it now or continue to expect that he is entitled to what the world has and will be a tremendous failure in life. You can still turn this around.
2006-09-20 13:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's up to his parents to do that. The only way it will change is to stop giving him everything he wants. Make him earn it with an allowance. Then he'll come to appreciate when it's his money how expensive things are. And to be grateful he has what he has. But until the parents step up to the plate it will never change. He'll be one of those people in adulthood that blames all of his problems on other people. Nothing will ever be his fault.
2006-09-20 12:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to put your foot down and say no!! He wants something he has to get a job! He is old enough to do odd jobs around the neighborhood. Mowing lawns, Shovleing side walks and stuff like that and he will learn to get his own stuff with out having to manipulate you for what he wants! Teach him the value of money and what can happen if you have no money!! No phone, No electricity, No food, no home or car to live in!! Nip it now or else he will only get worse!! Good Luck to you!!
2006-09-20 13:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by kolowski4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents/teachers/family needs to stop solving the childs problems for them and allow them to make mistakes that are non-lethal and learn from them.
I think some parents consider themselves bad parents if they say no and kids pick up on that quickly and will drill it home if necessary.
I also think some parents find it easier to give in then to work with the kids.
My impressions...
-Rob
2006-09-20 13:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is the parents that need to change their way of dealing with the child.
2006-09-20 12:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can change the way you treat him. Make him earn your respect. Also, make non-intrusive comments on his behavior to his parents to show them how he is acting.
2006-09-20 12:56:54 · answer #7 · answered by someonefromsomewhere 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
simple really.... don not give in when he has a tantrum, stick by punishment, mean what you say and say what you mean... don't make empty threats or promises.. and tell him one simple rule and follow it and I guarantee he can't argue with it.... wanna know what it is?
Say this: " You can have the final word because my WORD is FINAL." and just walk away.. no discussion no arguing no compromise .... end of discussion and make it so....
and oh yes tell him when him is calm and respectful you will talk to him until that time go to your room or where he is not and shut your mouth until he is respectful!
2006-09-20 12:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by lisa n florida 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Cut his allowances and tell him that he has to do chores another to get it back because that's life. Every one has to pitch in.
2006-09-20 12:56:21 · answer #9 · answered by stamykati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discipline he is a tad to old for spankings but they are never to old to be grounded and made to mind
2006-09-20 12:56:20 · answer #10 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bring him to foreign country and let him live his life alone
2006-09-20 12:56:26 · answer #11 · answered by CH 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋