i have heard about things like true love and love at first sight.however the gals will always go for the money so is it really possible for a girl to prefer you over some man who has more money than you or can a woman overlook the money factor when falling in love.i really need an honest answer.
2006-09-20 05:41:58 · 69 answers · asked by niko 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Yes. Some days I feel like screaming from the roof tops that not all girls or women make decisions about their personal life based on wallets and bank balances. Personally I couldn't give a rat's ***...I'm not particularly materialistic and if I wanted to be I'm more than capable of earning money for myself.
Now tell me, are there any men who don't cheat and lie to get women into bed? Sweeping generalisations aren't so great after all huh?
2006-09-21 22:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by lauriekins 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I appreciate that money is a major factor in what attracts *some* people. Women through history were traditionally reliant on men for financial security and, unfortunately, we haven't yet lost all the practices, assumptions and culture that come from that. Latching onto a rich man can (understandably) be a shortcut to the good life if you're prepared to ignore/deny/not give a damn about inequality between women and men. Other women might simply be high-earning or rich themselves and only want a man who can keep up with them. These are just two possible scenarios.
As for me, I can honestly say that money is not one of the things that attracts me and, more to the point, I don't think that makes me particularly unusual. Basically, I initially pick a man because of sexual attraction (something that can ignite very quickly before I've had a chance to properly collect my thoughts about that person). How interesting or thoughtful he is and whether I think he's cute are examples of the sort of things that draw me in further.
I'd even go as far as to say that I think I'd actually find it off-putting and problematic if a person I liked (for the above reasons) was very rich and/or flash with their cash. I'd feel like I'd either
a) have to try and keep up with them (i.e overworking or overspending) or
b) let them take care of everything (which, again, I personally wouldn't feel comfortable with *at all*).
Of course, I'd like to think I wouldn't throw away something good just because I felt threatened by a person's "status" or money. However, freedom (even partial freedom) is so important to me that any ongoing inequality would probably be terminal for the relationship. I guess some might see such thinking as misguided and retort that money is the route to freedom but, IMO, neither over-work nor reliance on another person for money would give me the kind of freedom I really want.
2006-09-21 01:06:01 · answer #2 · answered by CJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The slogan here is no money no honey. Now if a woman truly loves you then, what is the problem of spending a little money. Don't get your answer mixed up with the prostitution ring. True love and money will follow the course needed. It do not matter how much a man has, long as he can fulfill the need and if not that's when women sometimes moves to the next level, of course that is just for some women.
2006-09-20 17:02:18 · answer #3 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the age of the two people involved in a relationship. If they are both young, money is not that important but it becomes more and more important as you get older. If you have a good education, a great personality and good prospects, the fact that you are not earning much at the moment shouldn't be an obstacle to finding true love. You've got to look promising. A lot of the brightest guys have beautiful wives whom they met before they have money. Some women are interested in money but there are also those who are interested in men who have talents and little money.
2006-09-20 12:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you find that certain person, you won't want anyone else. your hearts will become one with that person, and the feeling will be unmistakable. you could never have any feelings at all for the new man if you really loved the man in germany. that should tell you it obviously is not love. it’s friendship and maybe something more, but not love. there’s no way any intelligent person who cares about their life moves to another country to be with some man they just cheated on. you obviously love the new man more but probably are trying to destroy that due to your guilt with the first man. you shouldn’t feel any guilt though because you just did what was true to your heart in sleeping with the new man. however, that tells you for sure the first man is not for you so don’t do some ridiculous move like that out of some insane promise you made that should never be followed through on when you’ve got this new man available to you now and there’s about a hundred reasons why the first man needs to be told, let go, and you need to move forward with the new man. the least you should do is delay your moving for 6 months and let the relationship with the new man take its natural course. right now you are tainting that relationship and causing un-normal things to happen and creating negativity between you. that’s not right. i bet it works out beautifully with the new man if you give it an honest chance and you’ll be happy forever. with the first man, you’ve got no chance and that has already been proven as the others have said and if you ignore that then quite frankly you’re stupid. not only are you stupid but you are lying to yourself about your true feelings for the new man (and the tainted feelings which are not pure for the first man) and causing yourself pain for no reason. choose the new man. again, as someone else said, this one is pretty easy to figure out.
2016-03-17 23:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..it depends really you can't be too extreme-if you're saying a girl falls in love with A and then falls in love with B because B has more money then it's not real love,but if the girl fell in love with A and not B then it's real love,you're totally wrong honey!say if B had just a teeny weeny bit more money than A...if the girl still went for B after which she goes to A then that,t me and to you,would be true love - that's still not true!Now we add up the two equations from the first case and the second case:
L=A
2006-09-20 17:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by fadly j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all women look at a man for his wallet. And some women do believe in true love or love at first sight. I kinda don't believe in love at first sight. The girls who look at a man's wallet is only after one thing. Most women don't even look at a man's wallet.
I've been with a wonderful man for over 5 years and I love him for who he is and how he treats me. He doesn't have a lot of money and I love him very much. I'm with this man because he is a wonderful person who knows how to make me feel special and he can make my heart skip a beat just by a kiss or how he holds me.
Now for the silly girls who go after a man for his money are just dumb cause he may have money now but there is no garantee that he will have money tomorrow. Just because a man has money does not mean that he will treat you good.
2006-09-20 05:57:53 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Pea 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Women aren't necessarily interested in money at all, if the woman is normal and well adjusted. Many women are mostly interested in a person's character/integrity, personality, and whether the particular woman is at all attracted to the guy.
They may have reservations about a guy who has zero money, zero ambition, zero motivation, and zero awareness of the importance of financial stability; because most people (men and women) realize that financial stability is important. Besides this guy I just mentioned would be a very interesting or "alive" person; and that's even more important than whether or not he cares about financial stability.
Just in case you're that guy I just mentioned...... then, no, its not all that likely some woman will choose you over someone else.
2006-09-20 07:43:46 · answer #8 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are attracted to prestige, coffidence, strength, power, and resources. When we feel secure, protected, and taken care of, we feel loved and happy. Obviously a man that has these qualities usually has money. A man with money offers security and is coffident and doesn't have low self esteem. Men are suppose to be providers, they are suppose to take care of the family. This makes a woman feel secure and loved and in love with him. It shows that a guy cares about you and is able and willing to be there for you and stick around.
So many women today get invovled with losers that don't have anything and don't take care of their kids. That is why we crave money. A man with money is a man that can handle responsibilty without cracking or running way. Also, money makes the world go round, without money you will be unhappy.
The only people that say money doesn't matter are the people that always had it. I was poor growing up and it sucked. When I was sick my parents couldn't afford to take me to the doctors or dentist. We never went anywhere or experienced anything. I didn't have my own room or freedom. I was always stressed out worrying about the bills and if my parents could pay them.
No one wants to deal with this.
Bottom line, men care mostly about looks. They fall in love at first sight... How can this be unless they are so shallow as to only base things on her looks. If anything looks are a stupid way of being with someone. Looks fade and they don't buy you a house, a car, health, travel, experiences, clothes, food or anything that really is needed thoughtout life.
However, truly falling in love is not only based on money. Obviously people fall in love with people that don't have a dime. However, you need more to a relationship than love. Love won't pay the bills, and when the stress of living, children, and other issues come sometimes love cannot sustain a relationship.
2006-09-20 12:12:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Women differ and this mostly depends with the way one has been brought up and the type of friends one has befriended along the way also the type of men she has associated with.
True love is hard to find because most of our expectations are never fulfilled.Money plays a catalystic role in love relations because entertainment and fashionable clothing needs it.A woman expects his man to pamper her with gifts, take her for holidays and to have a home of their own.All this has to be affordable to your man least you might lead him into crime.
If a woman prefers a man who has money then she may do so for financial security and once the money runs out she will be hunting for another one.Such a woman doesn't care about love as she is only a gold digger infact this is prostitution and a whore only loves your money.
There are nice girls out there who will abide with their man come rain or shine. Such women though are a minority as modern lifestyles require money thus modern women are being lured into such relationships. Much as we would like true love to flourish, reality has it that it is hard to find.
2006-09-23 09:43:00 · answer #10 · answered by marizani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋