While dating my boyfriend i was sleeping 3 or4 other guys. When My roommate (who is or was my best friend) found out she told my boyfriend because they were friends. I totaly denyed it and made up some shi t about her (and now they are no longer friends) and then she kicked me out. And later my boyfriend found out the truth.
I really would like to be friends still but she won't respond to my e-mails, texts, or calls. What should i do to fix it.
2006-09-20 05:37:04 · 15 answers · asked by Rain 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
i would like to be friends again. And i had to do something because i moved out of state and did not want anything going on between them. And he broke up with me and took back everything he got for me
2006-09-20 05:42:41 · update #1
there really isn't much you can do because the damage is done. the ball is in her court IF she wants to mend the friendship.
betrayal is hard to get over. you not only lied to your boyfriend but you made up lies about your best friend who was your confidant. you need to give her space.
if you really want to be a better person don't do this again in your future to other people. if you don't respect them; they have no reason to respect you. if you change for the better then she might see that you have grown and put the past aside.
good luck.
2006-09-20 05:49:18 · answer #1 · answered by sweetsxyazn2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enough done. reallys... some things in life are meant to let go. it's just in this case. *to be truthfully blunt* you're the one that ****** it all up. it's ok. people make mistakes.. yours is jus a huge one. now that karma's got you good. just accept it and start over. i dont think there's much you can do to get your friendship back.. because first of all.. if i ever cheated on my HUSBAND (i kno i wont ever but if) my best girl firend would neve never never go tell him even if they were friends. i know thats wrong but it's something girls do for each other. i think it goes the same for guys. so on that part, your so called EX BEST FRIEND. wasn't realy your best friend, or else she'd have picked to save you instead of your ex boyfriend. but OK. THEN AGAIN. You ****** up. you're definetely a hoe on my list. 3-4 guys!?!? but it's ok. like i said... you can always start over. fresh and CLEAN of course. No more cheating and you wont be getting into situations like this. my best friend goes through stuff like this all the time and guess what, it's a real pain in the ***.
the only thing you can TRY AND DO is email her later on. like ..give it a couple of months. time heals things and her memories of your lies wont be as harsh then. so give that a try but FOR NOW, theres nothing you can or SHOULD DO.
2006-09-20 05:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by swtnsoursauce1o9 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Put yourself in their shoes for just one moment. Would you want to be dating someone who is sleeping around...who may have contracted some sort of disease and not know it, and you don't know becuase they are lying to you about doing it? And then would you want a friend who when you tried to do the right thing, backstabbed you and continued to lie?? Seriously...I wouldn't answer you either.
You wont be able to fix it...if it's going to get fixed, it will fix itself. But you might want to stop and revaluate you life and how you live because you don't treat people like that. Karma....
2006-09-20 05:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by afichick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all you shouldnt have done that, seh was just being a good friend and telling ur bf th truth, maybe she shouldnt have but wouldnt you want to know if that happened to you? second of all, you shouldnt have denyed that only makes the situation worse and that you made stuff about her!not good, you should seroiusly do some dramtic apology and if you ever meet her and you guys discuss this tell her that it is sort of even and that u guys should just be friends again
2006-09-20 05:40:51 · answer #4 · answered by Dana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't think there is anything that you can do. You broke the trust of two people. When you break someone’s trust is up to them...I would say let a couple of months pass and try to email her and tell how you feel and why you felt you had to do what you did and see what happens. if she forgives you then she will contact you...but you have to leave it alone and don't force the issue. you cannot heal your guilt with her acceptance. deal with your issues first!
2006-09-20 05:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by KodeNmKidzNxtDoor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am really sorry to say this but if i was your friend and you did that to me, i wouldn't ever talk to you again either. you ruined every bit of trust you had with her and i honestly don't think there is any way of getting that back. I think you should just leave her alone and learn from your mistake and get on with living your life!
2006-09-20 05:47:17 · answer #6 · answered by polarbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already majorly shot yourself in the butt on this one. They're no longer in any kind of relationship with you, so you have no right to try to influence anything that they do. So, best thing is to just move on with your life.
2006-09-20 06:01:13 · answer #7 · answered by lazyhednslepybonz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not surprised. Leave these nice people alone and get back under a stone.
2006-09-20 05:45:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this may not work but I say talk to your ex and tell him everything and let him know that you didn't mean for your friendship to end with your roommate and see if he can talk to them
2006-09-20 05:44:31 · answer #9 · answered by waynekirsten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go - she is so better off without a friend who lies.
2006-09-20 05:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by justwondering 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋