I used to think women were nice. But life's experience and hard knocks are showing me otherwise. I thought they were nice/motherly but they seem to be back stabbers and just as aggressive, manipulating as men. How can something so beautiful be so cutting and cuthroat I will never understand. Some say women can take pain better than men and that they are stronger than men. Perhaps we should be arming women as soldiers with guns to fight our wars instead of men. So many women told me that they prefer working for men. I once asked why and the lady said," Because women...", she then made the shape of a claw with her hand, put in front my face and dragged her hand down. I used to admire movie actors who had women swooning for them when I was a kid. Now I feel that I should avoid them as much as possible. I'm so dissillusioned. I thought women were nice.
2006-09-20 05:29:09 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Come to Australia Fernando....we're all nice over here....we could do with a few more respectable blokes though!
2006-09-20 05:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by ang_172 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
"Why are men so mean?
I used to think men were nice. But life's experience and hard knocks are showing me otherwise. I thought they were nice/protective but they seem to be back stabbers and just as aggressive, manipulating as women. ......................."
Fernando don't you think that a bad experience cannot produce a general statement that would work for my experience as a woman,too? I still believe we should learn from a bad experience what we don't want for us and not refusing the whole package. Good luck!
2006-09-20 14:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well fellow man,
This is the thing the same way you have noticed that woman can be mean... Men are REAL mean too.
Some woman NEED to mean.
Personaly,
I'm very girlie,
very sweet,
and giving.
but in most cases of today's world it has gotten me no-where!
and sadly given me a look of cute little innocent girl.
NO RESPECT!
Men/women who try to run me over every day, and when i try to put my foot down everybody turns their heads and blame it on PMS... For some girls things like this change them into being mega bitches... but for me it just makes me feel better to be nice than bitchy even if sometimes i have little to no respect.
Maybe that answers your question?
2006-09-20 14:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by Social 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm... this is another one of those generalized statements that if a few women have pissed you off, then the other women in the world must be the same way. We all do it though.
Some women are high strung, cry-babies, whatever. Some aren't. Surround yourself with the ones that aren't, my friend.
Why are most of the guys I meet 'playas' and judgemental about girls who weigh over 110 pounds?
2006-09-20 12:40:19 · answer #4 · answered by stuckinamoment 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
...........in general it has been the men who have done the raping and the robbing and the killing and the war-mongering for the last two thousand years.... and it's been the men who have done the pillaging and the beheading and the subjecating of whole races into slavery. It has been the men who have done the law making and the money making and the most of the mischief making! So if the world isn't quite what you had in mind you have only yourselves to thank!!
2006-09-20 13:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by Da Judge 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you talking about women in general or women in the work force..
In the work force women are having to compete for the higher paying jobs that the men always had before and you have to be that way to get ahead.. and working for women is horrible. they aren't nice. i don't work for them either.. have only had one female boss in all my working days. and quit with in the week.
Now women in general if you find one of them that is mean.. run because she won't likely change a whole lot..
not even love changes that attitude.
good luck in what ever it is that you are trying to do..
and there are women in the armed forces fighting just like the men..
2006-09-20 12:37:30 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Grow up. People are people some are mean some are nice some have issues like you. Stop trying to define laterally billions of people as nice and you won't be disappointed when some of them aren't
2006-09-21 16:42:46 · answer #7 · answered by Sara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're hanging out in the wrong circles, Fernando...
There are all kinds of nice women in the world (although expecting them all to be "motherly" is a little unrealistic)
2006-09-20 12:37:56 · answer #8 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends where you are getting your ideas from. It seems that the media likes to portray mean women who shock viewers more but are still "loveable" .
There is more shock value in a woman who is mean......so a lot of girls copy this. Among girls especially at high school there is a real fear of being seen as too "girlie" and cute. They think mean is the only way they will impress the guys becuase they dont understand them and think guys wont like someone who isnt like them or has connotation of "fluffy" or worse still "incompetant".
They literally dont understant that they dont have to be the same as guys to be respected and it took a me some time to work it out too!
A lot of girls myself included (in the past tho) think they wont get the respect of a guy for being girlie and it can kind of degenerate from there to create anything from sassyness to downright bitchiness and violence.......its sad that women see themselves this way.... they act up and make it part of their persona and even personality because there is little in support of the gentler, more stable approach to life.
This is all from experience, but also I want to say that there are girls who arent mean......but to survive in the world of today, being nice dosent get you very far......that is the answer really. (what I mean is that is the conclusion many draw)
Dont be disillusioned, there are nice girls out there and its probably the types youve been meeting, but you have to be selective and encourage girls you meet that you regard gratuitous meanness as childish (obviously dont make it too obvious but, y'know!) and that youre definitly not the type to get off on ppl who are all about front.
I know this from experience, I went out with a guy who was very unimpressed with all the things that shallowness is impressed with. He made me reconsider what I did to get peoples attention and he treated me so well that I had no need to be mean when he was around. He made it clear without even meaning to, to me that he kind of regarded meanness as shallow and even kind oif weak. He showed me that being nice and decent will win over people who matter and give you solid relationships with friends and romances, and putting on appearances of being "untouchable" will only lead one to trust ppl who will invariably let you down. I sure you know all this. Ditch trying to impress nasty girls who don't impress you! Look for girls who you think would like you genuinely and you'll be much more impressed though more difficult to find, and it takes time/work/effort..
Take men and women as they come, there is no mould for everyone. Good luck!
2006-09-20 14:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by Zinc 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
women are nice when they want to be and they are mean when they have to be. women nowadays have to be more competitive and more cut-throat than they used to be because more and more women are entering the workforce everyday which threatens them. trust me though, not all of us are "mean". we're just trying to survive the best way we know how. i know personally id rather work for and with men than other women.
2006-09-20 12:39:11 · answer #10 · answered by §eeker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey I have the same sort of opinion about men! We also have bad experiences with you (MEN) But , I still date them(Men)...hoping I will find that needle in the hay stack....
Hope you do not turn to the dark side.....lol!
2006-09-21 16:45:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋