I am getting out of a relationship after 8 years of swallowing "the feminine mystique" garbage.
Do I want to be alone...or do I want to be nagged, hen-pecked, bitched-at, etc, for not being all things to all people...
I want to hear from people who made the move...the move to get away from someone you have grown to hate. This self-serving prima donna piece of garbage I have spent time with has denied me quality time with another woman.
How does it feel after so much time to say "f--k you, good bye"?
2006-09-20 05:03:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try not to fill your heart with so much anger. Look past the hate and regret and bad memories and just thank god you're still here and found yourself someone else. Although she may have been a b***** I am sure there is something (small or big) she has given to yo. Forgive and foget, and move on with your life. Good luck!
2006-09-20 05:08:07 · answer #1 · answered by ladida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously I am not male, but maybe you can consider a woman's perspective for a minute:
To answer your specific question, "Do I want to be alone..."
It is better to be alone rather than stand right next to someone and still feel lonely. For this insight alone, I think it sounds like you will be happier moving forward with your departure from the relationship.
It sounds like you have found someone else and while that will bring you some temporary comfort, I caution you that jumping into another relationship right away before you have had a chance to sit independently for more than a minute may not be the wisest step for you to take. You have eight years of resentment and anger built up inside you (It's more than just idle nagging) and once you sort through the reality of what was real versus your own imagination and assumptions, it is possible that you may discover this woman was not as horrid as you have currently made her out to be in your mind.
I am not judging you at all, but I cannot help but wonder how this woman, who has devoted eight years to you, is going to feel when you tell her "F*ck you, goodbye?" No doubt she has not been happy the entire eight year tenure either...that is life and this is reality, but she is not pulling out...you are. This is going to hurt her deeply. I think if you approach it without so much anger (and vulgarity by the way), you may find in the end, she is a person who not only loved you, but was really your friend.
Don't try to cover up your exit strategy with excuses and aggression. This "other" woman may be intriguing today, but she does not know the "ugly, eight years into it" you.
Think before you act, think before you speak, and honor and respect yourself enough to uphold your promises. Be kind.
2006-09-20 12:19:12 · answer #2 · answered by lovemcss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I left my last wife it was like dropping a 150 lbs. off my back. Although we were not the closest after the breakup we were civil when required to each other. I stayed in this relationship as was trying to be a savour as she had substance issues, but when she got mouthy with one of my sons said so long. Don't feel bad for leaving and actually felt good. But did not have the regrets that you seem to have towards your mate. Best of luck in finding someone with whom you can share some happiness. But remember also that you once must have believed that the woman you are leaving must have held some special traits. Try not to bad mouth her as it only makes you look like a loser also for staying as long as you did.
2006-09-20 12:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey maybe its better off some times. it is better being alone and getting to know yourself for a change.I'v got away from all the bulls**t my X wife gave me.I have to tell you It feels alot better then having someone make you feel misrable all the time.
2006-09-20 12:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by Casper77mc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married and divorced twice, I am enjoying this freedom,, I dont want to be alone but then I dont want the nagging,
2006-09-20 12:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are communicating to the wrong prima donas. Sounds like you never laid boundaries about communciations down with your wife,
Sounds like you have healing to do, and she does too.
Sounds like you guys are made for each other cause you are as big a bitty as she is:)
2006-09-20 12:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by Etain 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a hold of yourself and calm down.Leave,you will feel a lot better.But please get over your hate before you date again.Your new girl does not need that stuff dumped on her.
2006-09-20 12:28:54 · answer #7 · answered by eva b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurt for a while, but then I was fine. Glad she's gone.
2006-09-20 12:22:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋