We have been together for 5 months and are living together. He says she is a good friend and that they just slept together once but didnt take it to a relationship. The last time they spoke he called her from the airport before my plane landed and spoke for 1/2 hour (until my plane landed) (yes i checked his phone) When i told him it upset me he said not to give him an ultimatum (i hadnt yet) that if I told him to stop talking to her then we'd break up. He says "its not about her its about trust issues that I have that will not end with just that one girl." Is this him bull shiiting or is he right? Seems wrong though, regardless of the reason, that he would end our relationship just to talk to some girl. (by the way she is in the middle of a divorce!)
2006-09-20 04:57:41 · 10 answers · asked by zoey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, he did offer to have me meet her. And he had told her we were together until we broke up and he said he hadnt talked to her in awhile. But he told her now. He;s very nice otherwise. This is the only thing i have a problem with him about.
2006-09-20 05:58:32 · update #1
I wouldn't stop him from talking to her ro change the number... if he will not mention you start answering his phone let it be known that your the one he lives with make friends with her if this bothers him then you know there is a problem that he isn't being honest about them just being friends.. Good Luck
2006-09-20 05:08:25 · answer #1 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what would he do if you gave him an ultimatum? Would he leave ? Then let him obviously he is not in love with you enough to stop talking to this chick. If you have told him that it upsets you and he is still talking to her then he is not worth having . I put up with this crap for a while and i left and he was the one coming back but i told him no could not handle it anymore and i was moving on . i have since met and married the man of my dreams and he is great. Leave him if he does not stop this you can and will do better. Good Luck.
2006-09-20 05:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is full of it sweetie I wouldn't even waste my time messing with him. If the damn shoe was on the other foot he would be mad as all hell if you where doing and saying all s#$% he's saying and doing. Of course something like this would make you question his motives that's enough to make any woman question. Then he has the nerve to tell you not to make him choose aw hell naw! He needs a serious reality check therefore leave his a#$ alone cause he is not worth it. He has no respect for you at all move on and find someone else that isn't still attached to his ex.
2006-09-20 05:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
how can someone forget to tell you that they are involved with someone? either he doesnt want her to know he has a girl and is trying to get back with her. plus i dont buy that he slept with her once idea. most guys wont just sleep with a girl once and let it go unless its just a one time thing. he said that he would break up with you if you told him to leave her alone. that alone would be reason for me to drop him. doesnt matter if she is in the middle of divorce or not, if he truely wanted to be with you, then he would drop her regardless. he is holding out, i think he wants his cake and eat it too. sorry this one seems like a jerk.
2006-09-20 05:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he isn't telling her because he is hoping something will develop, and is playing it safe, so the option is there for him to be with you or her. Smart guy, its a shame he is screwing you both over in the process. Just leave him and find someone else, or offer to have a three way with the ex and him, prob. the best alternative.
2006-09-20 05:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's playing both ends from the middle -- you're one of the ends. Why are you even there??? What are you thinking. I'd be outa there, but then you might like abuse. There are just tooo many nice guys out there to be trying to help this guy get his head on straight. Hello??????????
2006-09-20 05:47:25 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what if she is getting divorced if he didnt have a relationship with her and she is in the past he shouldnt be talking to her. If you are living together it must be serious so go through is phone together and delete any numbers you dont like or get him to change his number if he wont then hes not serious enough
2006-09-20 05:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is just one of the reasons you shouldn't move in with someone after only 5 months........he's playing you totally. Find a new place to live and find a less selfish guy.
2006-09-20 05:07:21 · answer #8 · answered by jachooz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they are screwing girl....she's vulnerable, they've already screwed in the past...if he really cared about you he would not even waste his time talking to another girl
2006-09-20 05:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by mary H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be so mad at him,
2006-09-20 05:03:08 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋