This isn't a "is the baby mine?"situation.He knows the baby's his.He left for a week(staying God knows where)only calling me from work,so I went back to my hometown in Ohio,leaving him in NC.1 1/2mnths later he's calling saying how he made the biggest mistake of his life and that I need to just give him 1last chance to be a family,but he's made lots of mistakes in the past with being faithful and honest so I'm skeptical.Now he says that he wants to be a family with me and his son,and that he misses us.He sounds really sincere,and trust me I never thought I'd consider being with him,but I love him even though he's hurt me.I don't know if I should give him another chance.He tells me that he is willing to fight for what we had because he knows now that if he passes it up, he may never be happy again.I'm also thinking about my 10 week son.He deserves to have his family complete, but I want him to be in a good environment.Should I give him one more chance or should I move on?
2006-09-20 04:47:06 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are really hurt. I would be too. I don't think you should give him a chance. He knew you were having his baby. He left you and disappeared for some time... Now he calls and says.. bla.. bla... Don't take it and don't fall for it. You have to be strong.. Not only for yourself, but for your son as well.... He maybe the father of your son, but what if he does it again? Then what? Then you hurt again and so forth... You said you love him, yes, you may.. And nothing is wrong with that... But you need to hide that from him. Don't let him know how much you love him. Time will tell if he has changed or not and if he is serious about being with you and your son..... Let time tell.
2006-09-20 06:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by Azn-lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no!! u will end up doing what my cousin did and get back together and break up 5 different times, and now the baby is 1 yo and hes trying to do it again. Sounds like ur ex met a chick it didnt work out now hes coming back to u. He left u during ur biggest time of need and u want to give him another chance to ruin ur life. What good is it giving ur child a family "complete" with a part time husb/dad....when ever he feels like it. Hes made lots of mistakes...and he wont change. Grow up, move on, give him parental visits, and find a real guy!
2006-09-20 11:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a lot of things that you left out, by now you should know this man, would he be a good role model for your baby? Do the two of you really get along? how about his temper? their is a lot you have to consider, because you do not have only your feelings to take into consideration, has he sent you money for the baby? Does he have a job? Think, think! and pray about the situation!!
2006-09-20 11:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this the first time you left? If it is I myself would give it one more try. Have a heart to heart with him though. Let him know that you did it once and you will do it again if the relationship begins to fail. Let him know how serious you are about things changing and for the better. Good luck.
2006-09-20 11:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on. Your fiance has already proved himself to be unreliable, a cheater and a liar. Is this the type of person you deserve? Your son IS in a good environment. He's with the parent who CARES.
2006-09-20 11:56:19 · answer #5 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ask him where's the child support payments?? Send them and you'll let him know later what your decision is. Then sit back and wait and see just how hard he's trying to better himself and be a part of your son's life. Actions speak louder than words.
2006-09-20 11:51:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him go to the doctor and get tested make sure he hasn't caught any sexual diseases .If clean then give him another chance for your child to have his real father in his life .if he screws up again you don't need him.I believe wants a cheat always a cheat. so watch him closely.
2006-09-20 12:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by TLC1968 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋