I have been married for 5 months and hes always saying I better not be cheating on him. I tell him I have never been with anyone since we met but I am wondering he don't say that hes faithful to me never seem to get to that subject. Give me your advice.
2006-09-20 04:46:13 · 15 answers · asked by wildrose 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
His behaviour actually just shows that he doesn't seem to trust you.
Probably he's got low self-esteem or has been hurt in the past.
If he can't build up trust with the time, I think the relationship doesn't have a future.
2006-09-20 04:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by dim_glow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there is anything I cannot handle it is a person not trusting me, it always makes me wonder if I can trust them, especially in a relationship. Number one why should or would he be concerned aren't you together most of your free time anyway...........I would lay the law down and say "you know I am a trustworthy person but you have me wondering now "are you?" Maybe this will put an end to it. I hope it does. Also tell him you do not appreciate not feeling trusted and don't want that subject to come up unless he has doubts!
2006-09-20 11:51:13 · answer #2 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As the saying goes....The one accusing is the one doing!! Sure as sh*t! My x was accusing me for the longest time and then I found out HE was the one being unfaithful quite a bit!
Good Luck to you! Sorry this is happening to you! Especially only being married 5 mos.! But then again, maybe it's good you find out now so you don't have so much invested or a baby. I had a 7 mo. old when I found out. Stayed with him for another 5 yrs. It never stopped, and by then I had a 5 yr. old and a 3 yr. old! Get out now if you can.
2006-09-20 12:02:43 · answer #3 · answered by yokrem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey poco you hit it right on the head because I have a husband that constantly acusses me and I know I have never cheated but it is because of things he is doing.He lies for no reason and is sneaking and doing other rhings. Normally by what I have always heard from my mother,grandmother other adult lady friends is that if they are acussing you of cheating it is because they are doing it theirselves. I had my ex- say it to me years ago and found out that he actually was the one doing it......My son's father who has a half sister about the same age by the women he had the fling with. So some things are worth a thousand words.
2006-09-20 12:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by copperfish310 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell him he better be careful what he accuses me of, he keeps that up and I will give him good reason to say what he's saying. And another thing, so help me God if I find out he's cheating on me, I'll put him out faster than rotten trash. I don't have a problem with this, does he?
2006-09-20 11:54:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't always mean that it is them that are cheating. He may have self esteem issues. And it is early in the relationship. The next time he says that you say he same thing about not being with anyone else. But then you give it right back to him . See what he says in his defense. Good luck.
2006-09-20 11:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has he always been like this or is it something new? Chances are that he is very insecure with himself. It may not have anything to do with him cheating. I would personally ask him to go with you to speak to a counselor. What will it hurt? This doesn't sound like it will be a quick fix. Stick with it and just remind yourself why you married him? what was that special thing he did\does that makes you quiver? Hang in there!!!
2006-09-20 11:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by smr122179 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say it is possible he is cheating but he may also be paranoid. I am not saying anything about you - but have you changed your behavior since being married? Maybe he is noticing changes (because you are probably changing - just being married does that) in you and is just paranoid.
Good Luck
2006-09-20 11:56:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has trust issues maybe its because of the things hes doing now or may have done in the past
Men who dont trust usually are men who cant be trusted
2006-09-20 11:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by poconewyorkwanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do, to me it's the guilt factor or they know there in the wrong and wanna justify there actions based on the fact that they have cause to cheat if they think you are.
2006-09-20 11:48:01 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Shortie♥ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋