2006-09-20 04:32:16 · 11 answers · asked by love-love P 1 in Science & Mathematics ➔ Biology
This is a very difficult question...that I just had to deal with. I am still good friends with my ex-boyfriends. My boyfriend had a big problem with that. However, he is still friends with his ex's...so I told him he had to deal with his jealousy or stop being friends with his ex's if that is what he expected from me. We recently broke up, but not becaue of the ex situation. But, I would say, for the future...almost every guy is going to be a little insecure with you being friends with your ex's because he's going to think you're just keeping them around for back ups or friends with benefits. One way to get around this is by introducing him to your ex's (friends) and not keeping the relationship seperate. This will assure him that he can trust you around them. If he still has problems with you being friends with your ex's you will need to figure out which relationship is more important to you because it will consistantly be an ongoing problem. It may be time to cut someone out of your life.
2006-09-20 04:40:14 · answer #1 · answered by kater_tot01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
befriend with Ex's. Good question. It depends on your earlier relationship. If you were involved in sex, and are currently involved in sex with current Boy friend, the current one would not like it. If he does not care, I am afraid, he may not be serious with you.
It all depends on relationship, love and Sex. And how each one of you look at each of these three.
If your current boy friend does not like what you do, soon he will koin the ranks of Ex's and you need to discuss this again with your new boyfriend.
Try not to go for a world record of Ex's :-)
All the best.
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2006-09-20 11:44:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is up to you- how would you feel if the tables were turned? If he is jealous either he has reason to be (maybe you flirt alot), or you have not convinced him it is platonic. Try discussing it and see if you two can act mature and show respect for each other. In the end both of you need to compromise... like it or not. And also consider that if you get really tweaked by his concern maybe you are hiding something (even from yourself) that you don't want to admit. Let's face it, it ia always flattering to be around people you know want you sexually... and it takes maturity to avoid compromising situations.
2006-09-20 11:45:27 · answer #3 · answered by sunsetsrbest1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be friends with your exes, as long as you are upfront with your current boyfriend and don't hide things from him. I'm sure your exes can understand that your current boyfriend is not thrilled that you are still in contact. But why are you seeking to continue relationships with these previous boyfriends? As a contingency plan or what?
2006-09-20 11:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Kater_tot. I personally had a similar issue. But because my ex had been an ****ole I really saw no benefit in arguing with my boyfriend for him, and completely stopped talking to him. Off course I requested him to stop being friends with his ex, which he did, so it was fair. Now we are getting married, and I don't regret one bit.
2006-09-20 11:48:09 · answer #5 · answered by dahfna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends. What exactly do you mean by friends? If you are flirty and touchy with these people, I could see where that would make someone that is your current boyfriend jealous. Otherwise, if it is purely innocent, I suggest you explain to your boyfriend that it is just that and he has not right to control you.
2006-09-20 11:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how would you feel if he started to befriend his ex's, if it would feel alright with you, then i don't see why not. It seems like there is a level of trust so, it might be ok.
2006-09-20 11:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are your own person, do what you want. Just be prepared for what might happen and ready for the consequences. TRUST is the beginning and end of all relationships.
2006-09-20 11:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by littlemomma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure why this is in the biology section....but even if you feel its ok to be friends with your ex.... if your boyfriend feels uncomfortable then you should respect him and not have a friendship with your ex.
2006-09-20 11:36:18 · answer #9 · answered by friskygimp 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say do whatever you want, it's your life and all you have is right now. Be honest with both of them and let them know you true intentions.
2006-09-20 11:37:18 · answer #10 · answered by _chooly_ 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋