I'm in a new relationship of a couple of months, and i love him very much, but as with other partners, i find it incredably hard to trust him, i know deep inside that what he tells me is true (that he loves me) but my head just won't except it.
2006-09-20 04:26:30 · 15 answers · asked by Clare 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Too many people spend too much time and effort imagining what isn't or throwing away special meaningful relationships for no reason. Don't become a statistic, enjoy what you have. Pointless worrying about what will almost certainly in your case not happen. At the end of the day if he is gonna do anything wrong, he'll do it, and there is nil you can do about it. So, just let things be as they are and enjoy your lives together.
2006-09-20 04:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by ribena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have been deeply hurt by someone you truly gave your whole heart too! Believe me when I say that not every man has a heart of stone and you have to put your heart on the mend to find love again! Chances are that the relationship you are currently in will end up a disaster also if you don't put the past behind because no one wants to be in a relationship that has no trust! Ease up on yourself and let things happen the way there suppose to! Life is a learning experience we all go through! We make a mistake; we only gain knowledge, a lesson well taught! Lifes what you make it! So be happy!
2006-09-20 11:37:39 · answer #2 · answered by shelly_mo67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please try to trust, learn to ask questions of things you aren't sure about and in time you will gradually understand and grow together. I was married for 25 years, but because his previous wife had walked out on him he thought I would do the same and I did, but why, because he never trusted me not even after having 5 kids with him and never going out on my own apart from work and when I was 5 mins late he would accuse me, hence in the end I couldn't take anymore and went!
2006-09-20 11:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel he's honest, why are you questioning his love and affection for you.. I know it's hard to trust because you've probably been burned before.. but come on you can't punish this guy for what other people have done to you in the past.. Accept it...live with it....If you don't then you are headed for a lot of heart ache...Trust your heart dear...and if he lies to you i'll kick his butt..
2006-09-20 11:29:40 · answer #4 · answered by bellita_716 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not trust anyone or anything. That does not mean that I distrust either. I take things as they are and are said and wait to see how it plays out. Usually time will let you know if a person is being honest or not. You do need to pay attention to what is not said as well as what is said. No one is 100 percent honest all the time.
2006-09-20 12:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not worry, you are not alone. I find it extremely hard not only to trust my partners but also my friends. In time the more you get to know a person so u will start to trust them as well. So dont worry and start to relax around your partner and maybe you will start to trust him.
2006-09-20 11:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by julianewcombe999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a problem, and you are bring all of your luggage into this relationship, If you do not get a handle on it, you will lose him, Go for help, if you can't deal with it yourself. You first have to learn to trust yourself, don't you trust your judgment? Try and work on yourself. Let loose, and learn to enjoy yourself and your boyfriend. If you learn from your mistakes, then you can move on. and have a healthy relationship.
2006-09-20 11:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl i have been married for 12 yrs and i am still dealing with this same issue. i have been burned more than once by past relationships and i have packed it all with me to this one. i don't have an answer for you, but i do know that if he really loves you he will be patient. my honey is the best and continues to give the support i need to trust him. he always tells me he loves me and will never leave me. he knows i need to hear that and he fullfills those needs.
2006-09-20 11:30:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is early days for you as of yet.
Give it time and if it is meant to be it will be.
I am very lucky I have been with my husband for 20 years, and married for 13 years. And have two wonderful children.
Take your time! I am sure he will be careful with you if he knows how past partners have been to you.
2006-09-20 11:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by samleigh40@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife did the same thing with me. amd it does take time because of hurt from past relationships. but this is what you have to learn, all you have is his word, and if hasnt given you any reasons to doubt, then you hae ot learn to believe him. Am 100% dedicated to my wife, and now she knows it, after she understood that she my one and only. and if he doesnt truly love you and never haven given you reason to doubt, then youh ave to see that too
2006-09-20 11:31:19 · answer #10 · answered by justwaitingtoleave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋