yesterday morning he picked a fight with me over something stupid. when I got home from work, he was still acting like a jerk. we were supposed to go out for dinner, and I refused to go because he was acting like a jerk and treating me like sH\it.
Then later he was being nice to me (because he wanted to know if I cooked diner, and if there was enough left for him). I haven't really spoken to him since last night. I am tired of this. he only is nice to me if he wants something.
2006-09-20 04:21:08 · 26 answers · asked by Crazy dog lady 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not going to dump him. he is generally a good guy, he is just a jerk about the way he fights. then he tries to end the fight by being nice to me - when he wants something - which doesn't work for me obvious reasons!
2006-09-20 05:12:18 · update #1
Typical man, I swear to God they are all the same. You can't make him apologize you can either keep being a ***** to him and he will eventually get it or you can try telling him that he really pissed you off and he can't go on treating you like that. Tell him you feel unappreciated and that he only acts like he cares about you when he wants something. If he gives you attitude about that I'd tell him to piss off.
2006-09-20 04:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then you keep doing what you are doign, You know what when you cook diner cook enough for yourself. until he comes up to you and ask you whats wrong? and then nicely but be a little upset begin to tell him how he made you feel the other night when you argued about something stupid. He will get the picture one way or another.
2006-09-20 11:23:45 · answer #2 · answered by justwaitingtoleave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your real issue has nothing to do with "yesterday" or "will his apology be sincere?" You need to look at the overall picture of your situation.
WHY do you stay with a jerk? ok, so maybe there are some things you like about his inner being or something...but if this is his usual mode of behavior (you said "I am tired of this" and "he's only nice when he wants something"), he obviously has no qualms about being selfish and thinking only of himself--whenever and for as long as he feels like it.
Break up with him and figure out why you're willing to put up with ill behavior and someone who will treat you horridly (or like sh*t). Be on your own and do whatever it takes to be completely happy with YOU. Realize what is wonderful about you and how much you can ENJOY YOURSELF and how special you are. When you come to realize yourself that way, you will not tolerate someone treating you like you don't matter.
Then--and only then--are you ready to have a boyfriend (especially one you LIVE with).
If you are not willing to do this, have fun living in crappy relationships for years on end. (Is he worth that? Just curious.)
2006-09-20 11:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by tinkerbella 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you sat down to think that maybe he was an a$$hole because of something you did? There are always two sides of a story and normally there is fault to be found on both sides. No one is a martyr. The most obvious was to do this is talk to him. Not talking to him will piss him off more, NOT make him want to appologize.
2006-09-20 11:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by camus0281 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea. i kno how that is! im sorry that you are going through that.
i think the best thing for you to do is explain to him that you are uncomfortable with the way that he is treating you. express that its uncalled for and tell him that if he wants to make this work that he cant just be nice when he wants something. if he "goes off" on you, then i dont think that is very healthy. me and my guy split because of his immaturity and a month later, he came back appologizing, begging for forgiveness. ever since then, things have been great.
i truly hope that everything works out!
2006-09-20 11:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by gracin_angel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he can't see his way clear to apologize on his own, then you will never receive a sincere apology by asking him for it.
Has he ever said he's sorry for anything? Some guys just are not capable of uttering the words "I'm sorry".
2006-09-20 11:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can get an apology if you once you communicate to him what happened and how you felt.
Be simple and clear, but if you want to keep him as a boyfriend don't make it personal.
Just make it about what happened and that you won't accept that any more if he wants to continue.
Making it about what happened disarms the personal side of it.
2006-09-20 11:25:20 · answer #7 · answered by M J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ball is in his court. If you're tired of his behavior, you need to tell him. If he really is interested in your feelings and cares, then he'll sincerely apologize. Otherwise, take him for what he is....a jerk who's not ready for grown up relationships.
2006-09-20 11:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find another boyfriend, this one is immature and acts like he has nothing better to do than go around picking fights.
2006-09-20 11:30:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
INTUITION!!!!!!! You are not a robot with no feelings and KNOW when hes trying to pull some Bull@&%&. WE HAVE ALL BEEN THERE. listen to your heart and mind.It is not wrong.Plus ask yourself, is it worth it? Are you at a dead end with no one to turn to if you leave this guy? Probably not. Choices are hard but your not his mother,his maid or his mat.
2006-09-20 11:25:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋