I cant kinda carry myself properly. As in, there is this one person whom I have been observing carefully in my college. People always rush around him, want to talk to him, girls adore him, gets mobbed and I always come SECOND to him in the class. How should I conduct myself that ppl came approach me, make the 1st move to talk to me, fall in awe with me and girls like me.
Whats the formula that I'm skipping? Please guide me.
I know many ppl will say be urself. But I wanna improve on this trait in me. Please help me out.
2006-09-20 04:17:45 · 20 answers · asked by Stanley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ok dude. Ur facing a prob many face in this age. So, strain ur memory a bit and try to remember your best day at college till date. How you reacted, how u got mobbed, how u impressed every1 with ur charisma ! Think today is the same day, its gonna yield the same results and think likewise everyday. Give people what they want. Thats the most important principle of PR !
2006-09-20 16:35:15 · answer #1 · answered by Cristiano R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all attention is good attention....
If u are a guy, theres nothiing wrong with making the 1st move. If u SECOND, it means that u still have some kind of charm. Really just accept who u are. Be proud of you, Thats all there is to it. Maybe what u lacking is confidence. If u know who u are, people will admire and respect you more. Maybe possibly even be drawn to u...
Just remember, people arent always drawn to the good in people.... dont change who u are unless u improving upon yourself internally. if you change for other reasons, you're just be stepping back, lowering who u are and what youve become.
2006-09-20 04:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by shaniB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, u know what? girls get attracted to you when you have the looks, money and education...also, you have to smile more often to people so that they will think that you are a friendly person and dont hesitate to approach you...
you seem to be observing the person's lucky side than the unlucky side... once you are popular, its hard to get space for yourself...you must also not make mistakes and be perfect...also, you must not do anything that will embarass you (including whatever you used to love to do)...
if you have a girlfriend or currently in relationship, she might get jealous and the relationship might be in trouble...
but if you are still insistent and want to have the same life as the latter, then you should try making yourself the best in studies...dress more smartly....be friendly...act cool and dont hesitate to make friends...
and since you have observed the person so much, you can figure out what he has that you dont and get a clue....
good luck!
2006-09-20 04:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by cuteangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest i think the people that always get the attention are because they have the most outgoing personality, you shouldnt worry about people not approaching you all the time because you should just give people enough time to get o know you,that way your more well known then people will start coming up to you etc etc and girls like confidence so yeah thats all i can say really,if i sat here and thought abit more i could probably write a better answer but i need a cup of tea.....all the best,take it easy! :-)
2006-09-20 04:23:40 · answer #4 · answered by Arbee!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just has an energy and a look that people are drawn to. Why do u want to b the same as someone else? at the end of the day u can only b urself....try to smile, and b open, try to conect with people. Some people r just born with it and other have to work at it. Try to be easy going and approachable
2006-09-20 04:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hon being yourself is the best way, you see it might seem like he's got it going on, but have you ever found out if he's really happy, if you find one good friend then you are very blessed, you see that other guy doesn't even know who his real friends are, don't try to be like anyone else. but i will also try saying hi when people past you in the hallways, or sitting with a new group at school, not a group that will engenders trouble, get involved in extra curricular activities, anyhow all the best.
2006-09-20 04:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by diva anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really dont wanna be a made-up person. Girls dont fall for fakies. Just try to be yourself! And keep in mind that it is not a nice thing to be surrounded by girls all the time. For example;many girls will think you will never be alone! A girl wants you for herself, they usually dont like it if other girls flock around you.
2006-09-20 04:21:29 · answer #7 · answered by Joyce R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you want to be something that you are not right now and you will not like it for long so you might as well stay the way you are and be yourself because if you act like someone that you are not then you are not going to like it in the long run.You've heard this before BE YOURSELF. If no one likes you for you, what makes you think that you are going to carry on, once you don't like who you have been acting like? JUST BE YOURSELF!!!!
2006-09-20 04:21:15 · answer #8 · answered by Starlesha23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ur rite, i wuz gna say b urself but most of the time tht doesnt seem 2 wrk. u shld just try 2 approach tht prsn as quickly as u can but try not 2 make it seem 2 obvious. also try 2 get tht prsns attention by doing smthng tht they like or r interested n. hope i helped.
2006-09-20 04:22:26 · answer #9 · answered by Jeanette (juh-net) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being always considerate of others and a friendly and slightly humorous outlook on life. That's always gives one the appearance of being a"cool" to quite a few people.
2006-09-20 04:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by Dennis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋