how do u love your self after a breakup i would like to know because i am going through this stage?

Answer 1

Number one, understand that healing and recovery is a process and not an event. How long it will take you to travel the path to emotional healing and recover is dependent on the length, depth, breadth, and intimacy level of the relationship and events and circumstances in your life prior to the relationship and relating to the breakup.

Number two, be willing to learn from both the good and the "bad" from both of you. Don't focus on the problems or outcomes, but look instead to how things developed.

Number three, be willing to forgive...This one is key. Forgive yourself and forgive the other person.

Number four, it's ok to grieve a loss, allow yourself time and place to grieve the loss of dreams, goals, expectations. Just don't wallow in it.

Finally, number five, be willing to trust your heart again.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Hi!
There are three stages to self-recovery

1. The Pity
2. The Reform
3. The Admire

1. The Pity Stage
This takes 24 hours to complete. You need a large tub of your favourite ice-cream, a chocolate bar, a comedy/romance film (pretty woman is very good for these situations), a footspa and a facial mask. I think you can guess what hapens. Start at 7 o'clock at night. Unplug the phone and turn off your cell. Apply your face mask and use the footspa ( a cosy dressing gown is good too). Once your facemask is done, wipe it off, turn off the footspa, get the ice-cream and the chocolate out and gorge yourself to you are nearly sick while watching the film. Cry if it helps, hit a pillow whatever. This is the time to let your emotions out girl!

2. The Reform Stage- duration 2 days minimum- 1 week
OK here you go, the new you is about to emerge. This guy doesn't control your life any more, you do! Now during this week, your burn pictures, delete messages, change your perfume (change your hairstyle if you want) and hit the pool/gym. This is the last chance you'll get to work out your anger/sadness/betrayal at the guy. Hit the treadmill, increase the power each time you think of him, punish yourself for thinking of him, so you associate him with pain (this will make it much easioer for when you look bakc on the relationship). Take long walks and drink lots of water. Buy new clothes for the job too (shopping is a girl's best friend). This will not only make you feel and look great, it'll burn out the calories from your pig out night :P

3. The Admire stage- Distance until the next relationship
Buy yourself a gorgeous new outfit, some new makeup and hit the hairdressers. Ask them to style it for you in a new way (wihtout cutting.). Get changed, put on your new make-up and hit the town with some friends. You'll feel so great about yourself, it won't matter about him anymore!

I won't say you won't stop thinking about him for the first week or so, but you'll son find your thinking about him less and less and thinking about you more and more.
Good luck!
Luv
Metia
XO

Answer 4

Its very hard when you break up with someone you love, whether it was a marriage or a long time commitment the feelings of guilt and self blame are always there.
Sometimes you can love a person to the point when the relationship ends you actually seem to grieve for that person, almost as if a part of you is gone, and a part of you is gone.
Other times its the kind of feeling where you have become so low in self esteem in the relationship that once that person is gone, you have no self esteem. You only loved yourself as long as that person loved you.
In a case like this you have to sit yourself down mentally. Think back of what kind of person you were before this relationship. Did you like who you were? If you did, in what ways did you change? Were they good changes or were they bad changes?
Now that this person is gone in your life, in what ways would you change, to be the person you were, the person who love yourself? What things would stay the same?
Give yourself a list of pros and cons.
What were the good things about you before the relationship and the bad things.
What were the good things during the relationship and the bad things.
Now that the relationship is over, what are the good things and the bad things about yourself. What things do you want to keep about yourself? What things do yuo want to change or go back to?
If you dont love yourself, no one else will. Many people men and women alike prey upon us who dont love oursleves. Those of us who have just come out of a relationship and are not ready for a new one, we are still figureing out things.
SELF LOVE IS ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT LOVES OF ALL. It can get out of hand, if you loive yourself so much that you donthave any room in your heart ofor anyone else.

Answer 5

honey, i know it is hard. i have been thru 3. look at it this way, you have learned so much to take with you into the next relationship. there is nothing i can say to you that will be an instant fix, but time will heal. the worst part is waiting for the time to pass. i do feel for you and the only words that come to my mind is: hang in there and know that you are a good person. if not you would not have had that great experience with your bf or gf. broken hearts are a part of a healthy life style. you are being molded for your true love that WILL come into your life. in time you will be glad you had the memories you made from this relationship and you will think of all the things you learned. i am sorry you have to go thru this, and i wish i could give you a big hug right now.

love,
little momma

Answer 6

You tell yourself that you are better off without them and start taking better care of yourself. Keep yourself busy and active. If you don't you risk having a harder time dealing with the breakup. Just tell yourself you will find someone else someday. DO NOT rush into a new relationship. Take time to just be single and enjoy it. Spend time with friends and family and go out and do something nice for yourself.

Answer 7

After a break up it is allways good to stay around the people that love you like your friends and family. You may not love yourself right now but it's good to get that attention from family and if they aren't around try joining a church and getting envolved with the community and show love to other people instead of yourself! And just try to stop being self centered

THIS IS THE BEST ANSWER!

Answer 8

You have to know that "It take two to make it or break it!"
You have to believe in yourself and your own special qualities. Work on your own values and do something for yourself, that makes you happy. After all, the only person you can really control is yourself.
It's sometimes hard to believe, but the sun will still come up in the morning and you must meet it, with your best foot forward.

Answer 9

That's easy.

If it was meant to be, they would've stayed with you and realized what you have to offer the world and them is special. That's their mistake.

Put that dark thought on the back of your mind and do like that country song says "She let herself go!"

Have fun! Go to the gym with friends, shopping, a spa, a favorite restaurant, wherever you like, and treat yourself, just don't treat yourself too much.

Remember, you're loved by other people too, not just that one person you were with. If they love you, you can love yourself. Think of the positive qualities about yourself and not your flaws. Why do they love you?

Answer 10

So I guess u got dumped ha. Right, that doesn't make u feel better. You take a shower, clean ur nails, fix your hair, wear really hot clothes, and go to Dave & Butsers. There everyone will love you and oh yeah don't forget a pack of cigarettes.