I've decided after years of being a bad drunk to give it up. My friends all say I'll never last but I'm determined. I hope I can still have a good time! What do you think - is it possible to still have a good time?
2006-09-20 04:06:54 · 46 answers · asked by missieclass 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
The answer is no - you can't have a good time with a bunch of drunk friends when you aren't drunk. If you really want to give up drinking, you are going to have to find friends that want to do something with you other than drink. You are going to have to take up new hobbies. I wish you luck - it is hard. But if you think you are going to hang with the same friends at the same clubs and be able to stop drinking, then I'm with your friends - you won't last. I found that I had to hang out with different people - you can't make friends whose sole purpose in life is to go out and get wasted, want to ride bikes, exercise, take dance classes, etc.
And to all those people who said that it is fun to watch drunk people because they are entertaining - that's only true to a certain extent. It might be fun to watch drunk people for like an hour. Or you might enjoy it once a month - but you aren't going to want to do it 2-4 nights a week, and from 10:00 p.m. until 3:00 a.m. So if that's what you were doing before (partying 2-4 nights a week for 5-6 hours plus), you are not going to want to do that anymore.
2006-09-20 04:13:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can still have a great time if you are doing something you enjoy. With my business partner, we run karaoke in a bar a couple of nights a week. If I am driving, I drink a soda or water all night long, and have a great time. If I'm not driving, I will have a drink or two (or more), and still have a great time. It's all in your mindset. If you don't think you will have a good time sober, you won't.
The friends who say you won't last won't help you, either. They will rag you constantly about "don't you want a drink" or "let me buy you a beer?" Stick to your guns. It's kind of like dieting -- if you fall off the wagon every so often, just climb back on!
The people I don't understand are the ones who think they can't have a good time sober, and don't think anyone else can, either. You can have good times sober, and you can have bad times drunk -- is the glass half full or half empty?
Good Luck! And have a good time!
2006-09-20 04:15:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a better time! Honestly, drunk is not where it is at! Being in control is much more fun than being a drunk jerk. You will be safer, more confident, happier, healthier, and you'll have alot more money that you won't be wasting down the commode. You'll be free to spend your money on better options which will be more beneficial to you. It is nice to be clear thinking, responsible, and wiser. Remember YOU are the only one who can make the change in you. Don't fall for peer pressure, because there will be plenty of that when these friends try to drag you into the pit with them. There are wonderful people out there who don't get smashed. When you don't drink, you are more alive, more vibrate, more responsible and full of life.
Admitting you have a problem is the first step to sobriety. Congratulations and best wishes for a brighter happier and healthier future. Don't be sad if you find you need a new set of friends because it might be a blessing in disgust. Go for it. It is never too late for a fresh start for a better life.
2006-09-20 04:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first look for a new group of "friends". True friends would be really supportive of your decision because being a "drunk" is so bad for not just you but it affects everyone in your life. Yes you can have just as much fun not drinking in a group of people who are. At first you should maybe avoid those situations until you are sure you have your drinking under control. But later, you mite find you have more fun watching the others make fools of themselves. Im proud of you for making that decision. DOnt get me wrong, Im not with MADD or anything. I do my share of bottle tippin, (last nite was fun, lol). But thats just my release rite now, going thru some stuff........anyway. I just have little spurts and when life straightens out I stop. And yes, i can still be the life of the party without the booze. Realizing you need to stop is the biggest and hardest step. And you made it!!!! Youre halfway there already. You can do this...
Good luck to you. You are making the right choice,
2006-09-20 04:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by rwdycwgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think good on you for doing this and being so determined but I don't think you will have as good a time if all your friends and everyone around you is very drunk. That's my own experience anyway. You never find silly things funny when you are sober but when you are drunk the most stupidest thing can seem hilarious. Drunk people can be very annoying when you are sober so I hope you have a lot of patience.
It depends what sort of person you are and your personality. Give it a go and you will find out.
2006-09-20 04:11:47 · answer #5 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one, it will be hard for you and your friends cos its threatening their fun to have sober you around but hopefully they and you can adjust or it may just throw a whole new perspective on things and you might think i could do with giving up these friends with the drink, who knows its something you just got to try, good luck you are brave, sometimes we get trapped in role of telling everyone what a great time we are having when plainly we arent, hope you do it, its hard being around drunks when you are sober though and intimidating but dont be put off show them what they are missing, a clear head and a good memory
2006-09-20 04:11:28 · answer #6 · answered by Barbie B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends. I was a tee-totaller for almost 15 years IN the NAVY, going out with friends occasionally, and dancing, and hoo-hawing. I announced right away, that I was the designated driver, so for them to party-on and I would drive them home and prop them up against their doors.
I was fun-I danced my legs off. I didn't drink, but always had a coke on the table. Any way, it worked for me, because I had ALREADY quit drinking. My friends respected my resolve.
YOU might need to hang with different people for a while, or get a hobby like flying model airplanes or knitting, something that uses your hands and totally engages your attention.
If you are addicted to alcohol, you may need to stay away for a while-so you won't fall off the wagon.
Go to an AA type meeting and meet people who will support your new life.You will have fun-just now, you will be able to remember it!
"Friends" who challenge you to fail, or will make fun of your efforts are not friends, but drinking buddies.
A friend is a person who wants you to be the best you know how to be. A friend supports your activities to help you with addictions, not make fun of you for being human.
A drinking buddy wants you to stay drunk, and doing nothing worthwhile, because then THEY don't have to change what THEY are doing, either. A drinking buddy will entice you to drink-- just one-- and then laugh because he could annihilate your resolve so easily. A drinking buddy is one who will feed cake to a diabetic, instead of offering them fruit.
First of all, you might want to redefine the type of people you want in your life. Change requires change.
And remember, if you keep doing what you've been doing, you're going to get what you've been getting.
Good luck, and good going!
2006-09-20 04:55:04 · answer #7 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely, I stopped drinkin for a number of years still gettin high though but it was most entertaining watching my friends getting drunk and acting like total idiots. The girls would spend hours getting dressed up in a nice dress and high heels to look totally hot and sophisticated, yet at the end of the night they would be barefoot and throwing up in the gutter ( in a totally sophisticated way) The guys would dress smart and be full of confidence in there ability to impress the most beautiful women. The next day they would swear she didnt look that bad last night. Alcohol impairs judgement and reverts the mind to a much earlier time like when you were ten. Funny to watch. although it can put you off drinkin. I remember to best mates fighting over who was gonna eat the carrots from the vomit one had projected on to the footpath
2006-09-20 04:23:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I gave up 6 years ago. Best thing i ever did. I suspect for similar reasons that you are going through too.
Yes you can have a laugh, and a good one too!
I would avoid going to places that you know will be serving alcohol, trust me, its best.
Alcohol is habit forming, the sooner you get out of the habit the better.
If you, or any other reader, need any further help towards reducing you're alcohol consumpsion do not hesitate to call Alcoholics Anonymous.
They are not the 'enemy' that everyone thinks they are.
2006-09-20 04:14:26 · answer #9 · answered by Moorglademover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! No one likes a bad drunk!
I have the most fun when I'm the only sober person at a party. I get to laugh at everyone else making fools of themselves. I take photos of them, and show them the next morning (sometimes I threaten blackmail ha-ha) and put silly makeup on the first one who passes out. It's loads of fun being sober, it leaves you at the top of the pecking order.
2006-09-20 04:12:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anria A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋