me n my bf are best friends, well we used to be. as soon as i got pregnant he seemed to stop talking to me about anything important. our daughter is 5 months now and he still wont talk to me about anyting more than his day at work and even that is very short n to the point. when i ask him he says he has alot on his mind or that nothings wrong. we dont even have conversations about stupid stuff anymore. he can always hold a conversation w his friends but if i join in he stops talking. how do i approach this w him without him getting defensive and giving me more silence?
2006-09-20 03:58:21 · 12 answers · asked by drgn0016 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
girl i hate to tell you but that is just how most men are and if he tells you there is alot on his mind try gently asking him what the problems are that the two of you can try and figure things out together that yall are in this thing together as far as him talking with his friends let him he has to have space of his own to be just himself sit back and listen you might be supprised what you learn about him his views and oppinions he has taken on alot of responsibility friends are a way to release tension without blowing up at you
2006-09-20 04:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by prissymiss1968 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming that this baby wasn't planned? He is probably overwhelmed by the fact that he has to grow up and be responsible for taking care of a baby.If he's stopped talking to you,the next step is probably out the door.Unless you BOTH wanted a baby,you were both responsible for birth control.There are WAY to many products on the market today to say this "just happened".Too many young guys are only thinking with their penis,they don't stop to think about the consequences.At least you had the baby,and didn't have an abortion.But honey,I'd be prepared to be a single parent pretty soon.If he gets to the point where he starts arguments,instead of talking,I'd kick him to the curb and send him walking.The baby doesn't need to be brought up in a hostile inviorment.Take care sweetheart,your a mom now and your first concern is your precious child.Stay strong and God bless.
2006-09-20 04:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by LEJIANE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously allowed yourself to get pregnant too early. Now yer stuck w/ a jerk who is re-thinking his life w/ you. This is only gonna get worse. I have no advice for you since you made the biggest mistake in getting pregnant so young. Now unfortunately, you & your daughter are going to eventually be on your own. Get counselling & talk to your parents. Find a way to provide for yourself & your daughter financially in case this @ssh0le leaves you flat.
2006-09-20 04:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by Dookiee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be the adult and grow up. He obviously has issusing with you getting pregnant but who helped you get this child? Don't let him stress you out your child can still have a relationship with his father but you don't. If he doesnt want to talk to you do he atleast talk to you about your child? If not then he isn't interested in you or your baby. Don't sweat you can raise your child on your own. Don't let no man bring you down.
2006-09-20 04:03:20 · answer #4 · answered by Tyler&Noah's mommy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmm..i'm just thinking..
try this,let's say if one day u almost got into an accident(whatever it may be),exagerate it a little and see how does he respond,if he still acts like what u've described,confront him and tell him about everything that u feel deep down,ask him straight in his face but dont be too offensive,dont want a terrible end to ur situation,talk to him seriously but not offensively(since ur dealing with serious stuff)..
all the best,hope this will help..
2006-09-20 04:03:40 · answer #5 · answered by alexgnot 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he is jealous of the baby...Sounds silly, but therre are men out here like that. He may resent you for having the baby. I would really sit down and have a heart to heart with him because you two have a child and it shouldn't be that way between you.
2006-09-20 04:01:48 · answer #6 · answered by I'M BOSSY 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The simple answer is; He feels trapped. He doesn't talk to you because you are his captor. Even though he knows he did it, and Because he feels obligated to do his duty to provide for you and the baby, he still feels like you are the keeper of the key.
2006-09-20 04:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by oldman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be direct.. and ask him what the problem is. Sounds like you two need couseling. Maybe he didnt want to become a father at such a young age and blames you for it.
2006-09-20 04:01:36 · answer #8 · answered by a 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn English! And why did you make a baby with just some "guy"? He just wants you for sex, and now obviously to be his "babies mommy"...wise up and move on. Only now you get to deal with this guy for the next 18 years - GOOD JOB! Women like you make me so mad...making babies that now I get pay for with my tax dollars - GOOD JOB!
2006-09-20 04:06:08 · answer #9 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels tied down. Maybe he didn't want to be a father. He feels more free to talk to his friends.
2006-09-20 04:08:06 · answer #10 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋