i am 22 she is 18 and has been with my brother-in-law for 4 years but married only 1. they got married only because she was pregnant. while pregnant he seemed to loose interest in her. and now 5 months after the baby was born he has even less interest in her needs. she has tried to talk to him and all he has to say is he is tired. i have been with my wife for 5 years now and married for 4 of them. her sex drive has decrased very much. i have tried to get her to see a doctor but she will not! i have offered to go with her. i love her and do not want to leave her because i know it will hert her, but i still enjoy and need sex very much! lately there has been a lot of flirting between me and my brother-in -law's wife. i would realy like to have the sex as well as she has been almost a year sence her husband has gave her the needed attention. PLEASE HELP!
2006-09-20 03:55:11 · 22 answers · asked by help 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i did not add that the problems with my wife and i heve been going on for 3 1/2 years.
2006-09-21 04:21:49 · update #1
Go for it.Tho you might be quite about it. Could be a good thing for everyone.Nice to keep it in the family.
2006-09-20 03:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ya'll lack of sex lives are indivual problems within your own relationships. Try focusing on who your with instead of each other. Could be part of the problem.
hers- It is sometimes normal for things to change after a baby. He may look at her different, the whole mommy image and the body changes and all. Or he could have a little resentment that his life has changed because of the baby. They may need a little help (professional) over that hump.
Yours- its normal for couples to go through slow spots during the marriage. You just need to spend some alone time and try to reconnect. Try to remember what sparked ya'll in the beginning.
Either way, messing with family is wrong in so many ways. Not worth the problems it causes all the way around.
Ya'll should probably quit discussing that particular subject between each other. Im sure you both have other friends to discuss it with. If you care about your wife, keep it in your pants!
2006-09-20 11:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by rwdycwgrl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not your job to help her out. That's her husband's job. As for you, you need to find out why your wife libido has decreased. You seem too young to be married. But cheating on your wife is not going to solve your problem, it's just going to increase it. You and your wife might need to go to marriage counseling. What you need to do in the mean time is develop some hobbies that can keep your mind occupy. Why don't you try doing something special for your wife instead of trying to have sex all time. Show her that you love her for more than sex. Do something romantic or something that she likes for a change. Then just maybe that will turn things around.
2006-09-20 11:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you talked with your wife about why she has no sex drive. Maybe it is you. Try masterbating. That will relief your blue balls. If sex is that important then you need to leave your wife Now. You should not sleep with someone who is in the family, that will cause your whole family to be in a uproar. You are only going to hurt yourself, your wife and the other girl in the long run. If you are any kind of man you will keep talking with your wife. and leave the other women alone.
2006-09-20 11:04:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Boy, you really like life on the edge, don't you?
You may want to consider how you are going to deal with your wife before you take on your sister in law. If you and your wife split over the sex issue, your sister-in-law would still be a bad decision...that sort of thing would get you a spot on Jerry Springer's stage.
2006-09-20 11:38:41 · answer #5 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things that seems very enticing and reasonable can take you into a lot of trouble later on. Try to imagine what would happen if your brother or your wife find you sleeping with her, are you ready for this?
If you say you can provide convincing answer to your brother you can go on with your plan, otherwise think again and think a lot. Maybe it will be easier to fix your relationship with your wife as muddling with your brother marriage
2006-09-20 11:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by questforquestion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get Real. Don't you read these things? They need to work out their own problems without you involved. Oh, and by the way, It is probable that your wife's lack of desire is between her ears not a physical problem. You should really spend more effort in your own house and stay the hell out of other's.
2006-09-20 11:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused, your brother-in-law is your wife's brother right? Cause at first reading it sounded like you wanted to sleep with your sister who married this guy, sorry for the confusion. Either way it's a bad deal!
2006-09-20 11:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by scorpion187us 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you say you love your wife but want to have sex with your sister in law I hate to tell you but if you truely love your wife then sex does not matter that much but you and your wife do need help because sex is part of any healthy relationship if you are threw with your marrage then yea sleep around but if you truely want it to work you need to tell your wife that it is becoming a real problem for you do not mention your sister in law in this discusion in fact do not mention wanting anouther woman just tell her how much you want this resolved between the two of you and stay away from your sister in law she is just looking for the attention she does not recieve from her own husband and is using you to get it
2006-09-20 11:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by prissymiss1968 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have no sympathy for you..People are never satisfied. Leave the sister in law alone your wife needs your attention right now....
2006-09-20 11:04:04 · answer #10 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋