Lets say:
Ok, my younger distant cousin who is 19, slept - at least twice- with my older brother, who is 27 just over 1 year ago. I know this cause I could hear what woz going on and smell the dope.
Anyways, she is now a 'working girl' an the other nite, we had a bit toooo much to smoke..you know what i mean? we ended up doing it. my brother woz out at the time. when he came back later in the nite , she went into his room. and i could hear what woz going on.
she said she loves me. but how kan i believe her when she has gone with him, behind mi back?
i dont feel good in this situation cause i got a girlfriend that i really like, but i feel like a creep cause i cheated on her with my .. distant cousin..
wot i want 2 do is end it with her but i feel really bad about it all. any suggestion 4 confidential advisors etc?
2006-09-20 03:23:21 · 19 answers · asked by grossman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Complicated is an understatement, you feel badly, that's the primary feeling, she's your cousin, there is nothing to break off if there was nothing there to start with. You have an established relationship, don't risk that on something that is fleeting. And stop smoking that what started the who mess in the first place.
2006-09-20 04:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by Solitary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to break the bad news, but I don't think she truly loves you if she slept with your brother. On the surface, although I don't know much she appears to be a bit of a madam and I would leave her well alone - I know it will probably be difficult to do so.
Some women get a kick or some weird power thing about playing one man off an other and these things always lead to heartache.
On top of this if your proper girlfriend finds out - she will probably dump you. You will run the possiblity of being alone. Its not worth it - cut it now or risk the conquences. Get out while you still can.
2006-09-20 10:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by km 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay away from your distant cousin, it seems as she does not know what she wants, and you also stop the smoking, it is also messing up you mind. It is too much inter family tangling here, and that is not healthy. This can turn around and kick you all in the butt, later in life, so leave it alone while you have a bit of common sense.
2006-09-20 10:32:35 · answer #3 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, i dont understand what it is u want really.
But, firstly, not only shouldnt u and ur brother be sleeping with ur cousin(no matter how distant..as long as she's blood related), i dont think u should want to keep a relationship with her.
And why would u want to end it with ur present girlfriend? Confess to her..see what happens. Or dont u love her anymore?
And i'm not trying to judge...but it would be nice for u to cut down on the smoking a bit....u know what i mean.
2006-09-20 10:39:52 · answer #4 · answered by cookie_recipe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not care how distant this person is...she is your cousin and that is shameful. I would not even be posting something so wrong. Go find someone out of your gene pool and get a life. That is just nasty, you should all be ashamed of yourself...unless of course you live in Alabama where marrying your third cousin is legal which is just as disgusting.(I am not from AL, I just moved here for peace and quite)
2006-09-20 10:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by thedothanbelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never get anything besides sex from your cousin, it's wrong you shouldn't have done it, keep your mouth shut to your girl cause then everyone in town will know you "keep it in the family." You need to look at the situation and realize how dumb you were to screw around with family, just act normal or at least try to maybe keep some distance between you and your cousin.
2006-09-20 10:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by DispatchGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why put yourself through all the emotional acrobatics? This cousin does no more than think (and I use that term loosely) with her thighs. What is she trying to erase or escape from with this type of behavior? Certainly not the actions of someone who concerns themselves with you're happiness. Love is not simply a physical union. Far from it. It is concerning yourself with your partners happiness and attempting to bring that about in your day to day living. You both need to concentrate on something other than feelings. They will lead you astray more times than not. I'd concentrate on the space between your ears a little more.
2006-09-20 10:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by anon_y_muse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok no one saw you so it didn't happen. Do not tell you girlfriend anything you will only hurt her. Your cousin sounds like a tramp because she's bumped uglys with you and your bro without a thought for either of you. I suggest you give her a wide berth and don't go there again!
2006-09-20 10:49:09 · answer #8 · answered by Queen D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made a mistake and you have learnt from it so why hurt the girl you like, put it behind you and start a fresh
2006-09-20 10:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!
2006-09-20 10:27:19 · answer #10 · answered by deep5223 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋