My husband treats me like my feeling and wants aren't important and when I do try to tell him how he's acting he just doesn't care. Now I just go day by day try to make sure he's happy cause my happiness doesn't seem to matter. All he cares about are his drug addict friends and hanging out with them while I sit at home lonely. I'm just so misreble! Please help!!!!
2006-09-20 03:21:23 · 24 answers · asked by Asia 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know that your wants and needs and concerns are important. Since your husband does not care then it is not much of a stretch to say he does not care about you. I recommend that you let him know that as his wife you are suppose to be his partner and he should be available for you just as you are for him. If he does not seek treatment and make a legitimate effort to change then you fear that your marriage will end up in divorce court. As someone above said just be careful that in the future to not just settle but find a man who will be your partner. Good luck in your future and I wish you the best.
2006-09-20 04:18:05 · answer #1 · answered by tom4texas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not you hun...he has a disease and thats drug addiction. Its not that he doesnt love you but the influence pursuades him. He is not thinking clearly. You need some professional help and get him into rehab. Dont just go dump him. Your oath is for better or for worse. He needs you and needs you badly even though right now he'd probably would tell you to bud out, dont for his own good. If he comes clean and hopefully he will, he will love you more then ever before and will appreciate you not giving up on him. All you can do is try but put an honest effort into it. You might not be able to save him but atleast you tried. People into drugs sometimes have to hit an all time low before realizing if they dont kill themselves first. I am so anti drug its not funny. That crap scares the heck out of me. I dont like to be out of control of myself. Dont alter my thinking. Good luck hun...my prayers are with you.
2006-09-20 10:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by Ivory_Flame 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My question to you is, Why are you still with him? Love isn't supposed to make you feel the way you're feeling right now. Life is too short to be sitting around taking crap from somebody. You need to truly ask yourself if you think he's worth it. I know that I would move Heaven and Earth to make my husband happy, but if he started treating me badly, I'd leave. I'd rather love him and hurt without him, than to love him and hurt because of him.
2006-09-20 10:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by outlandsishlady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Posting half naked pictures shows that you don't get the attention at home. He is a looser! I don't think you as a wife should be put second to friends and especially drugs!!
Your beautiful! Move on find someone better that will treat you right. Let him destroy his life.
He who anger you controls you! Don't let him bring you down. Don't be miserable because of him. He obviously isn't!!
LEAVE AND NEVER LOOK BACK!!
2006-09-20 10:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You treated yourself like your needs were unimportant by marrying a drug addict. Tell him either to get into treatment, or prepare to be divorced. If the latter, remember NOT to marry another addict in the future.
2006-09-20 10:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
put your foot down. try bringing up the idea of divorce. he needs to know that you are his wife and that he can't be treating you this way. everyone should have the right to be happy, even though that is not always the case. you need to push harder to get your happiness. i was in the same situation you were in, mine ended in divorce. but now i am happy as can be and i would never go back to the way things were. wish you the best of luck?
2006-09-20 10:27:17 · answer #6 · answered by just me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your at a dead end..
you need to decide whats more important now your self and feeling or his life and drugs...
there is no sense in a marriage for one person to be happy and the other miserable..
if you want to stay in the relationship..try this
ignore his needs..and focus on your happiness
turn his friends for the drug use. (anonymous that is)..
good luck
2006-09-20 10:31:09 · answer #7 · answered by turner32542 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know what you can do to make him realize that he's hurting you and your unhappy but something needs to be said and done or going to be continue being miserable and build hatred towards him which will lead to and end to your marriage.
Just keep on trying to get through to him, this is the person your going to spend the rest of your life with....so make that life happy.
Like that gay guy on Project Runway always says "Make it work!"
2006-09-20 10:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by Melia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a two way street... Both parties should be happy.. You should put your foot down tell him you love him but you are tired of this and miserable and will leave if it does not stop.. You might have to leave for a few days for him to take you seriously also...
2006-09-20 10:25:16 · answer #9 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He really needs to grow up. I would give him a choice, either me or your no-good friends. Make him choose and maybe change, if not then leave. You dont need this mess, life is hard enough as it is.
2006-09-20 10:25:01 · answer #10 · answered by cfoxwell99 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋