i am cheated by my lover we were together for the past 3 years she went away giving me the reason that i am not equal to her status what should i do i want peace i did try suicide but i was saved i want to forget her what should i do can any body give me a good suggestion? i am sick at heart please help me.
2006-09-20 03:17:19 · 15 answers · asked by Srinivasan R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im one with same story of mr.nupkary, I Strongly stand by his comments and yet the final line is important "as far you are true" in the sight of God.
Get up and go out , face the world, its just like learning from errors but be careful not to committ the same error again.
2006-09-20 12:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by Muttama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I really feel sorry for you. Well, i can certainly understand the way you feel & what you are going through. Let me tell you something FORGET it ! I know it is hard to overcome but pls try.If you stay with your family concentrate on them. Till now what all affection you did give to her try giving the same to your family ( parents, brother ,sister if any ) n trust me you will feel the change.
Trust me they are the people who were, who are & who will be with us in our good or bad days. Go to temple, go for movie, concentrate on work & iam sure all this will help you overcome your pain fast. You made a BIG blunder i wud say by trying to commit suicide. Thought of hurting your loved ones becoz of someone who is not you worth your affection at all & was so mean t leave you after 3 years ???? NO!! Pls never ever think about suicide no matter whoever betrays !! Life is to live !!
There are many fishes in the sea ! I bet someone better is gona come your way ! So cheer up & smile :)
2006-09-20 12:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by Raji 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a reason for everything.It is sure very difficult to get over a 3 years relationship just like that.But you still have to try.
You can start by disposing off certain things that remind you of her.Try to focus on somethings that you enjoy doing like work or any form of recreation or sports.Always see yourself a winner and not a looser.You don't have to kill yourself over a girl.
so be strong and always remember that every disappointment is a blessing in disguise.you will some day find someone that appreciates you just the way you are as well as your statues.i wish you the best and don't even think or dream about committing suicide anymore because winners don't do that.take care.
2006-09-20 10:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by jose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is true that death is the end of all strife. It will come to all of us without our looking for it.
Life is sustained by tension, just like planets are sustained by gravity. So please don't look for a tensionless life, that is no better than death!
Did this girl give u happiness during the three years u were together? If yes, treasure those memories, and move on; if not, "Good riddance to bad rubbish", I say.
2006-09-20 20:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by penjoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how many ghost have you seen inviting people to come to the other side.....none.....ALL OF THEM THAT I EVER HEARD OF IS TRYING TO GET BACK OVER HERE....SO DON'T DO ANYTHING SO DETRIMENTAL..... put that love into YOURSELF and you will be able to come out of this. Show her that she was right.... your are not on equal status... your are above her........because you would not treat anybody that way.....you understand that life has ups & down, and somtimes peoople seem to be falling when they are really digging in and making a foundation. So if she wants to be shallow let her. God has a plan for everyone ....so get off that speeding train, and focus on your life. THERE IS SOMEONE BETTER FOR YOU ....GIVE HER TIME TO FIND YOU ................. WHAT DON'T KILL YOU WILL MAKE YOU STRONGER........SO GROW IN STRENTH,emotionally...physically...mentally....Let the goodness in your heart shine.....shine like a light in the sky.... Don't let any human break your SPIRIT..... God is not through with you yet!!!! BELIEVE IN YO-SELF...BELIEVE IN YO ABILITY...and GOD.
2006-09-20 10:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by cilverpenni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this was happen in my life just 2 yrs. ago.but i am happy now.after my marriage i told all the mater to my wife.now she is loving me more n more, in which i have already forgotten my first love.this is nothing a important think in life. forget her .u should not make Ur partner as a cheater.u search Ur life u will find Ur true love with life
2006-09-20 10:45:16 · answer #6 · answered by sanat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing you need to accept that you loved her but she doesn't.
she opposed you, forget that u love her, but remember the one u loved is staying in your heart, only for you. yaar must think positive about that time you spend with her. you got great experiance of love. not everyone able to get it. love is not about getting something but about what you can give. you not loose any thing in love but you get good remembrance for your whole life. her memories must bring smile on your face not anger or frustration. it's not the end of life but the beginnig.
be normal with her, but show her that you are a winner, you win this phase of life too.
2006-09-20 12:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by maddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getout of that place. stay in new place. make new friens. join meditation. do social service . join charity. follow some guru. stay there. revitalise ur blood relations. they help u. marry immediately with ur parants concerned. focus more on money social status. dont bother about profitless love. in society no one bothers why r u worrying?.
2006-09-20 15:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by meenakshim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really heart breaking.wat so ever happen it is 4 good. let him go out of ur mind.it will take time but only time and friends like us can heal ur wound.if a person make u cry he does not deserve ur tears and if he deserves u he wont make u cry.
2006-09-20 14:56:22 · answer #9 · answered by jugnu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Mr. Fool,
Dont you feel ashemed to express your weakness to the world!!!
Your lover knew that you are not suitable for her...then why did you spent three long years behind her?? Do you think that suicide is the last option???
Listen to my real story:
I fall in love with a girl in 1985 (of my caste and of my community)....we were together for {in love} for five long years...I spent about Rupees one lakhs over her family because there were no male issues in their house...Her father was a criminal and I stood sureity for him in Court...but he jumped the bail and put me in trouble...I went to jail for her cause....
After five long years she got a decent job in a MNC (in 1989) and her greedy mother brain washed her to avoid me...I was working in a small firm at that time....
No sooner I came to know about her retreat in our love ...I did thank her "for causing me loss of few lakhs" rupees..... I blessed her ...She cried a lot and said that she wanted to marry a boy working in MNC under the pressure of her mother....considering the future of her four yonger sisters...I blessed and her and her sisters and got out from their house once for all.....
I understood her mother's attitudes and withdrew myself from the mess of deep love. It took ten long years for me to come to a normal life or to forget her.....however, today I am married and lead a happy life with my two children and with my dedicated wife...
I wasted ten long years to forget her and wasted my valuable life ...but at last the result was...she and her mother lost the battle and I won.the same....She is married to a very big man but without issues and without any satisfactions for the last ten years.....because he is a drunkard and use to tortoure her severly....
Now she feels hurt by avoiding me..?? BUT TOO LATE!! Even know I love her but my LOVE is known to only the GOD....
I am leading my life happily with my wife and children...God is with me...I often pray for her betterment but...but.....
So my dear, forget what had happened and concentrate on your future GOD WILL BE ON YOUR SIDE.PROVIDED IF YOU ARE TRUE AND FAITHFUL...
{No spelling correctin done}
2006-09-20 10:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by NUPAKRY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋