2006-09-20 02:51:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Maybe because you are afraid of getting to close to someone because then you would be vulnerable to getting hurt. If you hurt them first you feel powerful.
2006-09-20 02:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by Seeker 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Quite normal, and many people are very comfortable at it (only, they take out an insurance by putting up a show with 'I care for you too' like show!).
Why, being nice, is traditionally advocated is simply because there is a greater comfort in being so , greater than this normal comfort !
But to experience this greater comfort, not thinking about it (thinking would never bring a person anywhere near it), a person has to deepen his awareness, consciousness, perception, to be able to feel other people from within(logically it looks irrational ofcourse... that is why it is purely experiential), and then things never imagined before begins to happen. Joyousness has a totally different quality, dimension, and life happens big way !
2006-09-20 13:40:55 · answer #2 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just a mean person. If it makes you happy then keep it up but try to understand that some people, actually most people will dislike you and avoid you. There are more people like you out there though, find them on the internet and you can be mean and evil together therefore staying true to yourself but also having a social life.
Bonus!
2006-09-20 09:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You easily get bored with your good deeds. Being evil brings you challenge and mostly triumph especially when you see the other person gets really pissed off. Or perhaps you feel to receive greater recognition as being bad than good.
Hmmmm... example, when you meet somebody who is not so nice, you try to be worse than that person... you tend to compete and find out who's meaner between yourselves. Therefore, it's a challenge and you measure how good can you really be at being mean.
Anyway, I hope you don't go beyond pissing off other people because you just might end up in jail; or worse, dead.
*puts on his cloak* ^__^
2006-09-20 10:54:13 · answer #4 · answered by Mike N. D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might be from childhood. Was that the only way for you to get any attention was to act out? If so that is how you learned to get attention. Since children will do anything to get attention, this then becomes a learned behavior.
You might want to try getting some counseling and reading some great books on changing your behavior.
Good Luck and God Bless
2006-09-20 10:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps you feel by being mean, you are more in control of a particular situation. and also perhaps without realising you arre intimidating others. Try and be nice one step at a time, whether it be starting off by just saying hello or smile, then gradually make small aimless talk such as' lovely day'. just remember you smile and the whole world smiles with you.
and also smiles are contagious :)
2006-09-20 10:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by trandru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone (even if they don't admit it) is selfish and evil on some level. That is how humans are naturally.
We need to give our life to God and allow Jesus to make us more loving. We need to put others first and put our own feelings on the back burner.
In serving others we find freedom.
2006-09-20 10:08:04 · answer #7 · answered by dogpreacher@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a result of your up-bringing!!! Take a look back on your own life and maybe you'll find the answer there. Just remember you'll catch more bees (friends) with honey than vinegar.
2006-09-20 10:00:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. Are you being mean for fun, like me and my friends (Ex.: You stupid queerbate fag, I'll kill you in your sleep with a garden hose!), or just to be mean (Ex.: I hope you die, just like your grandfather!). If it's the first, keep doing it. If it's the second, switch to the first, and make sure that you don't actually hurt anyone.
2006-09-20 10:02:09 · answer #9 · answered by Damian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you may have been hurt in the past and found that being nice isnt getting you anywhere in life. its a mask to protect the very sweet inner you the one that built this mask to protect herself. i know i used to have that problem myself.
2006-09-20 10:00:03 · answer #10 · answered by wendy4anri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋