when she was 16 yrs. she got married, since that she suffering from her In-laws and husband she got 2 kids, she has been treated like a maid at home and for husband she is just for a bed use. Any ways she want to get ridd off this relation, where there is no peace no joy, now one of our relative is ready to marry her, now people they started talking bad about her that how she can leave her husband and marry another person,,, my opinion is why not, why she cannot marry, she has no right to spend her life in peace, why to bare all this and stay with him, when she have a better choice for her future and can spend her life the way she want she is just 26 now. please advice for my sister. wat is good for her future life.
2006-09-20 02:47:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Perhaps you do not belong to a muslim family or you do not know about the muslim law.
A women in Islam can take "KHULA" from her husband on certain grounds like the one which you have explained.
This provision is not available to the women of any other religion.
2006-09-20 03:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by ♪¢αpη' ε∂ïß♪ ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its best for your sister to go through marriage counselling. What do your parents think about this, are they also okay with the idea that she wants to be divorced. She shouldn't have married so young anyway because she's still a kid raising kids. Does she really want to go through the stigma of being divorced and then maybe have her kids taken away from her and even if she gets to keep the kids...the stepfather will never treat them as well as their own father can do. Not only will she suffer in a new marriage but her kids will do too. She should separate from her husband if she is so desperate and not remarry if she wants to have normal kids. If things are really so bad then she should divorce because Islam allows divorce and yet it is the most hated thing in Islam. If she gives up her kids, then she should get married right away because her kids won't suffer then.
2006-09-20 09:57:43 · answer #2 · answered by DrSH 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are her sister, and you can help her to make a decision, to come out from this situation, you stick with her and help her to get out from this mess. First thing you must do is to convince her to get out from that house, find a good lawyer and file for divorce, at the same time you / your family start talking with other guy and his family to marry her. You should not let your sister or family bother about what other people say about your sister.
You have to stand up against all the odds and help your sister to come out from this bad marriage.
GOOD LUCK,
2006-09-21 12:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anil G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she has complete right to decide about her life. Only thing she must do dearing to come out from this all. If she is not happy in her life why should she live in this hell life. And just dont care what peoples say caz they are only there to say about others.
I can understand the situation you are going throgh as a brother. I wish you all the best for you n your sister.
2006-09-20 10:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by santra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I answered you sister's question yesterday.she needs to get a divorce and be with the other man.she should be happy.She needs to get a job so the husband can't take the kids from her.I'm not sure about the do's and don't of muslims but I don't think being abused and sticking around is in the book.
2006-09-20 10:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best course would be to take advise from your community leader.The marriage is something which is a gamble. Is she working or has enough education to support herself? You should involve your parents also to solve the problem
2006-09-22 01:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by gelilio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i completely agreeeeee with you and she not only must leave her husband but also give him a good lesson. she is a girl so vat, she has the same right tooo. she should make the decision only that makes her happy.
wish her luck.
suchetana
2006-09-20 13:19:45 · answer #7 · answered by suchetana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to get rid of her past and 2 marry again r different issues. try 2 make her independent. then can think about it
2006-09-20 14:47:05 · answer #8 · answered by jugnu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have heard or seen is only from your sister's yellow eyes, she knows the truth and NEVER EVER TRY TO SOLVE A PROBLEM BETWEEN A COUPLE .Allow them to solve by themselves.give time , its the best healer.
2006-09-20 10:38:57 · answer #9 · answered by s9consulting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"...now one of our relative is ready to marry her..." WHAT!? Maybe that's what your religion/ culture is into but whatever...
I agree with you, she needs to leave marriage, she is not happy, she is still young and can find that person that will love her and treat her with the respect she deserves....hope it all works out
2006-09-20 09:52:17 · answer #10 · answered by Melia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋