Going out on Friday night, have spoken to him a lot on the phone but never met him. I said I would meet him at a restaurant but he said no come to my house I'll make dinner...Here I was thinking I would meet him in public with a few hundred of my closest friends...anyone busy Friday, drinks are on him...he,he,he...or maybe I'll just bring my whole nutty family...if that doesn't scare him away nothing will...Anyway, my friend said she thinks I'm being stupid insisting on meeting him in public, am I? At least in a restaurant he wouldn't be able to hear me climbing out the bathroom window!
2006-09-20 02:34:36 · 26 answers · asked by sasha 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, he's not insisting, I just couldn't believe my friend thinks I'm the one being nuts to think I should opt for the restaurant. If he were pushing I wouldn't be going.
2006-09-20 02:42:32 · update #1
Thanks guys, now I have enough ammunition to inform my friend that she's the idiot, not me!!
2006-09-20 02:53:51 · update #2
Your friend is "whack". ;) Never having met him, do what my wife did, she brought her "posse", and we met in a crowded but quiet bar. I'd never been on a date with 10 people before that night. It was brutal, but I obviously passed the test.....
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If you are tired of batteries, go to his house. hahaha
2006-09-20 03:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by Sausage Fingers™ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay with the public date, especially the first date. If you are not comfortable with his alternate plan, tell him. The two of you can have dinner at his place or your place later. If he can't understand that, what else will he be unable to understand about your wishes or feelings later.
Got a great first date disaster story for you. I met this man, Joe. He seemed very nice and we talked for a few hours. We exchanged phone numbers and after a week he asked me to dinner. The day of the date he called to say he had found two great steaks when he stopped at the market on his way home from work and how about he throw them on the grill and we have dinner at his place. I was a little worried and wanted a public date, like you. But said ok and got directions. The house was way off the road which made me even more nervous. Girl, when I arrived, the man was standing in the driveway wearing nothing but a hat and holding a drink in his hand. Luckily the driveway was circular and I had the chance to throw dirt and gravel all over his naked a**.
2006-09-20 02:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by brenda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not stupid. A public place for a first meeting is so correct. You never know what can happen and meeting in public at least reduces the risk of making you vulnerable. It sounds like if you have spoken on the phone and want to see him he is probably a nice guy buy better to be safe.
Tell him that you would rather meet in a public place. You could say I would rather us get to know each other than you worring if the dinner you prepared is hot enough, tasty enough etc.,
Hope that helps.
2006-09-20 02:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by katydid013 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never met him? spoke on the phone only? I think you are nuts for meeting him at his home. Why not at least get a few drinks elsewhere to talk? You trust him so much so soon? When you say a lot on the phone whats that mean? Your friend is wrong, this mightb e a nice guy then again he might not be. Only you can tell the question is HOW do you plan on finding out and what risk are you willing to take in doing so. In some kind of hurry?
2006-09-20 02:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by JoeP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not being stupid for insisting that you meet in public. And he should accomidate the request. Meeting a stranger for the first time at their house with just you and them...now that would be stupid.
Drinks/coffee are perfect for a first date. No real time commitment that you would have with dinner or any other activity. You can check out anytime, or keep the date rolling longer if you are inclined to do so.
However a first date on a Friday? Not so sure about that part.
Have fun!
2006-09-20 02:44:44 · answer #5 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty name Kiddo, one of my favorites. Use Your smarts, if Your going to His house then make sure everyone is aware Your there, phone numbers are with family and friends; maybe even someone outside for a while; You getting my drift? Have family and friends call Him up and ask about His intentions, sounds old fashioned I'm sure; but being prudent is always the best path; and if He really is sincere then it won't be a problem. In fact He should want this, to make You feel more secure about it all. I know that's how I felt about my Beloved on our first date. I hope You hit it off, if You've gone this far along with Him You must really like the Dude!!!!
2006-09-20 02:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With this being the first time you are meeting I think it would be best to meet in a public setting. THis way if the date does not go well you can get in your vehicle and leave. I know you have been talking to him onthe phone and you feel you know him but the safest thing would be to meet in public the first date then let the chemistry or lack thereof to dictate the future ones.
2006-09-20 02:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by tom4texas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have never met this person you are a smart chick for meeting him in a public place its alot safer. There are a ton of nuts out there that like to hurt females. Get to know this person around others for a while before you go home with him. If he can't understand that then something is wrong.
2006-09-20 02:44:17 · answer #8 · answered by kittykat78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in your case it's a good idea to meet him in public since you've never actually met the guy. People are not always as they sound on the phone. Just in case he turns out to be different in person and you don't feel comfortable being with him you can make an excuse to leave.
2006-09-20 02:44:59 · answer #9 · answered by Coco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually agree with you. A restaurant is neutral territory and you will both be equally comfortable. If you have never met someone, it is safer to meet in public, regardless of how often you speak on the phone. It's not paranoia. Better safe than sorry.
2006-09-20 02:39:53 · answer #10 · answered by Kya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRUST ME
Meet him in a public place!
I have just got a psycho boy off my hands; and my advice to you is always meet someone for the first time in a public place. Also, have a friend who knows EXACTLY where you are. If the date's not going well, excuse yourself to the toilet, phone your friend up and ask them to phone you back in 5 mins. Then go back to your date. When you friend rings, you can tell him that she or he has a flat tyre and needs you to go pick them up (or some other terrible excuse).
Best of luck!
2006-09-20 02:39:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋