my girlfriend of almost 2 years left me recenty. i really miss her and id give anything to get her back. i made alot of mistakes consisting of talking to her badly, getting complacent, being niave when another woman tried it on with me (i honestly didnt know what going on, i thought she was being friendly but that wasnt the case when my girlfriend read one or two of her messages to me). after that i knew what was going on. then a few needless arguments with no real reason started. i was dealing with alot of stress and she unfortunalty got the bad side of my frustration which should never had happened. i completly accept all the mistakes i made. enough people have told me to give up and move on, im sorry but that is NOT an option. honestly love her more than anything or anyone. ive asked her to give me 1 last chance but she says a relationship isnt what she wants right now and she wants me to be her friend. after nearly 2years thats not really possible for me. how do i get her back? x
2006-09-20 02:07:39 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It seems that she is really hurt by what happened. I don't think that you should pressure her, give her some time. I am not telling you to give up or to move on just to let her calm down and ease her frustration. However do be honest with her and make sure to always tell her how you feel and even if its hard for you be her friend, be there for her and show her that you will always be there. That you are human and made a stupid mistake but that losing her is like losing part of your life, show all this to her make her see that are willing to support her and be by her side at all time even if that means making the sacrifice of only having her as a friend. If she still has feelings for you she will forgive you and come to you. But again be honest and transparent with her do not be afraid of showing you feelings. Good Luck!!!!
2006-09-20 02:18:22 · answer #1 · answered by andia2amat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try being her friend. It may be all the relationship, for now, that you can have with her. May be that or nothing. From the little you wrote, it doesn't sound like you were a great friend when the two of you were involved. She is probably way past the point of listening to the things you say and needs more to see the truth. Tell her to never hesitate to call you should she need anything or just to talk with no strings attached. Let go, for now. If she loves you, you will have another chance. You have to let her get past all the bad that is overshadowing any good in the relationship. If you go at this with the attitude of NOT an option, you will be the one left with NO options.
2006-09-20 09:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by brenda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation. It is hard. If you know it is over and there really is no coming back, then just try to stop looking at her pictures and stuff like that. Keep yourself as busy as you can with work and recreational activities. I went golfing for the first time yesterday and had a lot of fun. I thought about her still, but it was still a good way to get outside and stop looking at her pictures torturing myself.
Don't listen to the women here who are just out to piss you off. They are bitter women who have probably all had a bf treat them bad so they assume you are a punk based on what you said when actually you are probably a nice guy who just made some mistakes because you are human. I guess the only thing we can do is try to learn from this, take the good memories, and try hard to do better next time with the next girl. Just try to not compare every girl to her because if you do that you will end up passing by some great girls. I know I have done that already.
2006-09-20 09:18:08 · answer #3 · answered by Roger S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be her friend don't push her show her that you are a new man not just with her but with other people strangers, friends, family etc.and make sure she sees that you have change. If You hurt her deeply when you were together is not easy just to come back into something that she is not sure that is going to be different or the same. Just give her time be there for her make sure you don't smother her either but be a true friend and control yourself with your tamper it won't get you know where take an anger management course in the long run it will help trust me . Once she sees that you are a new man let her come to you and tell you she wants you or wait a few months that ways she sees you have change and ask her out again.
2006-09-20 09:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by spang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first of all, if she already asked you to just be friends for now then she means it. If she wanted to get back with you right away she would have. Im going to say that you do need to give her her time. I understand that it is frustrating becuase of the past that the two of you already have, but you are going to have to give her as much time as she needs. But, there is a way you can still be a part of her life. Try being JUST FRIENDS with her for awhile. I know its going to feel awkward, but in the end I think it will draw her back to you. Treat her the way she deserves to be treated every time you are with her. But, bring up things that the two of you did when you were together. See if she wont go out and do something with you like you always used to. Just dont ever bring up the bad past, the reason you broke up, NOTHING like that. Start over new, and see what you can do.
2006-09-20 09:14:31 · answer #5 · answered by c_69_2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe being her friend isn't a bad idea after all. At least she wants to be friends. It's like starting over. It's a good place to start and take it from there. Tell her you'll be her friend, but keep in contact, call her just to see how her day was, invite her out to eat, to the movies, send her flowers as a token of appreciation for her friendship etc. and go on from there. You have nothing to loose, if anything you have a lot to gain if all goes well. You might just win her heart back, you never know. It's all worth a try. Good luck!
2006-09-20 09:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by laigarval 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know..the best thing u can do to get her back is being her friend,u did hurt her very bad and its good that u know that u made mistakes.when u are her friend then u can show her that u changed.!!when u really want her back then u have to be patient,dont talk about things with her she doesnt wanna talk,be there for her..
i know it is very hard but if u dont wanna loose her total then be patient.
im shure u knew what was going on with this girl and your girlfriend knew it 100 prozent too.women feel it when something is wrong.my ex did some like u did to yours and i can imagine how she feels now.its horrible and u have no idea how bad she is really hurt.give her time,cause i think she also needs time to trust u again and u need to show her that she can trust u.but its going to be a while...
but dont give up-fight for her.
i hope u and her will find together again...
good luck
2006-09-20 09:44:39 · answer #7 · answered by starlight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok this is my advice to you..... Life is to short for anyone to be unhappy, and your girl realized that, she was not happy with you, or with the way the relationship was going....you say your sorry, and you made mistakes, but it took you and her to split up before you realized all of this, they say sometimes you dont realize what you have until it is gone, and I am a firm beilever in this....... the only thing that can help you and her both is TIME, and I have been in the same situation as you before I know the pain....it is awful, nothing can describe it, but time can tell it, time can tell if it is ment to be... because the answer is this................... Time can make you or break you.........You say there is no other option about having her...you say you have to........well i hate to break it to you this way, but if she dont want you, she dont want you..... but 2 years is a long time to be with someone and just let it go...........give her time, to see if this is what she really wants...and by giving her time, giver her, her space to.........it will all work out in the end.........take care good luck and god bless
2006-09-20 09:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by Kimmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't and the more you push it the further you will push her away. We females will put up with a lot of crap and then one day we take that last straw and then that's it, so long bucko. I'd say it sounds like you wanted your freedom from her or you wouldn't have been messing around with that other chick, or treating her like so much garbage. You got what you asked for. You've made your bed, now you have to sleep in it. Stop obsessing over her, it isn't healthy and can end you up in jail. Accept the fact that you screwed up and it's over. Get on with your life and find someone else.
2006-09-20 09:13:40 · answer #9 · answered by Lola 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing that you can do for her right now is give her the space that she is asking for. You can't make someone come back to you. There is a saying that says if you love someone set them free if it's meant to be then they will come back to you, if they don't came back then they were never yours to begin with! It is so hard to let someone you love go, but that's really all you can do. The ball is in her court if you know what I mean. Maybe she just needs some time! If she really loves you then she'll come back!
2006-09-20 09:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋