keeps wanting to reinforce the fact that she "only slept with him once". What's she trying to tell me? And why?
2006-09-20 02:02:43 · 13 answers · asked by phil5775 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She feels guilty and wants you to help her through it without judging her for her mistakes. Confessing is good for the soul esp. if there is much regret.....I know that is the only time I do it....otherwise I am pretty good at not regretting.
2006-09-20 02:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely something hard to comprehend. I have been there and have felt the way that your are feeling, it hurts and the dis-trust starts rushing in. I will say this though, people are only human and we all make mistakes. Maybe she wants to come clean with you and get it off her chest because it's a mistake that she wont make again. My husband cheated on me 5 years ago and we have since then worked it out and I am just now starting to trust him again. It's certainly tough, tougher on you then on her... but if you to love eachother, it can be worked out. Let her know you will have trust issues and she's going to have to deal with it for awhile. However, if your relationship isn't serious, move on... know this, once a person has cheated, you will always take a risk of infidelity happening again. Go with your gut!
Good Luck to you.
2006-09-20 09:14:48 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is trying to see how you would react to the fact that she has a past that involved affairs? Thats kinda weird that she stated the details though. I hope that she is not asking because she has already done something wrong and wants to see how you are going to handle it if you ever found out. Have you guys talked about this in the past? About things you did wrong in past relationships? If not, she is def. hiding something or is trying to figure out a way to hide something. Good luck!
2006-09-20 09:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by c_69_2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds immature or she bragging in some way shape or form. Why would you tell a current boyfriend about a past affair unless it had some sort of relevance or effect on your current relationship?
2006-09-20 09:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by Judy L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's either trying to get attention, still feel hurts over the affair, is trying to share with you that she has been hurt, or wants you to know that she doesn't want to be hurt again.
Or, she's just stupid and not ready for a commitment. definitely nix her if you find his old stuff still lying around.
Also, I would never date someone who constantly talks about a past love. It's a bad sign (been there, done that).
2006-09-20 09:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may be very insecure, she may want you to feel better about sleeping with her if she makes her past affairs sound rubbish. You never know, but really she sould concentrate on your relationship and not past relationships she has 'had' Tell her to grow up and concentrate on you two being together. If she doesn't she may be still wanting to be in the past .............................................. so be careful. I know after my ex and i finished i couldn't move on until i could have a good old gabber with my mates and not mention my ex's name!!!! But Good Luck!!!!!! x x
2006-09-20 09:17:06 · answer #6 · answered by Very Sexy Vixen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't matter, most important is as long as u are in her heart. never ever rack up her past again unless u want to spoilt ur relationship. remember i just read how a guy lost his gf, so pls don't do anything silly ok. good luck!
2006-09-20 09:48:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is insecure and trying to make you jealous?Maybe you are not giving her the attention she needs and by saying all this she is trying to GET your attention!Maybe you should tell her about one of your past relationships!
2006-09-20 09:06:48 · answer #8 · answered by firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready to accept her, despite her past? That's the question she's asking.
2006-09-20 09:15:30 · answer #9 · answered by Merlin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she might be trying to tell you she is cheating on you or maybe she thinks you are and is makeing up that she cheated just to see if you have.
2006-09-20 09:13:51 · answer #10 · answered by mellow_26241 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋