i love him but i can't keep raising my kids by my self....i feel as if i have a endless relationship!!!
2006-09-20 02:00:07 · 16 answers · asked by shismom5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my husband is one that can't sit still,hes got to be busy at all times i just wish my kids could see their dad more and i want time with him too....he will do things for someone else before me!!!help i don't know what to do i feel single but married!!!!!!
2006-09-20 02:14:20 · update #1
Welcome to being a parent.
My husband works a lot and travels to get extra income so we can have some of the nicer things in life. I work too but I am also responsible for the children ( 1 and 2) from the moment I get home until I leave. So i have a "break" during the day but I still wouldn't mind some help in the evening.
I found it was my own fault not taking hte opportunity to go out for some time to myself. Even if it is just going to the mall to walk around or the the park or for a walk around the block. I know how you feel. Trapped ina seemingly endless life like this.
Just recently I went online and found some moms in my neighbourhood in the same situation and it was a huge relief to talk with them and feel I wasn't alone.
I think we are all "brainwashed" by some TV shows showing these perfect family situations that don't really exist.
OIne things we do is hire a sitter one night a week and go out and do something fun with some friends. It seems more fun than going out just the two of us. We do silly things like bowling or mini-put or go play pool or darts. We have some laughs with our friends and it gets us through the next week.
See if your hsuabdn will take one child to an activity. My husband takes our son to skating. It's only and hours or so but it's a break. He also takes our older son along to Home Depot or even to go to the carwash. It is a break for you and bonding for them. As he gets more comfortable wiht them he does more things.
We are looking forward to when they are older and we can go camping together...or even them while mom stays home!
Good luck and please write if you need a shoulder...I really do uinderstand. Know you are not alone and cherish these times with the kids because beofer you know it they won't "need" you anymore.
2006-09-20 02:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by Sandra C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be an a good idea if you look for a part time job , put the kids in the day care if you don't want to work still put the kids still two days in the day care so you will have time for your self.....raise kids is hard and demanding so talk to your hubby and tell him how are you feeling and what do you need......you sound stressed.
2006-09-20 09:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much does he spend with you and the kids? My husband travel quite a lot, but he is in town he will put the family as 1st priority, cos I ever raised my concern to him and demand more time from him to be spent with me and the kids rather than his friends. Guess you have to speak to him to let him know how you feel.
2006-09-20 09:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by vosy2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in a very tough situation. I'm sorry that your having to deal with that yourself. Do you have any family or friend that could help out, plus the big thing is you and your husband need to get out and have a date night. That is the most important issue. Hope you have some luck in getting a break.
2006-09-20 09:04:25 · answer #4 · answered by loser 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you spoke with your husband? Do you work outside the home? Is he working extra hours to make a better life for his family? We all have to make sacrifices to achieve our dreams. Perhaps you contributing to the household income will help alleviate some of the financial burden he feels he must carry. I would definitely suggest that you speak with him, he sounds like a good man that you can not afford to lose.
2006-09-20 09:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you guys lack communication...talk to your husband about it and let him know all that you feel,explain to him that you want to have him more than what he is giving..
make it interesting for him when he is back home,try and make that much of time worth and get the best of him when he is at home,you also have to be a bit supportive,its not very easy to earn living for the family alone,maybe he is genuinely tied up with work,stand by him,instead putting more pressure...tell kids Dada loves them and so is out earning to give them a good life....plan great weekends and get the max when he is around!!good luck!!
2006-09-20 09:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to do the same thing in my marriage... I just felt needed by others, while I was just simply overlooking my family's need for me. I learned to adjust by checking with my wife and my children first to see if they had something planned or going on. If they did, I would have to decline on the request for my assistance. If they didn't have anything planned, I would ask if they wanted to go along.
2006-09-20 09:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should talk to him about it.. and see if u both can work and some days he can stay home and vs. .. and even make plans on the weekends for the both of to get the relationship heated up again
2006-09-20 09:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by Kiiss_MA_feeT_iiM_Royalty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are hiring a nanny and have the service send him the bills at the office.
2006-09-20 09:08:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to get a job and take some of the load off him.
2006-09-20 09:02:21 · answer #10 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋