I personally do not agree with smacking children because to me it does not seem to help matters but I could be wrong.
Does it actully do any good,and what are the alternatives ?
2006-09-20 01:09:45 · 24 answers · asked by mentor 5 in News & Events ➔ Current Events
I personally find other techniques work better for my child e.g. warnings, naughty step and reward charts but that takes just as much disciplinee from the parents as the children, routines work really well for me as well. I know parents have used smacking for centuries as a form of disciplin and I don't see if it is banned that physical abuse to children will stop unfortunately, but I do think it does send the wrong message to the child personally.
2006-09-20 05:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by chriisie2110 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am pleased you have asked this question, the answer is discipline, a smack does no harm, as long as it is done right and the child knows why he/she has had a smack, we are now living in a society, were we have taken discipline away from children, and most of them do what they want and they know that they will not be punished, they have no respect for people, I got a smack when I was growing up, and told right from wrong, and I am ok, I have two great kids who are teenagers, and they got a smack to, and they fine and very happy kids
2006-09-20 01:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are born animals.... humans that is, until we reach an age when we somehow manage to elevate our understanding to a level where we can rationalise and go beyond instinct.
Children are a grey area between newborns and teenagers, during the early years they operate on instants and a basic selfish moral code... I like this, I want this, I don't like this, I I don't want this (the "this" can be whatever... bath time, carrots, bedtime, wanting to put their hands into a fire...). Until they are old enough to understand they cant understand anything more then these basic wants and don't wants.
Smacking (not BEATING...just a short stinging rap on the bottom or wrist) they can understand... "if i do this (reaching for a naked flame for instance) I will be smacked...I don't like Smacks..."
When the child reaches the point where understanding is more adult then smacking becomes a very counterproductive punishment.
There we are, not very PC but hopefully not too offencive for the softly softly, huggy dubby all children are divine brigade...
2006-09-20 01:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by Zarathustra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Discipline definitely. As far as doing any good: I'm not sure. Personally I think I'd have been the same person I am today with or without smacking. Being shouted at has always worked just as effectively as smacking with me.
The one thing my Dad told me years ago was that it doesn't matter too much whether or not you smack, but it does matter that you're consistent. A kid who is never smacked might turn out a bit worse than a kid who was always smacked, but a kid who is inconsistently smacked (i.e. for the same offence sometimes smacked and sometimes not) turns out messed up. I think my Dad heard that from some research, but I'm afraid I don't know where it came from.
2006-09-20 01:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by Steve-Bob 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Smacking children should be treated as seriously as smacking adults.
Smacking adults does result in in a criminal prosecution because it is a barbaric act, one which is so uncivilised that it must be stopped.
Smacking children is 100 times more severe, because children do not have the same power as adults, therefore, not only is it physical abuse, but it's bullying too and both of these have a long lasting emotional impact on the child's well being.
Smacking children should be made illegal across the world.
2006-09-20 02:08:22 · answer #5 · answered by thebigtombs 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think if a child is being stubborn should be warned or cautioned and if they dont listen then most parents would resolve to a smack. this is sometimes affective. but some countries are so thick headed that they think if a parent smacks a child then they think the parent is abusing them and then the social care jumps onto them. this is not the case i think if you dont teach the child manners your not a parent and your not classified as one. remember there is a difference between child abuse and teaching your kid manners. if the government doesn't think that then i think they should take the child for a day and see what parents are going thru. don't smack your kids just coz they did something wrong they're only young try and tell them the different between right and wrong offer bribes but not all the time.
2006-09-20 01:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by zico 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can agree with you that "smacking" children doesn't seem to help. However, parents who spank their children after they have had a chance to calm down and explain to their child why they are being spanked have far better behaved children than those who merely discuss misbehaviors. I am all for positive reinforcement once bad behaviors are under control, but I think to reign in the bad behaviors initially, you have to cause the child some sort of discomfort. Spanking worked to break by bad behaviors, but for my brother, taking his favorite things away was punishment enough. Parent have to know their children, and they can't expect to be able to discipline all of their children the same way. I also don't think that you can rely on suggestions from other parents; you have to get creative and be willing to figure out what works for your child.
I catagorically disagree with people who smack their children immediately and in anger. That only teaches your child to be afraid of you and to hate you. If one can not take time to cool off before spanking their childre, that said person should find another way to discipline.
2006-09-20 01:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by katethefabulous 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It has to be done calmly and after many warnings or other techniques have failed. It is people who relentlessly paste their children for no good reason who pass on the the notion that violence is ok and damage their kids.
If you were to say "That is very naughty, you can go to your room and be quiet for ten minutes, if you break the rule you get an extra ten minutes, if break the rule more than three times you will get spanked and go to bed early" that is calm rational discipline.
I am more in favour of giving my kids a 100 words to write on why what they did is wrong and then come read it to me. We then discuss it, kids behave better if their bad behaviour is punished by wasting their time and making them think hard about the event, they hate it but they learn why you are angry with them and why what they did is wrong
2006-09-20 01:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by bumbleboi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Smacking? im in favour of it. i was smacked as a kid and it did me no harm whatsoever. children today are becoming increasingly aware of their 'rights' and once at school age, this attitude is brought into the classroom, making teacher-pupil relationships one of fear and dread. Children know they cant be hit for their wrongdoings and can so easily push teachers to the ultimate edge.so if they cant be smacked in the home and be disciplined there, where it all starts.....then we will have a nation of off-the -rail children and adolescents.
2006-09-20 05:22:16 · answer #9 · answered by melanie c 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Discipline - it worked for hundreds of years, until some idiotic do gooder says it's wrong - as long as a smack is only a smack - not a sadistic beating where the "beater" gets pleasure out of it - then it's abuse - but a good old-fashioned smack on the bottom works wonders
2006-09-20 01:14:23 · answer #10 · answered by ensemble341915 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋