Parent is paying college tuition and wants daughter to dislike family members parent dislikes; wants her to pledge, continue as a cheerleader and work full-time to pay back the tuition; give details of her whereabouts and hold secrets. Extended family witnessed a video where a BEATING took place when daugher was under 18. Parent was not aware of the tape. Daughter gets hit for having conversations with someone parent feels threaten by (me).
2006-09-20 00:51:31 · 16 answers · asked by Concern 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Every parent has the right to believe that- what they think is their own business; but to put it into practise????? Oh! No!!!
This young lady needs help. Maybe she doesn't feel strong enough to break away on her own. After years of such abuse, mental and physical, she may have become co-dependant to an extent.
You have to organise a family intervention so that she knows she has support before she can move on. But it also has to be done in a way that will support not embarrass her.
I suggest that if you are putting yourself up for the role of hero you get counselling so that you know how to do it right.
And good luck to both of you.
2006-09-20 01:05:25 · answer #1 · answered by Christine H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! First of all, NOBODY has the right to hit a child adult or not... being a parent means nothing. She is committing a crime if she hits, and that girl can report it. Secondly, no amount of tuition or financial support justifies her disgusting treatment of her daughter. She should get away from her and stay away, until she can stop being so horrible. Finish college on her own if she has to, but it will be more difficult. She's already been subject to abuse before... so she should get some counselling, get away, and live her life for her. She's lucky to have a friend that cares... get her to deal with this honestly. Good luck!
2006-09-20 07:59:14 · answer #2 · answered by JP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This poor girl has been emotionally and physically abused. It may be hard for her to get away from such a relationship because it's what and all she knows. My best advice is, now that she is of age, is to get her out as much as possible, so she can enjoy a little bit more of life and maybe come around eventually that this behavior of her parents is not normal, and that she has every right to get away from that.
2006-09-20 08:19:02 · answer #3 · answered by t.larae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abuse is wrong.
Discipline is not.
The line has been blurred by the media, so it's understandable that you can't tell the difference.
1) Mind yer buisness.
2) Mind yer buisness.
but most importantly,
3)Don't get in the middle of something you know nothing about. The consequences could be worse than the "beatings".
And, yes. We have the right to punish you until you move out and become an adult. :)
2006-09-20 08:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by kagetatewaki 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Daughter should move out. If she does not, then her parents may be right because if you live with somebody and don't respect their sentiments then it is wrong. I would also like that as long as my children are dependent on me and I am doing a lot of hard work to raise them, sacrificing my joyful time and money, then they should also talk to the people I approve.
2006-09-20 08:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by arooon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that parent is wrong, big deal parent is paying for college,she (the daughter) needs to find her own tuition (has to pay back anyway) and to break ties with the parent. its not worth it to be controled like that..
2006-09-20 07:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by badboy1962 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a Mother...And I would like to get these so called women in a room alone for about 30 minutes with me and about 15 other good ..decent Moms...We would stomp a mudhole in her a**..
She is using control, manipulation, guilt, shame, anything she can get her hands on to control you..Eventually you need to forgive her...dont hate her...but you CAN love someone from a distance!!!!! DO it when you can...get away from her, or she will control you forever...
2006-09-20 07:59:44 · answer #7 · answered by heresyhunter@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for the daughter to call the police and get a restraining order!
2006-09-20 08:00:04 · answer #8 · answered by Eat At The Y 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If daughter is 20, she needs to move out. If she wants to continue college, state funding can help her. She doesn't need that abuse!
2006-09-20 07:54:10 · answer #9 · answered by Mother of One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is domestic violence and if the police are called, Mom can and probably will be arrested. -OR- Watch the Mom call the police after she gets it handed to her by the daughter...
2006-09-20 07:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by Colonel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋