I slept with a guy for two days and didn't use protection. STUPID, I know. Now, he's not calling me back and I think I could be pregnant. I don't want to tell him, because he's from a pretty rich family, and I don't want to ruin his life or have him think I just did it on purpose to get money from him or anything like that. My first choice is to not say anything to him and just say that I got drunk at a party and can't remember anything, even though I know it makes me look bad. I do kind of feel wrong for doing that. If I happen to be pregnant, I'm in a position where as soon as I find out, I'm going to have to have a story to tell. I'm 23, he's 26. Both mature adults. But after he stopped calling, I emailed him and told him it's cool if he wants to be friends, but that I thought he was a nice guy and fun to hang out with and if he ever wanted to hang out as friends, let me know, and still no response. I don't want to make the baby suffer for him treating me this way. Any thoughts?
2006-09-20 00:43:09 · 24 answers · asked by loveygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First having unprotected sex, especially with someone who you may not even love is stupid you are right.
Go see and find out if you are pregnant. That is what is important right now. If you are you have to get in touch with this guy and let him know. He may be a jerk and not want to take responsibility for it but he has to be able to make the choice. Hopefully if he is a respectable guy he will play a part in the baby's life (should you have one)
I think that people need to make sure they love someone before doing something like this. I realize how great sex can be with someone but many times men and even women lead people on just to get them into bed and thats it.
Anyway I wish you the best of luck with everthing and please feel free to contact me if you need someone to talk to or have any other questions. I realize this could be a difficult time and everone needs someone to talk to.
2006-09-20 01:17:58 · answer #1 · answered by CJ B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you making excuses for this man? You both had sex with each other, it's not like you made him do it with you. Your talking about not messing up his life? Honey if anybody messes up his life it will be him not you. He made the desicion to do what he did and if things go wrong it's only because of his own choices. If you are pregnant don't feel sorry for him. You need to let him know and if he acts as though he doesn't care, you wait until that baby is born and get the child support you deserve if he's not trying to help. You should be caring more about yourself instead of feeling sorry for him and making excuse for him also. Tell me is he at home feeling sorry for you? Is he even trying to call you or even email you? No he isn't, and you want to feel bad for him? This guy used you for what he could and now he's disappeared. Pick yourself up and get yourself together and move on. Let this be a lesson for you to learn from. Don't beat yourself up for what happened and for making a wrong decision. Don't make up any stories either to tell him because he knew what he was doing. It seems you care about how he looks at you as a person. You don't need his approval.
2006-09-20 01:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a fling. Unfortunately things happen. In the best interest of your probable child, make your maybe pregnancy known. I mean . . . . get a pregnancy test First. Then take the necessary steps to ensure a healthy pregnancy if that's what you want. If not, ask for the support to end the pregnancy (emotional and financial). After all, it takes two tangle. Second, its stupid to consider someone else's need above your own in such situations. No need for stories. As an adult you face your mistakes and learn from them. The only story in need of telling is the truth. I had a fantastic affair that lasted . . ., the sex was worthy of a song, and the best part of it, I have a souvenir for the rest of my life. Who knows, this may be the only child either of you may have. From every experience, there is a lesson. LEARN IT!!!!
2006-09-20 01:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by Concern 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't start off with no lies tell the true from the start,,,,if u r pregnant tell him what ever he's gonna do he's gonna do it if u r pregnant r not,,,it seems 2 me that he's not feelin u,,,9 out of 10 u r not the only person that he does that 2,, and its unprotected,, oh my u need 2 be goin get check out for aids ,,,so that mean u not the only 1 he's havin unprotected sex with,,,girl if u knew how bad the aids is in milwaukee,,, u would have another thought about unprotected sex,, girl love ur life better than that,, forget that loser,,,,good luck
2006-09-20 00:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetpea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to find out if you're pregnant or not first. If you aren't, just forget about him.....he doesnt seem too into you. However, it is possible that he is just "playing it cool" and you are running him away because you have tried to contact him so much.
However, if you are pregnant, all those things like him being rich etc, dont matter. Because if you are pregnant, it involves him, and he needs to know. It's just as much his baby as it is yours. And if he doesnt want anything to do with a baby, he needs to help financially support it. Not that you need thousands of dollars, but you shouldn't end up having to pay for everything yourself.
Good luck!!!
2006-09-20 00:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by toad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People like you make me what to throw up my hands and resign from the human race. However this I know for sure...When you find out you are pregnant you better tell him because I would really be ticked off at you when you show up at our door with your bastard child 10 years from now and I am married to this guy. You have already screwed up two life, first yours and now the child's, no need to screw up more. Is this how you envisioned your life or don't you have a vision.. you just do what feels right at the moment, like an animal.
2006-09-20 01:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First find out if your are pregnant. If you ar ten you need to tell him he has a right to know. If you are not then move on with your life, and be carefull and do not sleep around as it is not safe these days with Aids and many STD's going about. Do not play with your life. If you are preg he needs to know and later your child would want to know the other parent. Use your head next time do not blame alcohol
2006-09-20 00:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by elb.leher1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're pregnant and he doesn't want anything to do with the baby, he still has to pay for child support ( bonus since he's from a rich family)
I do think you need to tell him though.
2006-09-20 00:46:40 · answer #8 · answered by Dahlia O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although this will be uncomfortable tell him if you find out you are pregnant because he does have a right to know that there may be a child out there with his blood running through it's veins. We have enough unwanted children in this world. But please do tell him and make sure he knows that this baby is his.But also make it clear that you are going to raise it by yourself and he need'nt be involved just wanted him to know he has a child out there.You can do it ,I raised 2 children by myself with no child support it was hard but I did it and you can too. Good Luck to you.
2006-09-20 00:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a child is a geat responsabillity and it s not just yours but also his.You dont have to deal with this alone! He has the right to know if he s gonna be a father. He may not love you but he may love his child. Dont take your child the right to know his father,because he will may not forgive u in the future. No matter how awfull things are u have to tell him. that makes u a responsible person and I m sure he will be thankfull that u tell him.Take care!
2006-09-20 01:04:37 · answer #10 · answered by lisa j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋