when i knock of and come out of my workplace five minutes late he says ive been with somebody it really hurts dat he does'nt trust me sometimes he will follow me without me knowing bout it and make up some things dat i went or talk to whoever, he is lying. he doesnt want me to go anywhere according to him im going to see guys, need help. he makes fonecalls outside or answer the fone outside
2006-09-20 00:39:00 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get rid of him!! It's only going to get worse. If you never believe anything again...BELIEVE THIS!!!
2006-09-20 00:41:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, you have a severely insecure guy on your hands here. You need to gently take him by the hand and tell him that if he doesn't stop this behaviour then the relationship will never last. Trust me, he doesn't enjoy acting this way, either, but it seems like he's reverting to a past point in his life where he was hurt and found the best way to keep the pain at bay is to be over zealous in watching over you.
Tell him that a relationship cannot grow unless he is willing to open his heart up and trust you unequivocally. It is not going to be easy but in the end it is very very liberating.
2006-09-20 00:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my...gurl,..u have a possessive bf on ur hands here..talk with him...tell him that all this is bothering u...if he doesnt change his ways he will leave u with no friends and completely dependent on him for any kind of support and m sure u dont want that...talk to him frankly ...or else..move on..he is a control freak..he wants to run ur life...
other thing u can try is start accusing him of things..and when he gets frustrated..tell him thats exactly how u feel when he does that!!
all the best dear!! tc
2006-09-20 00:46:14 · answer #3 · answered by v v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*sigh*
i've gone threw this with an ex of mine.. if i had to work late he'd be angry because he didn't understand that sometimes you have to work late.. and he'd think i'd be off at work messing around with guys there.. when i was working.. he was always accusing me of being unfaithful.. or that i was going to be.. and it just gets tiring and i'm going to say there is nothing you can do to convince him otherwise... and its probably not going to get better.. at least it didn't for me.. and eventually after way too long i finally got the nerve to leave..
so its up to you really if you feel like you can put up with his accusations.. if not then its itme to go find a new bf
2006-09-20 00:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, thats a little but weird to be honest. what id say to you is that he may well have a problem, something may have happend to him that causes this over paranoia. orrrrr there maybe something that he wants to hear that your not telling him. sit him down and talk about it, be blunt. or after all of that he may just be a complete control freak and you should get out as soon as possible. hope that helps xx
2006-09-20 01:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is controlling GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP NOW.. It will only get worse.. He's accusung you of something he's doing.
First he will start verbally abusing you, he's already controlling you, this could all lead to him hitting you..GET OUT NOW!!!!
RUN RUN AS FAR AS YOU CAN AWAY FROM HIM....Don't listen to him when he says he'll change, He may be fine for a few days, then back to his old ways.. Trust me I know from experience 18 years of it...
2006-09-20 00:47:20 · answer #6 · answered by Tracy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would bet my savings that he is doing those things that he is accusing you of. It happened to me. I thought my boyfriend was having emotional or pyscological problems (loosing faith in me like he did). But as it turns out, that is a paranoid natural reaction when someoen is cheating on you and lieing to you. sorry.... But you'll get over it or maybe you 2 will even work it out, who knows. Im not too sensitive on this subject. I thought I was going to die when it happened to me.
2006-09-20 00:43:53 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Ruby ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Control issues and stalking behaviour are two of the main signs of an abuser. Run, don't walk, away from this mess.
2006-09-20 00:44:23 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you say loser? Why would you stay with him? Unless you like being treated like a 2 yr old, I'd walk away and never look back!
2006-09-20 00:44:32 · answer #9 · answered by cinderjo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been through this myself and found out he was the one cheating.
So be careful as i was accused of all sorts then to find out after i split from him it was infact him doing it all that i was accused of.
2006-09-20 02:16:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd advice you ask him to give you a break, call it off, no love without trust
2006-09-20 00:42:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋