Hi..I'm an 18 year-old girl and currently studying in college.It's killing me rite now to keep this feeling inside so i'm gonna confess it here..I was raised single-handedly my my mom for da past 3 years..I guess that made me more exposed to a woman's life and their way of thinking..I had a couple of failed relationship with men,however i have nothing against them..Early this year,I met this girl at work while waiting for my exam results..After I stoppd working I realised how much I missed her and I truly cared about her more than anyone else.She's just an average 21 year-old but to me she's beautiful inside-out..I tried stopping myself from loving her but coz I act like a fool whenever I miss her,even in front of her..I also had a rough time focusing on my studies as my mind is constantly thinking of her..Every second,every day..Please,I know this is wrong, I'd never expected anything like this to happen to me..Is there a way to make this forbidden love stop??
2006-09-20 00:15:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
She does care about me and answer my sms,calls..and she's so nice and helps me whenever I need a shoulder to cry on..She's my best friend and we are so close together..We do hold hands and do stuff close buddies do..Quite intimate i must say..Hell forbids I'd get turned on everytime she touches me..Why is she so nice to me??Why??p/s-I do love men!!
2006-09-20 00:27:25 · update #1
Where there is a will there is a way.STOP yourself right away because this is wrong and not natural.If you think you can stop it then you can but if you think you can't stop it then you can't.
I tell you about myself, I strongly loved a boy but after getting engaged, I stopped myself from him. Initially it was really difficult for me.I suffered a lot.I felt strong pain in my heart even sometimes I still feel this pain.But I don't believe myself, it's been six months now I never heard his voice again.Though he called me thrice during this period but I didn't attend the call. I have a strong determination that inshallah I will be faithful to my husband and will never hear the voice of this boy again.
My fiance is not here and lives abroad and I have the full time chance to see this boy again and nobody would get to know about this meeting but no, I will never do so.
I have to choose between two ways, either Love or Honesty, and you know what, I have chosen Honesty over Love.Love is short lived while Honesty is long lived.
So you too choose Honesty on Love.Honesty is your commitment with God while love is the affection for this girl.God dislikes being gay.So you will have to restrict yourself from this act.Though initially it will give you lot of pain but bear this pain and soon you will be able to get over this un-natural love.
2006-09-20 00:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you were raised for 3 years by your mother alone does not constitute that you may be gay. Your mother also probably had an influence on you most of your life. Because you met a woman at your work whom you are attracted to for some reason or another, does not in and of itself, make you gay.
There must be some reason for the attraction. Perhaps you don't have an older sister or could be that you just need a friend. Since you have admitted your feelings that is good. Now what are you going to do with them. We can love a person, enjoy their company, even admire them, and can't wait to be with them again, yet that won't make a person gay.
I have a male friend whom I feel just about the same way about, yet I don't consider it an act of being gay. If you have doubt about your sexuality, I'd suggest an indepth Bible study. Also study books about sexual choice and compare them.
I will say that Jesus would be the best remedy if you don't already know him as your Savour.
2006-09-20 07:39:42 · answer #2 · answered by bro_ken128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Its not a forbidden love, And u are not gay. I'm wondering if she has qualities that u want or need, Its not falling in love but more wanting to be like her. U see we all go through this phase once in our life where we find this one person being our own sex or the opposite sex, that attracts us for who they are, I mean u are amazed in how this person is, Its just that some people can deal with it better than others, and some don't even notice, so just don't act now (believe me if u where gay u would have known by now). Let time take its coarse and be her friend, U know ur limits and u know what u can do or cannot do, so just set a goal to get through this and u'll see that it will fade away and all u will have for her is love as a friend that's all. Good luck , Things get tough before they get easier so hang in there.
2006-09-20 07:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just admire her? Hang out with her, get her to go to a club with you or something. Have a long conversation about a long list of topics you have written down. Tell her it's for a class. Once you really get to know her, you will probably not have her on such a pedastal in your mind. Ask about embarassing things, find out if she has any nasty habits, negative opinions, stupid mistakes, racial and/or spiritual views that are negative. If you dig deep enough you will find something that makes you realize that she's not all you had thought her to be. Plus, getting to know her will make her less of a mystery. A mystery has much allure. A person you know well is less alluring.
2006-09-20 07:21:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, ask yourself this. Why is it forbidden?
God? Jesus? I wouldn't pay attention to the lieks of the Religious, they tend to talk twoddle most of the time. You cannot 'choose' to be homosexual, if you are, as much as i cannot choose to be straight. Thats how you are, thats what makes you special, y'know?
2006-09-20 07:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by thomas p 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could give a long winded answer, but all I will say is 'Don't knock it 'till you've tried it'...
x
2006-09-20 08:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by F&S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
will you please talk to a parent, counsellor or minister right away for some help?? and I will pray for you too...Be willing to give another man a chance so your life can be normal with kids someday ok?
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2006-09-20 07:20:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋