Hi..I'm an 18 year-old girl and currently studying in college.It's killing me rite now to keep this feeling inside so i'm gonna confess it here..I was raised single-handedly my my mom for da past 3 years..I guess that made me more exposed to a woman's life and their way of thinking..I had a couple of failed relationship with men,however i have nothing against them..Early this year,I met this girl at work while waiting for my exam results..After I stoppd working I realised how much I missed her and I truly cared about her more than anyone else.She's just an average 21 year-old but to me she's beautiful inside-out..I tried stopping myself from loving her but coz I act like a fool whenever I miss her,even in front of her..I also had a rough time focusing on my studies as my mind is constantly thinking of her..Every second,every day..Please,I know this is wrong, I'd never expected anything like this to happen to me..Is there a way to make this forbidden love stop??
2006-09-20 00:07:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She does care about me and answer my sms,calls..and she's so nice and helps me whenever I need a shoulder to cry on..She's my best friend and we are so close together..We do hold hands and do stuff close buddies do..Quite intimate i must say..Hell forbids I'd get turned on everytime she touches me..Why is she so nice to me??Why??
2006-09-20 00:23:58 · update #1
Guys..I guess I'm just lonely..By the way I still love men..No doubt about that..I just need a way to forget her..Please..
2006-09-20 00:30:16 · update #2
i'm afraid not! and i don't think being raised by your mom was in any way the reason why you have feelings for this girl. i had little contact with my mom for many years and i am proud to be gay myself. try not to worry about these feelings you have for this girl they maybe feelings that you have for any friend. i love a lot of my friends but it doesn't mean that i am attracted to them. have you spoken to this girl about your feelings? is the other girl gay? there is nothing wrong in having feelings for a person of the same sex, it's what you do after-wards. ie. if you know you really like this girl and you do nothing and try to make these feelings go away then that would be wrong because then you're not being yourself. but then again you are still only 18 and it could just be a teenagers crush? try to concentrate on your exams you have your whole life ahead of you to worry about sexuality :) Good Luck
2006-09-20 00:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by pepsi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there's not really a quick fix. I have had the same kind of "problem" for 10 years now, in my case though it's a bit different, I'm bisexual, she's straight.
The pain I feel everytime I see her kills me! She knows it which doesn't help, because she's a tease! If you can avoid her, your feelings will eventually subside, but the minute you see her again they'll be back!
Good Luck.
If you find a quick fix let me know!
2006-09-20 07:19:29 · answer #2 · answered by g!rly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is natural to have feelings for other females. They turn out to be wonderful friends. How do you know you are gay? you are young. I was also attracted to and went with females in my younger years but later on I settled for males. You will decide this in time but right now just enjoy yourself and whatever it brings and dont worry so much about forbidden love.
2006-09-20 07:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by marilee w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to love somebody but does she love you the same way? If not you need to direct your love at someone else I'm afraid. I would focus on my exams and think about this stuff at bedtime. Don't let this stop you succeeding.
2006-09-20 07:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is loving someone wrong? Regardless of wether the other person is male or female, falling in love is not wrong. You shouldn't deny yourself the opportunity to love another.
Don't "settle" with someone for sake of going with the flow, go with your heart!
2006-09-20 07:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by Eat At The Y 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not going to be easy to forget her and it is going to be impossible to stop loving her, noone can choose who they love
why do you think it's forbidden love? no love is forbidden, love is the most wonderful thing in the world, give it a try I would say
2006-09-20 07:16:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel like you love her, tell her. I know its wrong if you are a christian, but what else can you so. You cant stop loving a person. If you feel like you just have to be with her, be with her.Go with your heart.
2006-09-20 07:15:28 · answer #7 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u juss wanna be best friends with the person but if u think its something more than follow ur heart
2006-09-20 07:11:07 · answer #8 · answered by chetchi90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can easily control yourself dear,is normal to get close to you sexmate because you share a lot n commom,always have it in mind not to go too deep
2006-09-20 07:29:49 · answer #9 · answered by Dutchie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is SO easy !
start LOVING ME !
LOVE ME instead !
then you'll know wats manwoman love is all about .
2006-09-20 07:11:32 · answer #10 · answered by always true & always nice : ) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋