Yesterday I caught my girlfriend secretly browsing my contact and SMS messages in my phone. After a long, heated discussion she promised me that she wouldn't get into anything such as my phone, PDA or laptop without my prior knowledge.
Last night she stood up because she was ill and asked me to log in to my laptop for her so she could spend some time on-line. I was already affraid that she couldn't resist to browse trough some files, and indeed, when I scanned my laptop this morning for changed and accessed files I found many personal files to be opened and few files to be deleted.
What should I do? This is the 2nd time within 24 hours that she does something like this.
"3 strikes - out"?
2006-09-19 23:42:14 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why is she doing this? Have you given her any reason not to trust you? I can understand that you don't want her to go through your things but it sounds to me as if you have something to hide from her? But, if it's just that you feel violated then I say move on. If she doesn't trust you now she probably never will.
2006-09-19 23:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's obviously worried that she isn't the only one you're dating. She's insecure. I had the same problem with my bf (I was the one snooping). What made me feel better was when he handed me his phone (and laptop) and told me to go ahead and look. He sat right next to me when I did it in case I had any questions about things I found. He knew I was insecure and knew he wasn't hiding anything from me. I did make me feel better cuz it showed me he had nothing to hide and I had nothing to worry about. I haven't had the urge to do it since. I know he's not hiding anything from me now. So that may be why she's looking. You can either do what my bf did or you can kick her to the curb. But my question is what's the big deal? You hiding something from her? If not, let her look with you there and it will make her feel better. If she wants to check it all the time, then you obviously have trust issues. Then its time to decide what to do. Good luck.
2006-09-19 23:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
weeeeeell, she sounds like she doesn't trust you... have you done anything naughty in the past???
if you have nothing to hide, then where is the problem??? let her go mental checking up on you and just sit back and laugh...
as for your laptop, get an external hard drive with all your important files and a back-up image of your laptop, in case she goes a little too far deleting stuff... :D
hell, if you really want to make it interesting, get some sexy pics and store them somewhere REALLY obvious for her to find and see what she says... and get some random female friend or friend of a friend to text you something very sexy...
sounds like she wants to find something, give her something to find... then see where all this is leading to...
2006-09-19 23:48:57 · answer #3 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself why she doesnt trust you. THen ask her. If she's still paranoid and you have nothing to hide-tell her she has free range to check out whatever she wants because you care for her. If you want your privacy though, tell her you're tired of her sneaking around and find out what the problem is. Relationships are built on TRUST!
2006-09-20 00:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by HumbleOpinion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like she has a trust issue with you. should she?
if not then just tell her straight you dont like it and thats that, if she cant accept it show her the door, tell her she wont be allowed to go on your lap top anymore, just because your in a relationship you are still allowed a bit of privacy explain that to her, in a nice way if you fight with her about it she is going to think you are trying to hide something from her.
2006-09-19 23:47:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if there's a trust issue here. Have you done something to give her a reason to not trust you. Sorry man but it sounds like your not being completely honest.
2006-09-19 23:46:51 · answer #6 · answered by Beth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a untrustworthy and lied to you.What do you think you should do?
My BF suggested that you put some really gross gay photos on the computer.That would teach her not to snoop.
2006-09-19 23:53:19 · answer #7 · answered by eva b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's your g/f she has the right to know what you've been doing or not. You have nothing to hide, seems like you do if you dont want her snooping around...
2006-09-19 23:51:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 strikes - out
2006-09-19 23:44:31 · answer #9 · answered by spyderman1212 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she going to use your stuff make a spert sigh in desk top. Just look on your computer you find how to do it there.
2006-09-19 23:45:45 · answer #10 · answered by Sekkennight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋