i just broke up with my bf of 4months about 10 days ago only because he was confused about his feelings for me. i still love him and i know i broke up with him, but he was breaking my heart and i had to protect myself. hes been the only guy ive every dated that didnt want to get into my pants, and he really respected me with my beliefs in staying a virgin til marriage. he sent me an IM last week sayin "it was awesome goin out with you and im sorry i couldnt stay with you longer" i want to know if he still has feelings for me, but i dont know if i should ask him or wat. i want him back so bad because i love and care for him so much. i was thinking that i should tell him how i feel but i dont know if that will put any pressure on him or not. i dont know wat to do and i miss him so much and i want the heartache to go away.
and serious answers only, im goin through i tough time in my life right now and this is only one issue.
2006-09-19 23:39:03 · 13 answers · asked by sarah_gotdance 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hey there
Sounds to me like this guy really loves and respects you.
You have decided to stay a virgin till marraige, good for you!!!
You say the guy is confused about his feelings for you - did he say that or did you guess it?.
Either way, do yourself a favor, ( and him ), and TALK TO HIM.
Tell him you still like him, but give him the chance to take some space if he needs it. This way its up to him to decide if he wants the relationship to go further- and gives him time to sort out his feelings for you.
But dont let him drag it out to long.
You may even want to give a time limit.
Say to Him "I really like you, and I still want us to be together, and I hope thats what you want too. Lets take a ______ ( month?) to work through our feelings, and then we can meet again and talk".
By doing this you are stating your feelings, while giving him the space to work HIS feelings out.
Im betting that the guy will be on the phone within a week, wanting you back.
And if not, hey, count it a blessing, and start to look around you again. Im sure Mr Right is just over the horizon.
2006-09-20 00:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by TOP DOG 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this is a difficult time for you.
All i would suggest is to take some time, a couple weeks, a month, a couple months. Because you just recently broke up you are still in a period where you look back on what was and make decisions without fully thinking them through. It happens during heartbreak.
You said yourself you broke up with him because he was breaking your heart. Well take some time, relax and then when your head is clear think about what it was that was breaking your heart. think about if you are willing to deal with these tendencies or if you think he is willing to change.
Its important not to rush back into something that you aren't sure about.
If everything is meant to be, the time apart will only make you both realise that you two are supposed to be together and that you both love each other.
Best of luck and please feel free to pm me if you need someone to talk to. I realize this is a rough time and everyone needs someone who is just willing to listen.
2006-09-20 01:37:09 · answer #2 · answered by CJ B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,friend! Dont lose ur heart!!Be patient.
Believe me,I did have also the same situation last month and i was really confused abt my bestfriends' feelings.It had been more than 2 yrs since we'd talked to each other, I also missed her too much but now everything is alright.If our relationship is now fine even after our separation of 2 yrs,Y cant' urs??
Try to talk him once abt it.Tell him truly abt all ur feelings and if u r his first love, I am sure u both will again reunite.
Coz first love can never be forgotten.
2006-09-20 00:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by Spicy girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me i just broke up with my fiance of 2 years, he does have feeling for u trust me otherwise he wudnt have spent time writing the im, if u broke up woth him, then he proberly still does have feeling for u, my ex still has feelings for me but in a different way by choosing a girl exactly like me and having a exact replica of our relationship and he still has all m photoos and tshirts, guys are mysterious but trust me if a guy is taking time to write hid feeling hes defintly has something for u
2006-09-19 23:43:16 · answer #4 · answered by vicky s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just broke up with my boyfriend of nearly 4 years. I'm feeling as confused as you are. I don't have much to say, other than you're not the only one in the boat. We will get through this!
2006-09-19 23:50:57 · answer #5 · answered by fenixfreak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen
just calm down
wait
wait for sometime before you make any blunder or loose anything
if your love is true it ll come back to you
keep yourself very busy now
dont spend idle time
in my relationship of two years broke up around 5times but still in
so dont worry
let time decide for you now
2006-09-19 23:43:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u had date with sn else?
it was ur fault coz u didn't respect him while he respected u at any time if u love him don't go out with others and be sure u can do it if u love him really.tell him that i love u and i want to be with u coz i think tat u r the one for me tell him that u respect me always and i'll respect ur believes
look!tell anything that is in ur heart plz BE STRONG
2006-09-19 23:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by N0t Known Never Ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you did it to protect yourself from heartbreak, good for you. but the way i see it, you are the cause of your own heartbreak. give it some time to let him work out his confusion. it was very mature of you to dump a guy who was unsure of you. if you still love him, give him a few days or weeks to figure himself out. seems to me that he still loves you, but only time will tell. in the meantime, do yourself a favor and date a little.
2006-09-19 23:42:38 · answer #8 · answered by Chelsea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hye dear.. come on.. if he dosent want you.. leave him.. stop thinking about him.. you will overcome his feeeling in 1 month.. involve in some good interesting activities.. if he still has feeling for you.. he will come back to you one day.. after all world is round... ok.. so go ahead and live your life
2006-09-19 23:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by Dhiraj G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him how you feel and clear things up.just let him know that you want him back and if he still said no then I guess you have to let him go.
wish you luck.
2006-09-19 23:44:39 · answer #10 · answered by Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋