Is it a bonding thing because of similar orientation? Or is it a trust thing that has nothing to do with orientation? Do straights tend to befriend straights? Do bi's tend to befriend other bi's? Do gays/lesbians tend to befriend other gays/lesbians?
2006-09-19 23:37:11 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Gee Mr. Wizard, I never thought of that!
No seriously, my friends are a mix of straight, gay, bisexual and transgenders. I make no distinction based on sexuality, rather on how well I get along with them on a more personal level.
People are people. Individuality makes life much more interesting.
I don't seclude myself from people just because of what they do in their bedrooms.
How boring life would be to have only one set of friends.
2006-09-20 03:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by DEATH 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Not in my case. I'm a straight woman and my 5 closest friends are 1 bi woman, 1 gay man, 1 straight man and 2 straight women. Among my less close friends there are gays and bi's too, although they are outnumbered by straights.
Sexual orientation doesn't seem to influence how well I bond with people.
2006-09-20 08:52:35 · answer #2 · answered by undir 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a lesbian, but all my friends are boys and they are gay. Thats just a coincidence though. The few girlfriends I have are straight and are cool with my choices. Sometimes it's nice to have people supporting you, but we don't really look for friends based on their sexual orientation. It's really a small, insignificant part of my life. My friends would still be my friends if they weren't gay, and vice versa.
2006-09-20 07:42:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had really never thought of it before but no I do not base friendship on sexual orientation. I am a Lesbian and have a wide variety of friends, as in the world in general, what would it be without variety? Boring lol
2006-09-20 11:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It bonded me and my best friend when we were kids--we both came out as bi very suddenly to a group of other friends. But I moved from Orlando to NYC two years ago, and my best friend up here is straight. As long as people understand that bisexuality is a real and okay thing, I can be friends with them.
2006-09-20 10:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I have a good mix of straight and Gay friends and I am a Lesbian, but I am one of those lesbians that was married to a man for a number of years so I am not sure if that has something to do with my circle of friends...
(yeah I played the straight life for some time... to please my family UGGG) anyway... I think we tend to fall more in our socio economical circal than in our sexual orientation circle because those are the folks that can "hang" with us and afford to do what we enjoy doing... and that way we dont end up picking up the tab for the other folks that are with us because they are broke... even thou we may not mind it every now and again.. it gets old all the time....
(just being honest... we all think about it.. we dont like to have to pay for our friends all the time)
I think we like to be able to not worry about money and we like to be able to play the way we like to play.. and not worry about sex orientation or money.. and if we are out to our friends... straight or gay.. as long as they can afford to play with us.. I dont think it matters what their orientation is..
That is why so many gay men have (excuse the term) "fag hags"
and well why it is not a threat for Lesbians to have their Men friends because their girl friends know they arent going to sleep with them....
Honestly my best friens are my straight guy friends.... cause I can cut loose with them...
but then I like my gay men friends too...
well Im rambeling now...
so I have to say I have a good mix..
2006-09-20 08:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by RiahWillow 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well im a lesbian and all my mates are either gay or bi but all my GF's mates are people she went to school with and they are all straight. i think it depends where ya mates are from eg have you been friends since school or did you meet on the gay scene or at work.
Because i dont keep in touch with people from school all my mates i met on the scene so there all gay or bi.
But as i was growing up in my teens when i thought i was straight or rather i was in denial i moved around from one end of the country to the other but no matter where i lived i always made friends with gay and lesbian groups even though i told people i was supposedly straight lol.
I Guess im just drawn to gays
2006-09-20 08:10:38 · answer #7 · answered by tizzy_em85 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I didn't' consider myself to be OUT, all my friends where straight, though I had many groups of friends.
Now that I'm out, I just added 2 more groups of friends.
Now I have popular/banal group, cool/easy to talk to group, bitchy gay men group and fierce lesbian women group.
The main thing is I don't really share much with any group because differences make a good friendship. What would I do with people that, think and act like me? Boring!
2006-09-20 06:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The majority of my friends are gay/bi, and we do tend to have alot in common. All my gay/bi friends are black. We, either, are DL or Closely Guarded with are sexuality. And we all had a hard time accepting our sexuality. some of us still do. we never discussed this stuff until we all were really good friends, but it did surprise me that we, somehow, came together to be friends.
2006-09-20 08:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by WoWed in Philly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think we make friends with those around us, and many people tend to be around other people of their same orientation more often. I don't see much of a tie between sexual preference and someone's friend's orientations. I have frineds all over the spectrum.
2006-09-20 08:52:35 · answer #10 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋