i think he might hurt me if he finds out b4 its done
2006-09-19 22:17:38 · 25 answers · asked by torilouanne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not that I know of. I believe that you need both signatures on the divorce papers to actually have a divorce. You could always move out and file one and send him the papers.
2006-09-19 22:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by LTD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't divorce him without him knowing. What you can do is make preparations to leave without him knowing. 1. find someplace to go - friend or relative's house, shelter, State Park, hotel, whatever you can afford or find 2. Set aside some money, cash. You will need this for expenses right after you leave. 3. Make a copy of every important document, house mortgage, insurance, birth certificates, diplomas, paycheck stubs, car titles, loans, bank statements, tax returns, social security cards, credit cards, 4. Store the copy in a safe place, like at work, with a friend or in a PO Box. 5. Pack a bag with essentials and 3 days worth of clothes. Leave this bag with a friend or at work. 6. Make sure you include any medications you take in this bag. 7. Back your car into the driveway and keep the gas tank full, hide an extra set of keys, leave the driver's door unlocked and all others locked. When the time is right, you can get away with minimal confrontation. Once you leave, take your name off the utilities. Find a lawyer. Your husband cannot keep everything that was acquired during the marriage. The law will not allow that. Even if the house is in his name, you may be entitled to some equity, but you NEED to talk to a lawyer.
2016-03-26 21:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tha VAWCI Law or the Violence against women and children is a an statutory act that provides the protection, promotion of welfare, serving the best interest of the women and children rights and priveledges.This republic act envisions to meddle in order to put the violence into end.There were various forms of abuses the likes of physical viloence as per stated in your case, physchological and emotional torture and disturbances, social rejection,exclusion and criticism, cultural and color prejudice and
other forms of disturbances that bothers the holistic approach of a certain human entity.You were blessed with a violent husband and even I could say your supposed long time partner.....The violence he gave to you is a strong and firm legal circumsatances that give you the reason to be legally separated,,I had said it's legally separated because there is no such Philippine Law enacted and ratified adopting divorce. The so called "CARIñO BRUTAL" showcased your problem.....With the aggrevating circumstances he shown as to the nature of your case.....There is a very strong proof for you to file a legal separation suit provided therefore that you are pretty and much correct of your alllegations...You should have to be firm in your legal endeavor in fighting for your right and for the future of your generations,,,The case of yours is not that I would have to say brutal because it doesn't reach to a point of committing henoius crime,the like of murder.... What a sole requiremnet that you need to comply is just to be confident, strong and firm in fighting your own fear....THE REAL PRISON IS PRISON FROM FEAR AND THE REAL FREEDOM IS TO OVERCOME IT.Before I would give my parting words let me tell you that just be confident with all the people around you and supporting you all the way.....I shall impart you this certain POEM:
I've got Flowers today.....
I've got scented and fresh flowers today...
It was not a special day nor my birthday
Last night, my husband punched me and kick me,,and even through me into the window
It was really terrible
On the morning He asked sorry from me
And that is why I've got flowers today
I've got flowers today
I've got a dozen of beautiful red roses
It was not a special nor our anniversary
Last night my drunk husband forced me to indulge into a sexual intercourse
I was so tired and sexually incapable
He punched me and choked me
It was really a nightmare to me.
On the morning He asked sorry from me
And that is why I've got flowers today
I've got flowers today
A beautiful asters and crysanthemum
It was reallty a SPECIAL day for me
Because it was my day of funeral
If I have just the courage and strength to live him
Maybe I won't got FLOWERS TODAY....
2006-09-20 04:26:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have papers drawn and sent does not mean he has to comply, you need to have everything documented, every phone call, visit, threat, take photo's if he touches you in an abusive manner, always, always have someone with you. If you catch him following you (stalking) write it down, the day, the time, the location, every little thing. Then get a restraining order. When it comes time to go before the judge for the divorce hearing give all of this to your lawyer. Be very careful and God Bless you...
2006-09-19 23:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by tuesday 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can get a divorce without facing him but you have to understand that the papers will get served to him, so that he can sign them. You need to get an order of protection against him. Also let your lawyer know what the situation is and maybe he can help. Meaning maybe he know some people with higher authority that can help you. You do need to get out though before someone get seriously hurt or even killed. Trust me my sister waited because she thought she could change her husband instead he became more violent and she killed him. GET OUT FAST.
2006-09-19 22:40:15 · answer #5 · answered by LuvAll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any proof that he is violent...family members have seen the bruises, police report etc....Either way, go talk to an attorney first (family law), then while he is gone, pack your crap and get out. Go to a family members house if that is possible, or temporarily go to a shelter for abused women...like that other person said, use the internet to find the names of places in your area, or they could direct you to one that is kept anonymous for your protection....If he is violent, when he finds out you want a divorce, he could explode, and you have to protect yourself!!!..You will probably have to relocate, and it will be a mess for a while, so get tough, and do what you need to do, you have a right to a happy life without being a punching bag for an immature jerk off!!!!!!!...Good luck to you sincerely.
2006-09-19 22:38:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to contact a solicitor and find out. I know when I divorced mine he had to sign the papers, which he eventually was forced to sign.
I'm presuming you won't be living with him when you divorce him? If this is the case and he doesn't know where you are I think they can serve a summons on him without your address appearing on the papers. Might be worth getting an injunction out on him just incase.
Good Luck!
2006-09-19 22:20:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is violent you need to get yourself out of there. If you have no family or friends that you can go to then go to a shelter for abused women. If you have children take them with you. If he is really violent a shelter may be your best choice because he won't know where you are. If you go to family he may figure that out and cause problems there. Once your safely out of the house file a protection from abuse order.
2006-09-20 00:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will still need to sign papers but talk to your atty and they can try and get it where you can be in the court room at different times where he don't have to meet you. or move away and then talk to a lawyer tell him you don't know where he is and you can place a ad in the local paper and if he don't respond to bad for him. and your divorce will be granted and he will be a no show. But get a lawyer preferbally one that deals with abused spouses because they r the ones that will be able to help with the suituation and know how to go about things. Good Luck
2006-09-19 23:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by hubbys2ndbest2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAVE THE PAPERS SENT REGISTERED MAIL, TO AN ADDRESS HE USED TO LIVE AT THAT YOU KNOW WILL BE RETURNED. THAT IS ALL YOU ARE LEGALLY OBLIGATED TO DO. ONCE, THE PAPERS ARE RETURNED. YOU ARE DIVORCED IN MOST STATES. AND, I HAVE TO BELIEVE, IF HE IS CAPABLE OF CAUSING YOU HARM. THAT IT WOULDN'T MATTER WEATHER, IT WAS BEFORE OR AFTER THE CAUSE. GO GET A RESTRAINING ORDER SERVE IT TO HIM AT HOME THEN HE HAS TO LEAVE OR VIOLATE THE ORDER. WHEN YOU ARE FILING THE ORDER PLAY IT UP, IF NEEDED, HE IS A MONSTER AND THREATENING TO KILL YOU .... HA S HELD YOU AGAINST YOUR WILL AND DENIED YOU ACCESS TO THE PHONE......ECT..... ECT....
THAT WILL WAIVE THE FILING FEE AS WELL AS MAKE IT VERY UNPLEASANT FOR HIM, IF GOD FORBIT HE DOES DO YOU ANY HARM. DON'T DELAY AND DON'T BELIEVE THAT HE WILL CHANGE. VOILENT AND ABUSIVE PEOPLE RARELY CHANGE. AND IF THEY DO IT'S USUALLY AFTER A PRISION TERM FOR SERIOUSLY INJURING SOMEBODY OR WORST.
GOD BLESS YOU AND GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-19 22:36:20 · answer #10 · answered by GBINJT 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋