Is an affair with your true love a sin?

Question

We met when we were young and fell deeply in love after a year of friendship. Circumstances pulled us apart, but never far enough so as not to still love and want each other even with other partners. We have both since married and I have a daughter. He contacted me and we met and made love. I ended it and told him that it was the last time we'd ever see each other. Its been almost a year and he's found me again and I find myself obsessing about him. His marriage is on the rocks and mine, although I love my husband, has never been very strong. I keep thinking of my daughter and how this would affect her not to mention my husband and what this would do to him. My family will be emigrating, which is why my lover and I wanted to meet up one last time, but I'm torn...please help me.

Answer 1

you are going to do a great mistake in your life, if you do the thing which is in your mind..
i suggest don't do that.
it is a sin, for an indian lady to think of other man after marriage

Answer 2

The story of my life.

Anyway the fact that you loved this man may not be a sin as you call it depending on why you broke up initially although I doubt that the reason is cause enough to call your love for each other a sin. However, the fact that you did break up & move on to marry other people who you obviously dont love is a sin. You dont get married in holy matrimony if you dont love one another & if you do, it is a sin. Then theres the adultery.. Noe you have already commited a huge sin & re reasoning is obvious.

I think that you know the answer to this question without anybody having to answer. You are thinking with your heart & acting on those feelings. Remember that no matter what hell you have created for yourself, it is not your place to drag down your daughter & loving husband with you.

Think about this.. What good will sleeping with your ex bring about? Do you beleive that you will stop loving him after the last time? Consider yourself lucky that you havn't been caught thus far & both yours & his marriages are at least still in tact.

What would Jesus do?

Answer 3

Hi,

I've been through a similar mirror-like situation like yours and my advice....4GET IT SISTER JUST 4GET IT, IT'S NNOT WORTH IT!!! I'll tell you why.....it's not love, its not obsession, its just plain adultery, its about the sex or how good you feel when you commit this lustful sin...I know you have feelings for your ex, we all do but their called **** buddies, people you can count on to have a quick wham bam thank you sir/maa'm.

Think of it this way, if you were happily married to this man, what makes you think your marriage wouldn't be on the rocks if he was screwing someone else behind your back and the only ones that ever suffer in these situations are the KIDS, the INNOCENT KIDS.....so grow up, face reality and let go, its easier to give up a living being but its harder to forget a person who has passed away.

My final words are don't ruin what you have, cause you know what your one last fling and all the ones prior to that will all come back in this life itself to bite in back in the ***...its called KARMA.!!!

Good luck and be strong...cheers.

Answer 4

i will answer the question "is an affair with your true love a sin"
yes of cos its a sin.from your story ,you already commited adultery and you need to be sorry about that ,if not for your husband then to God.You should have married the other guy when you had the chance to.since you both have different families now,stop what ever affiar that you are ahving with him.it is a sin b4 man and God.you know that its not fair to your husband.so do the right thing.

Answer 5

Pay attention to your family.Past is best forgotten.Just because you think that your love for your husband is not strong doesnt give you excuse to meet your ex flame.Work hard on your marraige.Remember marraige is a sacred institution.
Why should your family suffer because now after all this time you want to love some one else?

Answer 6

If u were so much in love,why didn't u wait 4 each other?U're making a big mistake by getting involved in an extra-marital relationship.Stay with ur husband,think about ur daughter 4 God's sake

Answer 7

loving your true love is your personal feeling but showing your true love in public where your own family is at stake is not the right thing. start believing that what ever happens it is for the best for you there has to be some valid reason for not getting your true love as your husband. And if you have started your family with kids it would be injustice with them if you ignore tjheir feelings now that you have grown enough learn to sacrifice your emotions and give your children priority

Answer 8

this is not a real relationship, its a fantasy ... the attraction is the danger of it ... in reality, neither of you is a prize, you both are cheaters ... no doubt the reason his marriage collapsed .... do you really want to be another notch on his belt? give yourself a reality check, there is nothing romantic about this guy, he is a manipulator looking for an easy piece

if you were really deeply in love, nothing would have come between you, you would have both made the effort to overcome circumstances .. stop kidding yourself

Answer 9

it is not a sin if both of u r not married. how do u know that his marriage is not working well. he might have told u to get u. u have a loving husband & darling daughter. stop this nonsense & be sensible . how can u believe a man who ditches his wife for another lady & how can he believee u when u r spoiling your husband's & daughters life for another man ? tomorrow if u find another man attractive u might go for him ?it was stupid of you to get married to another man when u were in love with somebody. now don't u think that u will become a disgrace to three families concerned.?

Answer 10

Well they say when it comes to love follow your heart and not your head. I think it would be a sin to stay in a marriage, be unhappy, uncommitted, when your heart lies somewhere else. Like most things, relationships are addictive. They’re comforting and consistent. They give us a sense of belonging and establish a familiar routine in our lives. That’s probably why so many couples continue in a lifeless relationship for months or even years before acknowledging its post-mortem condition.

Answer 11

it is a sin as u already have a husband. forget your ex-lover. u r his second hand, and if his marriage was not 'on rocks', he wouldn't have bothered about u. think of the lives u'll harm if u get on with it, urs, his, ur husband, whom u luv, ur daughter, his wife....is it worth it? y did he contact u now but not b'fore ur marriage if he loves u? ignore him, u have already made a mistake, don't repeat it again...
give urself more time and u will realize dat ur husband is far better than ur true 'love'. in due time, u will learn 2 luv ur husband.