What do you feel when you think about losing a loved one like mother, father, child, brother or sister?

Question

I feel very awkward & hope it never happens. Have you lost a loved one? How are you coping?

I imagine the feeling as being unbearable pain.

Answer 1

My father was killed in an auto accident and i miss him...You move on slowly, its hard, but you honor those who died by going on with your life and being a good person....

Answer 2

When you lose a close family member at first it feels like the bottom dropped out of your world.... You have a million things you want to tell them and can't... You find yourself picking up the telephone to call them and then having it hit you that they are not there anymore...

After a bit of time the feeling of lose begins to subside and you find yourself picking up the telephone less often you realize the world "your world" has gone on even though you didn't think it would...

You will always have moments when you want to share something or just talk to the person but those moments get fewer and farther between as you move on with life...

That doesn't mean you love and miss the person any less it just means life is always in progress and if you are going to progress with it you have to move forward instead of remaining stagnant at the point of the loss...

Answer 3

I haven't lost anyone yet, but it's inevitable. I think it makes a huge difference how they go, and how old you are. I had an ex-girlfriend who lost her father to cancer when she was about 9. She definitely had issues of abandonment - they had been very close and he passed when she needed him most. Throughout our relationship she suffered through depression and while I think she started to lose the depression, it clearly affected her life.

My current girlfriend lost her father when she was 31 (Its a weird coincidence - all my other gfs have had both parents). That was last year. He died under horrible circumstances - he was fishing with "friends" and water got into his waders and dragged him under. He drowned in water that was no more than 6" above his head. What's worse is that one of the ******* saw it happening but was too scared to jump in. He saw the whole thing but refused to help. So he died. My gf has adjusted very very well but I think in moments where she's alone she gets very sad, and angry. She's angry not only at the ******, but also at her father. The rational brain cannot control such powerful emotions.

In the end, we all lose someone we love. People deal with it through prayer, through relationships, and through time. Time does heal all wounds.

Answer 4

I actually lost a 4 year old sister suddenly to a sickness that doctors could not find an answer to. Basically, at the time it was hell, it has been nearly 11 years and my parents have still not gotten over it. We still celebrate her birthday every year and go to the cemetary nearly 3 times a month.. I dont think anyone can get over it.

Answer 5

I lost my grandparents (my grandmother in 2001 then my grandfather a year later).

They were murdered by their sons and daughters by means of passive involuntary euthanasia.

Yes, it is painful for me. I held my grandfather in my arms in his last moments before the death rattle.

I still remember from time to time what was done to my grandparents. In fact, I've even entertained thoughts of vengeance against their murderers.

But no, I won't exact revenge on my grandparents sons and daughters because Allah gave me something which has replaced all my sadness with pure joy.

My wife and my 11 month old daughter.

That more than makes up for everything.

Peace.

Answer 6

I lost my mom in March 2006, I am still couping with the pain of losing her. I know she's a better place instead of being in pain, and doctors don't know what was wrong with her, but anyways you have good days and bad and you wish she was there to talk to you. Even when you find out your father going into the hospital for operation in 6 months. you just have to go day by day. especally when you know family is gone. i have alot of family behind me to talk to when i need a shoulder to cry on.

Answer 7

i did lose my mother and she was just 46...we were involved in an accident and its taken my son and i 2 years to have any normality in our lives...maybe because she was the only other family we have or maybe its just the process of things...but it was horrific and its not something that i like to think abt because ur right the pain is unbearable...but u do have to bear it and u have to get thru each day the best way u can...its all you can do

Answer 8

I lost my father recently, you cannot put into words the feelings you go through, I am still trying to come to terms with this loss and I find it hard to accept that he is gone and I will never see him again.

Answer 9

Like missing part of you. It does go away but gets replaced my memories. Try and remember those close to you now. Next time they laugh or smile at you take a mental photos and hold onto it.

Answer 10

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