my daughter starts pre school today and i dont want her to go. she is standing here with her uniform on and i just cant cope she looks to grown up. i have four kids and she is not the baby. why do i feel like this i didnt when the two older boys went!
2006-09-19 21:16:09 · 25 answers · asked by A G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
its perfectly natural to feel this way you are a mom!!! your little girl is growing up!!! think of all the wonderful things shes getting ready to experience. my boys are now 20 and 23 but they will always be my babies in my heart!!!
now she'll come home and you two can share all the neat
things she did in preschool you will still have that special bond with her for many years to come!!!
2006-09-19 21:27:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be junior empty nest syndrome. But its sounds to me like you secretly fear for her safety. I'm assuming that you are a woman, as am I. Did you suffer any trauma at that age? Or did your parents divorce around that age? I was placed into foster care when I was 9 years old and my son just turned 9 a while back and I find that I'm worried about something similar happening although there is no basis for my fear. It feels like an "unlucky" age. I don't know. If you are a man, maybe you just want so much to protect her from everything and now she is going into a situation where you have less control than usual. Try not to push your fears onto your little angel. Her experience is different. Show her that you have confidence in her and that life can be an exciting adventure and you look forward to hearing about this new phase in her life. Its sort of a rite of passage, isn't it?
2006-09-19 21:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by starmoishe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are possible reasons:
1. She's the only daughter that you have.
2. You were the elder in your family of girls and it's your responsibility to take care you them.
3. You are totally aware that the daughter is about to join the big world which is getting more evil by the day. And leaving her in a territory where you have no control for 4.5 or more hours is unbearable to you.
It's a maternal instinct you're experiencing towards your daughters because you understand what she's going to face and I don't blame you. It's natural. A father experiences the same thing for his 1st born son.
Just be there for your daughter every seconds you have!!!
Hope this helps!!!
2006-09-19 21:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by The Elite Gentleman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard when your children grow up.
I have three children. My daughter is ten and I was excited for her on her first day of school.My son just started kindergarten this year and it was a lot harder this time.I think for me it's hard because I only have one more at home and he's next to go.
Then all my baby's are no longer baby's.They grow up way to fast.
If she is your only girl that also could be the reason.
You may feel more protective of her.I don't feel you favor her more then your boys if your worried that may be why you feeling
different.
2006-09-19 21:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by kandn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because girls in most cases are attached to the moms and vice versa. i think that you have this great, strong bond with her yet in your eyes she will always be a baby even when she is 20. i am 22 an dmy parents still look at me from time to time and treat me like i am 16 but then they have to realize that i am 22. i guess that even being the middle or eldest kid makes it hard-in your eyes you do want your daughter to grow up-this soon- and are afraid that she is growing up too fast. just spend time with your daughter since in the blink of an eye she will be 16 and then will start college.the bond that you share with your daughter is unique since most girls are daddy's girls.
2006-09-19 21:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You feel like that because she's your baby girl. Guess it's natural (some kind of detachment anxiety) but if you let that feeling grow BIG, now that's really wrong.
You wouldn't want your daughter Not to discover what great mind, wits, and talents she has. :) Right?
2006-09-19 21:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by Lindsey Azriel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL how cute, they have tiny little uniforms??? Well mama, suck it up and smile, wait for your baby to go then have a good cry...She is growing up and she is your first girl to go, mommys little girl...Pretty soon she will be going to college!!! Mine are in college and the last one just went into the military, its really weird not having them around....
2006-09-19 21:38:31 · answer #7 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems to me that you realy love your daughter. You are wrong in a way because you are shading her away from living life and I think that you feel this way because she is your first daughter and knowing how the world is brings on fear
2006-09-19 21:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by Kaylynn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uniform in pre school? I bet she looks to grown up. Try a different school and send her in normal clothes where she and you feel comfortable.
2006-09-19 21:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by kobe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Awwwweee!!!! Girls tend to grow up faster than boys do mentally so she's projecting that something that makes you think about the future, daddy! You ol softy you!
2006-09-19 21:21:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋