he gave up on our love and let go of me so easily, am so hurt whenever we broke up bfore he comes back to me in a matter of 2 weeks coz he cant live without me as he said, but this time its difrnt coz he said he wants to go on in his life and he is wasting my time, he msgd me 2 days ago telling me that he wants me to forgive him! how can i torture this guy and give him a lesson that am not a game whenever he's bored he leaves me!!! am hurt:(
2006-09-19 21:13:39 · 23 answers · asked by hawai_love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do not take him back, that will work...
2006-09-19 21:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will hurt for a while but you'll get over it.
Deal with the pain as best you can and then move on with your life.
Do forgive him. It will help you heal more quickly.
26 years ago I divorced my first wife after 15 years of marriage. She had been repeatedly unfaithful for many years and I had warned her several times I would tolerate it only so long and then would end the marriage.
It was painful. I needed two years to heal from it and in some ways I am still healing. But I moved on with my life and remarried and have been married 24 years. I have forgiven her--I saw that as a critical step.
Life does go on. But there is a process you have to go through and don't let anyone tell you to just get over it. That's not fair.
Hope this helps.
2006-09-20 04:24:26 · answer #2 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, stop doing it. How can you have a relationship where the guy thinks every time there is a problem he can dump you and walk out of your life. Then beg for forgiveness and you take him back.
Just how many times are you going to do this and accept being treated like this? You said he has done this more than once. He is hurting your feelings over and over again, but each time you let him and the cycle begins again.
Either you accept that things will always be this way, or you find someone else.
2006-09-20 04:19:35 · answer #3 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person leave you...consider it a blessing as oppose to a lost. Love is very elusive to say the least. You...now must move on. Taking revenge on him is a weak move. Your concentration should be on realigning your life for the better. Reestablishing your dignity and rebuilding your self confidence. As long as you concentrate on him it will drag you further and further down.
Don't let it happen!
I know what the hurt feels like. I've been there. With persistence and dedication to your self you will eventually get pass this and should emerge a better person. It won't be easy, but you must do it...for your sake. Here's a quote for you. "When things are not going your way, use it as an opportunity to show how much class you have".
2006-09-20 04:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive recently just had the same experience. and we had so much fun together when we were happy that i kept giving it another chance. But i know i deserve better then to only be wanted and cared for when it's convienent for him. And by twisting and turning and changing his mind so abruptly its not fair, and it just goes to show how much he really just does not respect you. And in not respecting you, he really just does not care. Hes one of those guys that wants whats easy, and he knows you will take him back so he's not so scared of letting you go. Just give it up. We spend so much time being miserable and stressed.. and because they change their minds so much we can't trust them.. where is the happyness in that? Leave this jerk and do something right away that you know will make you happy.. I jumped out of a plane and signed up for scuba lessons.. 2 things i always wanted to do. and it really helped me realize i can be happy without him. And i will never take him back again. sometimes good times just have to make that change into good memories and it's time to create new ones :) good luck
2006-09-20 04:29:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could tell him you will take him back and then dump him. But really, the best thing is to just ignore him and go on with your life. You see, the one that carries the grudge is not free, it is like a chain and ball around your neck. It doesn't hurt him, as he is not doing that about you. Free yourself, go out and find Mr. Right. It is better to find out now than later, after you have had kids and such. There is a soul mate out there for you, and it is not him. Accept it, and go on. Good luck. Time's a'wasting.
2006-09-20 04:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really give this guy a lesson so he will stop taking you for granted. Try to stay single for a while. Go out have fun and don't answer his calls or messages. If you do act like if you don't care and he will start feeling like if he is losing you. Maybe then he will learn to cheerish you and not take you for granted. Don't worry if you loose him that means you were never meant to be.
2006-09-20 04:21:09 · answer #7 · answered by CR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your game face on and ignore him. I have been there honey and it doesn't feel good. How you could be his everything at one point then all of the sudden you aren't sh_t????? Time heals everything!
But, the best thing to do is not give him the satisfaction of knowing that you care so much. Keep on trucking and let him figure out where he screwed up!
2006-09-20 04:19:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh sweeti..your just angry at the moment..why torture and get back at this guy when you still love?..the thing im trying to say is...hes not worth it anymore..hes not worth your tears..
i know you are hurt but remember..you r a strong girl...you aint a bed that your bf can come back to you and lay on you when ever he wants...remeber that you have feelings 2...
its best if you just let him go sweeti...i know its hard but eventully you will.go out with friends..meet new friends..just do your thing and in time you will forget and live on.there are plenty of boys out there 4 you who would love you 2 bits...
2006-09-20 04:22:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE STRONG! get over him, take up other interests and be with friends go out and enjoy urself and buy a pet or something, you dont want him and you dont need him or this shyt in ur life. its easier said than done, but u be strong and u can do anything u set ur mind to, and in the end you will be a stronger woman from the experience. you are better than this, set your standards higher! go gurl!
2006-09-20 04:19:10 · answer #10 · answered by oz_gurl2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same thing happen to me......I know its hard but just give it time. Being single after along time is really gay.....Just give it time and if he comes back keep the upper hand be like " i dun want you to waste your time on me ...tell me when ur sure that you wanna stay with me i cant take this... usually it might work otherwise give it time ....time solves everything
2006-09-20 04:16:35 · answer #11 · answered by eternal_soldierz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋