Husband is nice to my face but had a few affairs and looks at porn. I'm lonely and now like a coworker of his.

Answer 1

either stay in or get out, dont become a cheater just cause he was, you only cheapen yourself and what message are you sending the new guy? that you cheat? ... either put the energy into saving your marriage or get out of the marriage and move on.

Answer 2

so, are you wanting advice on this... you didn't ask a clear question.
I understand this situation all too well. It is hard to not fall out of love. You really have to ask yourself what you want.... and what you have at stake. If you have children.... and how best to care for them, in the situation of calling it quits or if you are going to work it out.

Remember people rarely change. If you want him to stop looking at porn, it is highly addicting and he most likely wont stop. Same thing with the affairs, he did it once, why not again.....

I understand the loneliness. Try not to forget to take good care of yourself during all this. I know how hard it is, feeling out of control and wondering if anything will ever change. The thing to not change is remembering who you are and what you want. Deep inside you probably know. God Bless.

Answer 3

It hardly seem that either of you are ready for marriage. I suggest that each of you take a long look inside...and at each other. Establish what it is you really want and are willing to sacrifice to make it happen. Otherwise the road you are now traveling is full of pot holes, heartbreak, miseries and disaster.